Gonna be an EXPENSIVE new year!

[jennielynn1970]

She is 100% classic BPD.

It breaks my heart to learn the truth about her and the disorder because there's nothing you can do to "cure" BPD. Medicines don't do much because its as if they are robots; they don't know what to feel or how to feel. They think they do, but they are incapable of it. They thrive on making trouble and ruining other relationships. They are often highly intelligent because they have to be one step ahead of everyone else. They are often very good looking and charming when you first meet them.

Sadly, this reminds me of someone else who had been on pet talk who hasn't been seen or heard from lately. Another one who needs help but refuses to get it, or just gets what she wants out of the docs and then flips out when she feels no one is helping her the way she wants to be helped. I miss her, but I feel much less stressed with her out of the picture.

[moosmom]

Amen, Jenn!!!

[moosmom]

I don't envy you but I admire your courage and strength

You are one strong person, Kim. If all the crap you've been through didn't dampen your spirits, I say you've made it. You're a stronger person than I am. Your "tough love" and your commitment to Grant are to be commended. Have a wonderful, peaceful Christmas!!

[kimlovescats]

You know that I for one know exactly what you are going through. I hope and pray that Ashley will learn and grow once she moves out but you also know how many times my daughter kept coming back and forth. I think we finally have made it clear that she can't do that anymore. It breaks my heart but she refuses to get the help she needs or stay on her medication. EVEN WHEN IT WAS FREE!!!! THAT is where it is frustrating .... the illness is not her fault but you can only help a person as much as you can, then they HAVE to realize they need to help themselves. My daughter is still mooching off of everyone she can find, and although she loves her baby girl, she is nowhere near to trying to make a life for them together.

My heart goes out to you all, Kim!

[carole]

Kim i think you have been to hell and back with this young lady, and I am sorry you have been under so much stress,but I am so happy for you that she is finally making the move,and you have been so good to her, better than she deserves by the sound of things, I do have empathy for her too, but wish she would see that she has an illness and get the help she so needs, maybe with maturity she may well see this herself one day, hugs to you both and I hope that life will be better from now on.

[Twisterdog]

they don't know what to feel or how to feel. They think they do, but they are incapable of it. They thrive on making trouble and ruining other relationships. They are often highly intelligent because they have to be one step ahead of everyone else. They are often very good looking and charming when you first meet them.

Yikes ... that sounds EXACTLY like my sister.