Please say a prayer for my parents.

**shais_mom** · 05-18-2003, 04:17 PM

Prayers and thoughts going your way Anna
Have a safe trip!!

**anna_66** · 05-18-2003, 10:51 PM

Originally posted by AmberLee
Holding you all in my prayers. Have a safe trip! Any way you can drop us little updates while you are there?

concerned,
A.L. and C. & L.

No, unfortunatly they don't have a computer and live quite a ways out of town, but I'll try to let you know how they are when I get home (Thur night or Fri morning).
Thanks for all the well wishes & I'll give them both a big hug Molly

(probably lots of them!).
Talk to you all when I get home!

**KYS** · 05-18-2003, 11:14 PM

I am so sorry to hear about your parents.

Thank G-d they will be allright.
I will pray they both have a speedy revovery.

**Logan** · 05-19-2003, 08:51 AM

Anna, please travel safely. I know your parents will be so happy to see you. It might help their healing more than you know!!

I heard on the news this morning that there were over 300,000 bikers at Bike Week in Myrtle Beach this past week (10 day rally). Eight motorcycle riders lost their lives. None of them were wearing a helmet.

**Tubby & Peanut's Mom** · 05-20-2003, 06:29 PM

Oh Anna! I'm just getting caught up and just saw this. I'm sooo sorry!

I know exactly what you're going through! My parents were in a bad car accident about 3 1/2 years ago (Sept 29, 1999 to be exact). They were in a Jeep Grand Cherokee and it ended up rolling over into the ditch. My dad, being the stubborn old man (sounds like your dad might have some of these similar traits

) wouldn't wear his seatbelt. He was thrown into the back seat. My mom, who was wearing her seat belt, was left hanging upside down until help came.

We got the call Sunday evening. My mom had a broken knee and bumps and bruises. My dad, on the other hand, didn't fair quite so well. When I got the call Sunday night, they didn't know if he was going to make it or not. He had a fractured pelvis, cracked ribs, had cracked his head on the B-pillar of the vehicle and most importantly - he had internal bleeding that they hadn't been able to stop all day.

....so anyway, I keep getting off track....they ended up in different hospitals because they had to air lift my dad to a major trauma center in Duluth, MN. My one brother and I headed up by my mom as soon as we could (7-8 hour driver from Chicago). My dad's brothers and sisters went up to see him right away, so we went to my mom first. By this time my dad was stable, but not totally out of the woods. But he was really out of it because of the bump on his head.

...ok, the point I'm trying to make is, go now. If at all possible, go back when your mom has the surgery, but definitely go now. I see you're planning on going Monday. I'm glad because even though your mom might talk ok on the phone, and your dad seems to be ok, they need you right now - more than they probably know themselves.

I spent as much time as I could with them, and my boss was sooo nice and extremely accomodating which really helped. Now that it's been a few years, it turns out my dad doesn't remember anything of the first 3 weeks he was in the hospital. He doesn't remember the accident at all, and barely remembers that morning. I'm sure he's subconciously blocking it out, but I'm also sure that subconsciously he knows we were there. My mom was so grateful to have us there. If for nothing else but to distract her so she didn't just sit in hospital bed thinking about what had just happened. After they got home, I went up as often as possible (3 hour drive) just to be there and help however I could.

They both have lingering effects/pain from the accident, but are otherwise doing quite well.

Buying them helmets, or at the very minimum, stressing that they must wear helmets from now on would be a good thing. If we can get my stubborn dad to wear a seat belt (and we did get him to! Hooray!

) you should be able to get your mom and dad to wear helmets.

After I saw what a bump on the head can do - from inside a car! - I started wearing my helmt when I rode my motorcycle. However, just the whole experience of seeing them in the hospital, my dad being loony for awhile, and other various factors - I gave up riding my motorcyle and it is now for sale. I think the main reason behind that is because I know what I went through when they were in the hospital, and I would never want them to have to go through that if something happened to me on the bike.

It's all very sad, and I now just about break out into tears anytime I hear of a major accident where people are seriously hurt. I hope and pray everything turns out well for your parents, and they have no lingering/long term effects from the accident.

Big, big {{{hugs}}} to you. Go be with them. They need it and you need it too.

Sorry this is so long, but I tend to rattle on when it comes to my parents' accident. It was really quite the traumatic time for them, but also for me and my brothers and we're all still recuperating emotionally from it.

**captain** · 05-20-2003, 07:24 PM

Anna,

I have just found this post, and send you all my very best wishes and prayers.

In Australia, you can take a car or motorbike to an independent person to have them check it. Can you do that in the States? I would take it to an indep. person to make sure the conversion to trike bike was good (or bad!!!).

Let us know. My thoughts are with you.

**Sudilar** · 05-20-2003, 09:37 PM

Oh my goodness, Anna!!! I just saw this post now!! What a terrible accident. I hope your parents get better quickly. My prayers are with you and your parents. Sending a big hug to you and your Mom and Dad.

