I'm going to be an Aunt!!!! Need advice too...

[Momto4FemaleFelines]

I think you just need to be there for your sister in whatever way YOU feel comfortable in being there for her.
Try to be neutral about the father.
And don't put 100% trust in the fact the fathers parents seem cool....Do the stuff legally...get the child support papers or whatever will be needed started on now.

[king2005]

I think you just need to be there for your sister in whatever way YOU feel comfortable in being there for her.
Try to be neutral about the father.
And don't put 100% trust in the fact the fathers parents seem cool....Do the stuff legally...get the child support papers or whatever will be needed started on now.

My sister will never talk to me again if I send her legal papers this soon, nor will she be able to handle it mentally (this is the big issue). I spoke to dad today to give him a heads up, & to make sure he's on board with me... Be positive & supportive about it, no matter how we feel about the situation.

Dad agrees & will keep quiet until she tells him (my dad is crazy understanding & the best dad out there) Dad wants me to keep on top of this, as I'm the only person my sister shares her skeletons with (which I didn't know until a few mins ago, as I said something that my dad had no idea of.. oops)..

so when doo doo hits the fan I have to be the one to jump in with the word lawyer to get the ball rolling... She wont listen to dad on most things, but she listens to me on just about everything (what dad said today), so dad is sure she'll be ok as long as I call her every few days to keep tabs on everything. So if doo doo starts to fly I'll be able to catch it right away & start the lawyer side of things asap.

Its so weird feeling happy, protective, & this cautious all at once... damn...