Quote Originally Posted by Barbara View Post
I feel if your husband just ignores Izzy- that may be fine. Cats prefer to find out by themselves.
Izzy may be more hurt by the new cat coming in. In this case it is important that there is plenty of room and that there is room where she can retire without being disturbed.
I like this idea. Try it! Have your husband sort of avoid her and see how she reacts. This may work. It's not going to be an overnight fix for her. Just be patient. It took my Mama cat a couple years to trust me into her finally jumping up into my lap for me to pet her. Cats like to do things in their own time.

Quote Originally Posted by isobel View Post
I agree about there being plenty of space. Rather than keep her in her room, last night I let Izzy roam the first floor while everyone else (including the new cat) was sleeping upstairs in a closed bedroom. When I came downstairs this morning she was very chipper and had obviously enjoyed having the run of the place. She seemed back to her old self, so I think this will be a new nightly routine. I don't think it solves the problem of her fear of my husband, but it will hopefully help make her feel more comfortable and at home in the new place so she is able to make progress with him over time.
This makes me feel good to hear. I know it is tough trying to cope with the way we are all so busy these days. Just make sure she knows you love her still and maybe take extra steps to let her know she is special.