I am very sorry that your grandmother is so ill. But it sounds like this illness has given you a new determination to reconnect with your family. Plan a nice vacation to see the family members you haven't seen in a while. No sense in worrying about who made the last contact or traveled to see whom, just make your own plans to take your children to see their family. It is what you want, and it is what you want for your children. {{{Hugs}}}