The frustrations of needy, clingy men!!

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Link.

[Karen]

You should see the one poem he wrote me (yeah... a poem), it has something in it about thinking of how I would be as his WIFE.

Aww, that reminds me of my friend Phillip - I had to convince him giving a woman a poem proclaiming undying love after one date was NOT appropriate. He did it anyway, and that relationship ended - no surprise!

By the way, Phillip did eventually learn, and got married for the first time about 6 months ago to a lovely woman.

[jennielynn1970]

Link.

LOL! Thank you!!! I needed that one!

[Marigold2]

This guy sounds like a stalker. Scary. Also are you sure that everything he told you is the truth? Maybe he hasn't been 100% honest with you.
I would run from him and yes report his actions to facebook pronto.
What ever happened to meeting a hot guy in a bar? I miss those days. The music, the dancing, eye contact, that first smile, the way they smelled and the way it felt when they held me close to them while dancing. Can't get that on-line. Ah memories like the corners of my mind, sing it Babs.

[Catlady711]

Being the suspicious person I am, I would never, every give anyone my real email addy, full name, phone number or address to anyone I met online and have not talked to for less than one year. After one year if I think they are ok I may give them my real regular email addy instead of the freebie (so far only 4 people have ever gotten that).

As for meeting people from online, only after talking with them for at least a year with no red flags, and meeting during the daytime in a very public place (I've done that a couple times). Even then they don't get my last name, address or phone number until I've met with them many times in person in public places (so far none have gotten that info).

I'm probably overly cautious about it, but there are alot of sick people out there and for all I know the story they give about themselves could be made up, and the pix could be of someone else entirely. Granted stuff like that is not overly common, but the fact it, it does happen, and I'd rather miss out on meeting people that I may like, than be stalked by a wakko.

If this guy is giving you red flags, and reacting that badly over calling off sick, I'd say ditch the guy, change your phone number, change your email/IM addy, and find someone else more cautiously.

[IRescue452]

I don't know if your state has open court records, but in wisconsin you can look up a criminal record of anybody in the state. It gives you everything from traffic tickets to felony crimes.

[K9karen]

ACK! ICK! YUK!

He sounds like a poor lonely soul, who unfortunately velcroed himself to sweet, loveable, funny you. (compliment)

The scary part is his reaction to your cancellation! My first impression was that he was putting the guilt on you, which is a sign of a great manipulator.

Let's have a contest how many excuses we can think up. I can send you my leg cast when it comes off. My bad. That's mean.

If you decide to change your email or IM addresses. let me know.

[jennielynn1970]

My email and my AIM are staying. As is my phone number. I did check with Vonage, and they don't have a number block, but he hasn't called since I gave him an earfull this afternoon. Whew.

[wolf_Q]

I have the opposite problem...men don't want anything to do with me. That is umm yeah...creepy...I'd stop talking to him if I were you.

[ramanth]

Glad you cancelled the "date" and I hope you feel better soon.

You might get a kick out of this...

Psychotic Letters From Men

[jennielynn1970]

Glad you cancelled the "date" and I hope you feel better soon.

You might get a kick out of this...

Psychotic Letters From Men

OMG... that site is a riot!!!!

[Catty1]

I went and read the 4 page contract that the psycho husband wrote up for his wife (she never signed it).


Glad you got away from that creep, Jenn. Does he know where you live?

[ramanth]

OMG... that site is a riot!!!!

Thought you might like that.

Needy and Clingy? Yikes!

[kitten645]

To quote Monty Python...RUN AWAY..RUN AWAY FASTER!. Nothing is worth this aggrevation. He has issues/baggage. You don't need anything like this in your life. Stay strong sista..there are normal/nice guys out there. Never second guess your instinct. It gets alot of women in trouble or worse
Claudia

[lvpets2002]

Good Girl for Canceling.. This is why my door stays closed more than open (if you know what I mean).. I am so with what Donna said.. Go by your gutt feeling & if its not right then Dump the Dude & dont look back..

I did cancel for today. Part of me sees an ex-boyfriend's behavior in him. If he's like this and we haven't even met, what would he be like if we dated??? Possessive?? Abusive?? I don't want to ever be in that situation again.

Ugh. He seemed normal. For a while. I know he needs to get out. He needs to do more things and be more social. I know he hasn't been able to the past few months because of the surgery he had and the open wound he has healing from the ulcer. He just got so clingy so fast! He's a big guy too, 6'3" and muscular, so strength is on his side as well. It just scares me when I see this kind of emotional reaction from a guy like that.

As for my assistant, she said she thinks he's a good guy! She says "Awe Jenn, he really likes you." Um... what, for dinner??