I feel Like a Heel!!

[critter crazy]

I just got home a few minutes ago, from taking the kids bowling, and there was a message on the Answering machine from my mom. So I called her back, and she wanted to come up and take the kids to a movie. Unfortunately the kids are scattered to the wnds today, with Birthday parties, and I have my Bowling league in a few hours as well. So we made plans for mom to come up after work next friday, and spend the weekend with the kids. So after we got done talking and had hung up the phones, It just dawned on me, that this is the first weekend my mom is all alone after Dad's passing! I feel like such a heel! I cannot believe that i didnt realize this before!! Times like this, are when I wish my mom lived just a little closer! She only lives a bit over an hour away from me, but it is just enough to make things hard you know?? Had I realized I wouldnt have had the kids make all of these plans! I feel so bad!!

[Karen]

Hey, you cannot be omniscient. She will get used to time alone, that just takes time. Making an extra effort to fill it up is just sort of psotponing the inevitable. Letting her know you care is most important, more so than filling the hours.

[critter crazy]

I know Karen I realy do. It is just so hard! I have been bawling my eyes out since I got off the phone, cause I feel so bad, and I know darn well that she is sitting at home doing the same thing. My mom has never been on her own before, she has always had someone, or us kids you Know?? I understand she has to get used to it, but it still sucks non-the-less.

[Chilli]

Don't feel too bad, Maggie.
It sounds like you live a busy life(a fun one, at that ), and its easy for little details to slip past.

Maybe after your bowling league you can call her up again? Just to have a chat and to let her know you love her. You can make things up next Friday. =]
((((hugs))))

I really dread the day I move out, my mum will be all alone, aswell.

[Freedom]

How about having each of the kids phone and let her know what they did today?

I know, the first weekend, it is tough for her. Over time she will get adjusted, but I can appreciate how you feel.

[lizbud]

I would have felt bad too. Can you send flowers & a short little note
to let her know you are thinking about her till you both meet later. She can
know you have not forgotten about her.

[momoffuzzyfaces]

I was going to suggest a phone call too. I know when I'm lonesome or having problems, a call to my brother helps a lot. Just knowing I'm not alone in a big big world can do wonders!

Maybe just call and ask if she would like to chat a bit.

[Twisterdog]

I understand how you feel. But you need to remember that your mom is ... a mom. She without a doubt remembers when her own kids were young, and she too was a cook, housekeeper, maid, taxi driver, etc. She understands. And she would have it no other way.