Quote Originally Posted by 4 Dog Mother
I am very sorry for what your daughter is going through right now. It is a very, very sad time for all of you.

But please don't judge the mother too harshly. Having lost my son last summer, I can tell you that until you have lived through something like this you can not even begin to know how you will react. I am sure that some people that saw me at the funeral home too probably wondered why I smiled and laughed (Rob's was a closed casket though and I do think that made it somewhat easier). First off you are so numb, that what is happening is not real. You are also exhausted because you can't sleep and again everything is unbelievable. Some people brought up good and funny memories they had with Rob and you can't help but smile about those special moments. And at times, I had to smile and laugh because the crying and screaming I did at home was not something that I would want too many other people to witness. Death of anyone is hard but the death of a child is the ultimate pain - you have lost your present and your future - you will never be the same and the pain will never go away.

This girl's mother may have not been the best mother in the world but I can't imagine that she is not in great pain now and regretting some of her actions and words.

I will keep your daughter in my thoughts and prayers. At her age our friends are every bit as important to us as our family is. We tell them our secrets and our fears and our happy events and everything in between. And as Lobodeb said she may be feeling the what ifs and if onlys. This is going to be a very difficult time for her and I applaud you for letting her talk and cry and giving her the space from school and others to do it in.
I'm so sorry you went through that i could not imagine,about Vickie im not saying she did not love Alyse she acted like a lunatic she told all the little girls the graffic details of finding Alyse something my 13 year old daughter could have gone withought hearing also said how deap the cuts in her stomach were in my opinion she is out of this world i know she is grieving everyone has different ways but by the way she acted she lost all my respect.