Need advice

[sumbirdy]

I met what I thought was a wonderful guy a few weeks ago. We only talk on the internet anymore but recently his ex got a hold of his accounts and we talked and she said a bunch of stuff about him (can't say since this is a family forum) but a lot of it sort of made sense. It really freaks me out and I don't know what to do. Do I break it off? I don't even know how since he can't get on his accounts and I don't have his number. It's starting to freak me out, and I don't think he's who he led me to believe. Not to mention that I met him on the internet and there's a LOT of wackos out there.

[Catlady711]

I guess I'm confused. How can you 'break off' something with someone you: 1) haven't actually met? 2) don't have a phone number/address for?

I'd say steer clear of this guy. IMHO

[sumbirdy]

By break it off I meant not talk to him. He wants to come see me. But I'm not sure I want to tell him where I live

[moosmom]

Catlady711,

Can you say BLOCK???? I don't trust meeting anyone on the internet. I know some of you here have met and even married their SO's on the internet and it's worked out wonderfully. But my gut feeling tells me I'd rather be alive and alone than mangled, beaten and left for dead on the side of the road by some cyber-whacko.

[Catty1]

sumbirdy, this sounds like bad news...even if it's only his ex that is psycho.

I have dated guys I met on the internet - but the first meeting is at a public place - a restaurant or coffee shop where there are other people around. NO WAY is someone gonna find out where I live first time - or even second time!

I'd say just block him.

Nathan needs you!

{{{hugs}}}

[Taz_Zoee]

I dated online and I was just extra careful about it. I only met in the day time, in a public place and several people always knew exactly what time and where I was. And if I didn't call them in a certain period of time they'd called me and if I didn't answer they would take it to the next level.
I did meet one guy that lied to me about his age. He was four years older than he said, but it wasn't his age that was the issue. It was the fact that he lied. If he lied about that what else would he lie about?
Luckily, I only had to go on about 10 dates before I found my honey.

As for this guy, if you have any skeptical feelings..........STOP. It's not even worth it to "find out". You know what I mean? Because, as others have said, there ARE a lot of freaks out there. But there are also good people too. Just be SUPER careful!!

[davidpizzica]

Catlady711,

Can you say BLOCK???? I don't trust meeting anyone on the internet. I know some of you here have met and even married their SO's on the internet and it's worked out wonderfully. But my gut feeling tells me I'd rather be alive and alone than mangled, beaten and left for dead on the side of the road by some cyber-whacko.

Donna, I agree with everything you've said. I guess I'm the exception to this rule. There are some really bad people on the internet so everyone, BE CAREFUL!

[Medusa]

Never even consider giving anyone your address. If he has a whacko ex, then chances are he's whacko, too. If he should contact you again, don't answer him. If you feel you have to meet someone on the Internet, make it a public place during the day and be sure he doesn't follow you. I hear of accounts nearly every week of tragedies from meeting people on the Internet. Of course, they're not all bad but it's too dangerous to take a chance w/your life. God gave you instincts for a reason. Use 'em!

[Karen]

I would definitely play it extra safe. If you have any doubts, just stop communicating with him. And even if you decide it is just his "crazy ex" never tell anyone where you live. If you ever decide to meet someone, do it in a public place, and bring someone you trust with you.

[sumbirdy]

I know what all of you said is true which is why I decided to stop contact with him. Everything just seemed a little weird and I'd rather be safe then sorry! And I'd rather not have any more crazies in my life. Thanks for the advice everyone!

[moosmom]

Sumbirdy,

Glad you decided to listen to your gut instincts. They will NEVER steer you wrong.