I knew this would happen..

[Husky_mom]

I´m so beyond PO..

so my MIL called me to tell me.. "why don´t you leave the kid with us?".. ok.. seriously what??!!.. well... because he´s MY kid.. why would I even think of that?...

it´s not like they are not seeing him.. or won´t be seeing him.. I told her my "plan" was for him to go to school all week.. then on the weekend he could go sleepover there.. so they also had time with him.. IMO sounds reasonable..

well.. yesterday they offered to take him for ice cream and a much needed haircut.. I agreed.. when they came back.. my boy asked me if he could stay over there that night.. I agreed again.. as long as he had finished his homework.. he did..

so today they took him to school.. everything was "ok".. until recently when I got a call from my FIL.. saying that he already asked for what he wanted to eat today.. so I assumed he meant he was just eating with them.. but then asked some clothes for him for tomorrow as he´s staying with them again and said "so he doesn´t gets confused".. confused??.. why would he be...

I really don´t get these people.. but then again I don´t wanna fight with them for all we´ve been lately.. but come on.. I really find no reasoning behind this... at all..

I understand if they want to spend more time with him.. but he has a mom.. and has a routine to follow (school, homework, sleep early, etc).. then on weekends he can go over and get spoiled.. is that too hard for them to comprehend?.. apparently so..

I know if my hubby was here.. he´d back me up.. I without any doubt know it..

since forever they also asked him to "give" him up to them.. really??!!.. why would any of us would just give our kid to them just like that.. no way!!.. no way!!

I´m gonna have to step up and suck it up..when they come for clothes I´m gonna have to say no.. sorry but no..

oh man.. why does it ever gets this tough with inlaws...

[Sonia59]

I understand you and I think I would react exactly the same way. I would also say no. You are his mom, there is no reason you can suddenly not take care of him anymore.

[Karen]

Tell them you know they miss their son, but as you recently lost your husband, and your son lost his father, you'd rather not disrupt his life more by leaving him with them. Keeping a regular routine is important for children, and you would like to do that as much as possible. And when the baby arrives, it will be important for him to be home to get to know his new sister, as he will be a way for her to learn about their father.

[DJFyrewolf36]

Tell them you know they miss their son, but as you recently lost your husband, and your son lost his father, you'd rather not disrupt his life more by leaving him with them. Keeping a regular routine is important for children, and you would like to do that as much as possible. And when the baby arrives, it will be important for him to be home to get to know his new sister, as he will be a way for her to learn about their father.

I couldn't have said it better. *Hugs* Sorry people are making it harder for you.

[moosmom]

What Karen said.

Hang in there, girl! You and your family are in my thoughts in prayers.

[Freedom]

Oh Isabel, I am sorry you have to cope with this as well.

Yes, just stand firm in your plans. Not easy, I am sure.

[phesina]

I am so sorry, Isabel, that you and your son now have to deal with this on top of everything else.

You are absolutely right, and I join everyone else in encouraging you to stand firm in your plans. I thought Karen put the reasons why very well in a firm but tactful way to make your point.

God bless you all, including your in-laws, because you are all going through a great deal of pain.

Love from Pat (and cats)