would someone recommend a book that will help me to figure out what is age appropriate manners for a kid? she's 4, she's pretty good on please, thank you, yes ma'am and we're working hard on addressing adults as mister mike (if a family friend for example) or misses sally. when we eaten meals at a resteraunt, i've brought some simple toys to help the fidgets, and so far no problems with wanting to run around post meal (very greatful for that).