Girl or Guy friends?

[G.P.girl]

do you have mostly girl freinds or guyfriends that you hang out with? i have mostly guy friends because i think the girls at my school are to in to who's popular and who's not and who's pretty and who's not. it gets really annoying. plus being on the football team i can't help but have guy friends. so pick if you are a boy or girl and pick what friends you mostly have.

[2kitties]

I'm a girlfriend girl. Always have been. I love to shop and have girl talk. I am certain at this point I will never grow out of it.

[micki76]

My best friend is a man. His wife is extremely jealous of our friendship, but she has no life outside of him and should get out and get one. My husband’s best friend is a woman, so obviously he and I are comfortable with each other’s choices with friendships.

I have always had more male friends, even since I was about 5 or 6. I just get along better with males. Not that all women are drama queens, but I find that generally men are more straight forward in almost everything. I relate much better to men and their way of thinking and have been told my entire life that I tick like a male.

[Barbara]

I have both: guy friends and girl friends. It was always like that

[slick]

Originally posted by micki76
My best friend is a man. His wife is extremely jealous of our friendship, but she has no life outside of him and should get out and get one.

I here ya!! I used to have guy friends who were married, but all I got was grief from the wives because I'm single and they all thought I was after their husbands.

So now I stick to women (for friends, that is...)

[2kitties]

I'm not sure how I would feel if my husband's best friend were a woman. I'd like to think I could handle it, but I feel certain my jealousy would come out that he could feel so close to another woman. Maybe if it were a woman he'd known for years. But I def. wouldn't be happy if he went out and made a new best friend who was female.

[Soledad]

I like friends who are funny, smart and unique. I don't really give a crap what their gender is.

[ILoveReptiles]

I personally prefer the friendship of guys - but I have a few girl-friends who are way cool.

Most chicks are downright catty though. I have no tolerance for that.

[Cataholic]

UGH. I can't help but get irritated about this topic...not that it was posted, but, this topic has always been an issue for me.

I have friends that are both genders. I don't necessarily feel more comfortable with one vs. the other, on whole. I have always enjoyed PEOPLE.

I don't find myself 'catty', or non-straight forward. I tend to hang out with people that are like me...so, maybe it isn't so much that most women are XYZ, but, more most women YOU associate with are XZY.

And, I don't know how I would feel if my SO was 'best friends' with a woman. Good friends? Close Friends? Sure...'best' friends? In my ideal world, I would be his 'best' friend....maybe it is just semantical....I don't know.

I don't think ANY of my close woman friends care/are jealous of my relationships with thier mates. In fact...some of them prolly like that I hang out with 'him'...gets him out of her hair! Seriously, while I might have started out friends with 'him', when she came along, the relationship naturally grew to include her. It wasn't an either/or situation, but, more of INCLUSIVE thing.

[Soledad]

I gotta say, the only people I really make a point to steer clear of are the chicks who say "I don't like having female friends." In my experience that has been a big, giant, red flag for "I'm really insecure around females and must have male attention with zero competition."

No thank you!

Also, my husband has far more female friends than male. Do I care? Not at all. What I DO care about are women who are competing to have more intimacy (not necessarily sexual) than I do with my own husband. I don't think any healthy marriage can allow that and I don't think it's wrong for a partner to speak up if they feel that is being threatened.

[2kitties]

Here is something I do take seriously: We have our "couple" friends and that is healthy, fun and necessary for us. BUT, I think it is soooo important that we also have "non-couple" friends. I have women with whom I enjoy things outside of a doubledate situation. As does he.
Having interests and friends outside the relationship is good for us. Not sure if it is good for everyone, but it is imperitive for us. I also take vacations with my girlfriends on a regular basis.
We've talked about how important it is for both of us and I'm very happy about that.

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by Soledad
I gotta say, the only people I really make a point to steer clear of are the chicks who say "I don't like having female friends." In my experience that has been a big, giant, red flag for "I'm really insecure around females and must have male attention with zero competition."

No thank you!

I must admit this is my feeling as well. I don't think I could have said it any better than had I written it myself.

[popcornbird]

I'm a girl with all girl friends. I feel there's so much more in common between me and other girls, and I love to be able to talk *girl talk* with no guys around...............something I *need* to do with my friends because I have no sisters to talk *girl talk* with. He he he

I don't exactly feel comfortable around the opposite gender either. I would never be *alone* with a guy that's not related to me...........but that's just me. I like having girls as friends.

[Toby's my baby]

Im pretty much inbetween because at my school EVERYBODY knows EVERYBODY . We only have 1 kindergarden class of 13, 1 1st grade class of 6, ect. I know a lot of girls and also a lot of guys ( it's hard not to )

[Logan]

I imagine that age has a lot to do with the answer to this question.

I want my daughter to have boy "friends", not boyfriends! And she does. I'm so glad about that.

I have had many male friends in my life, especially when I was single. Not date type male friends, but just good friends who were only that. We could go places together, do things like eat dinner out, go to the movies, etc, pay our own way, with no expectation other than companionship. All of us were single too, which makes a huge difference. That is healthy, I think. I can understand a wife or husband being jealous over their spouses relationship with someone of the opposite sex. . But since I've been married, things have changed. I still keep in touch with those people by email or phone on occasion, but I appreciate the way that they have stepped back out of respect for my husband. I would want his female friends to do the same thing.