I don't know, Donna, where your friend's rant came from. It just stuns me when I read situations like this; just unimaginable to me. I have many acquaintances, many friends, and several close friends. It is just unfathomable for any of us to have a conversation like that, so it is very hard for me to advise.

I have to agree there was grief involved and that had to be the basis. Try again to have a conversation later. That's all I can say. Good luck!