**anna_66** · 05-23-2003, 09:49 AM

I hated to leave yesterday, but I guess that's life.
Mom had her surgery yesterday, I guess they said that the bones were just powder in her wrist

She was in so much pain after the surgery they thought they were going to have to admit her, but she pulled out of it after about 7 hours in recovery.
Tuesday we went to the drs to have it checked & see if the swelling had went down and omg, she was in so much pain, that I thought I was going to pass out just watching her, I acutally almost threw up

I know, I suck. I just couldn't stand seeing her in so much pain.
And dad, what can I say....he's hard headed! They took the staple & stitches out Wednesday....well most of them. They actually missed 4 staples & a few stitches & dad pulled them out himself

I just don't know about him sometimes! He's actually healing very fast & very well. He always said his hardheadness would pay off someday!
Thanks for being so supportive everyone, I really appreciate it, I think all the prayers really helped!

T & P's mom~I can't even imagine what you went though. I feel so lucky that it wasn't worse. I'm glad to hear your parents are doing fine. I think mom will always have problems, and maybe dad too, but I guess only time will tell. Hopefully the surgery works, otherwise she won't be able to bend her wrist.
4 Dog Mother~I'm glad to hear your parents are doing ok now, & your right, you do have to "encourage" them to do things, even when it comes down to taking medication for the pain

MaxandSpike'sMom~You never know when an acciedent will happen. How is your mom doing?
tatsxxx11~Yep Sandra, she had the pins & rod put in yesterday & the put a giant cast on her again. She has to wear it for 6-8 weeks

And here, they even posed for a pic with their war wounds

I'd show you the pic of dads head, but it would gross you out

**mugsy** · 05-23-2003, 09:58 AM

Anna, I'm sorry your mom is in so much pain. WOW! Do you look like her. Your dad sounds like mine and like Mike! lol I hope they heal quickly. Thanks for the update.

**Cataholic** · 05-23-2003, 10:37 AM

Oh Anna,
That picture...they put on a 'happy face' didn't they? I am glad they are mending! Your dad is very funny, hard headed and all, and I am sure he will step in to help with your mom's healing.

Positive thoughts are on their way to them. I will see you on Sunday!

**MaxandSpike'sMom** · 05-23-2003, 11:36 AM

I am so glad your parents are doing better. They look pretty good considering what they have been through. I hope her broken arm heals well. It sometimes takes awhile for the swelling to go down. (Just remind her if her swelling goes down and her casts gets loose to call her doctor so she doesn't move her wrist too much)
And your Dad....Well, all I can say is sounds just like my Husband...(typical man!! (ha, ha)
My mom is doing much better. She had to have some more surgery and her ankle swells at times but considering it could have been much worse than it was. I just thank God she is OK! Thanks for asking!
We will still keep your parents in our thoughts and prayers for a speedy recovery!

**lovemyshiba** · 05-23-2003, 11:43 AM

Anna~
I'm glad to hear (and see) that they are recuperating. I hope your mom's arm heals just fine, and that she stays in good spirits. Your dad sounds like mine--he would have done the same thing

I will continue to keep them in my thoughts, keep us updated on their progress.

**Tubby & Peanut's Mom** · 05-23-2003, 12:34 PM

I'm glad to hear things are going relatively well. I sure hope the surgery works for your mom. She must have put her hand out to break the fall and her wrist took the major hit.

They look good though, seeing as how all this happened just a week ago.

And your dad sounds just like mine, ripping his own stiches out. That's funny that men are that way.

Right after my parents' accident, my dad was in intensive care. They had the breathing tube thing in because he was really out of it for quite awhile. Well, he must have been coming around some, because about 3 or 4 days after the accident he ended up ripping the tube out himself because he couldn't stand it anymore.

He was totally uncooperative and was constantly trying to get out of bed, even ripped the IV out of his arm at one point.

They finally had to tie his hands to the bed so he wouldn't do more damage to himself.

Needless to say he was not a happy camper about that.

I don't think he could comprehend what had happened and how bad a shape he was in. 'Course, we can laugh about it now, but at the time it wasn't quite so funny - 'specially to the nurses who were only trying to help him and had to keep redoing things. Thankfully they had the patience of saints.

Continued prayers going out for your parents full recovery and hugs to you.

**slick** · 05-23-2003, 01:24 PM

Thanks for the update. Your parents look quite well, considering. But then I guess you too would put on a happy face if you knew your picture was going on the Net. You must be so relieved, in a way, that hopefully the worst is over and now they can concentrate on healing. Continued prayers coming your way always.

PS: My Dad, God rest is sole, was a subborn old cuss and he would have done the exact same thing by taking out the staples. Must be a "man" thing.

**carole** · 05-23-2003, 04:48 PM

What a nice looking couple they make, i am so pleased they are ok, sounds like they went through a rough time though. and you as well, lets hope they are well on their way to mending now.