Prayers Please

[sirrahbed]

I would very much appreciate prayers for hubby Dennis (Sirrahned). He left last night for Texas, after we got the phone call that his father was in the process of "actively dying" and on 24 hour hospice care. It is not a surprise as we knew his cancer was advanced. We are not sure how long he will need to be there. Dennis is the calm and stable sibling out of five.

One daughter has given up her job and given most of her time to care for her dad and it is Dennis's desire to turn over the executorship to her - but it may not go over well with the other family members.

I spoke with the hospice nurse yesterday afternoon and his dad is certainly in the active phase of his death - kidneys have shut down, mottled hands and feet, comatose with no response to deep pain, Cheyne-Stokes breathing, etc.

To those who pray - thank you very much!!

[DJFyrewolf36]

I'll be praying for him and his family!

[kimlovescats]

Oh Debbie, how very sad. I will certainly pray for Dennis, his father and family at this very difficult time.

(((HUGS)))
Kim

[trayi52]

Oh, Debbie, I'll certainly be praying for Dennis and his family. So sorry.

Willie

[catnapper]

Prayers to Dennis and the family!

This is such a trying time for everyone. May they have peace while they prapare for the funeral and afterwards.

[Tonya]

I will be praying for him and your family during this difficult time.

[sirrahbed]

I do appreciate the prayers. Since being with my own mom at her death three years ago - my own perspective has changed so very much and I appreciate the approach that hospice takes. I can certainly say that my mother's death was very peaceful and beautiful - welcome. I was alone with her - head on her pillow and talking into her ear, telling her that we would all miss her, but that I was there to help her die and would stay with her.

The family of my FIL is very divided and not at all calm. This is where the prayer will be needed. The daughter who is closest needs peace and calm in order to help her dad die. I talked quite awhile with her yesterday. Hospice will also help I know. This same hospice and staff was also present when Dennis's mother died - about the same time as my own mom. They know the family. Death needs to be dignified and calm - not to be feared. It is such a natural process and can be so very peaceful and wonderful when a person is old and sick - ready to leave - as is Dennis's father.

Thank you all very much!

[KYS]

Sending prayres for you, hubby and the family.
(((hugs)))

[rosethecopycat]

Prayers for this man to have the peaceful passing he deserves.

I went through the same thing with my father in our house for 6 months and Hospice was at my side.
My father was 'actively dying' for 11 days. Tough guy.

It is a hard thing to witness, but they need your strength.

In my prayers...


Rose

[Laura's Babies]

Many, many, many prayers for Dennis and his family. Tell Dennis we are all thinking about him and sending prayers. (((Dennis))))

[Logan]

Debbie, I will pray for a peaceful passing for your Father In Law (Love), and for Dennis and his sister as they get through this. I'm so sorry that this is happening, but Hospice is a great service, and I'm glad they are involved.

Logan

[lizzielou742]

I will keep you guys in my thoughts. My grandfather also passed peacefully through hospice care. It really is a wonderful service hospice provides. Hope your FIL's family will get through this OK.

[teenster3]

Debbie,
You will be in my thoughts as I'm not very good at the whole prayer thing.
The words "actively dying" as you & Rose have mentioned sounds so VERY sad! I don't know how you 2 dealt with this in your life, but I don't know how I could possibly do that if my own father was going through it!
Best wishes to you in this sad time!!!!!
Tina

[robinh]

I am glad that Hospice is involved. It is a wonderful organization. They helped when my mom and my two brother-in-laws died. I won't say it was easier, but they helped ease some of our fears and concerns.

Prayers for you, your husband and his family.

[jazzcat]

Debbie, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm not familiar with how hopsice care works and I've never heard the term "actively dying" but I agree that peace and calm are needed. I'll keep you, Dennis and the family in my thoughts and prayers.

(((HUGS)))