An update on my trials and tribulations

[sasvermont]

Hi kids,

I am doing ok, thank you. My life is still somewhat of a mess, and I am growing used to it.

I went to visit a residence for women, on Saturday, and really liked the place. I hope to move my Mom there within the next few months. I filled out an application and now it is the sit and wait thing. It will be furnished - only 10 women, old victorian home....only about 30 minutes from my house. I have my fingers crossed.

My estimated time for leaving my current job is still 3/1/08. I have contacted a couple of companies, chatting to the appropriate persons, but it is still too early. I have lots of work to catch up on before I leave. It is the busiest time of the year for me right now. I am enjoying knowing that this is the last time for many of the things I have been doing for years.

I keep getting messages and pointers from people trying to direct me to jobs much like I have now. I don't want that...I want something different. I am not after more money or better this or that. I am totally burned out from my job. I cannot imagine doing this any longer than a couple of months. Maybe I just need a serious break.

The cats are fine. Lucy loves spending time with my Mom, downstairs. Lucy will miss her when she moves. Oh, the place where my Mom will most likely go to live, has a resident cat and two dogs visit nearly daily. Lucy has been my Mom's only companionship except for me. She isn't very friendly of a person and also, using a walker doesn't make it much fun to drag her out, especially in bad weather.

I wish everyone a Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and in general, a very loving and heartfelt wish for your good health and happiness forever.

There are some great people here - day in and day out and boy do we all appreciate it. Thank you Karen and Paul, for making it all possible.

Love to all,

Sas and her campers

[Killearn Kitties]

I have my fingers crossed that you will be able to get a place in this home for your mum. It sounds ideal.

I am sure that just knowing you are on the last stretch at work is making things easier to cope with. You truly do sound as though you need a complete break. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and New Year, and that something good turns up for you very soon.

[Medusa]

I wish you only the best, in your working life and in your personal life and I hope that all goes well w/your Mom. Best of everything to you both. Have a wonderful and blessed holiday.

[kimlovescats]

SAS, it's nice to see you on the post but I'm sorry you are having a tough time right now!

I hope that your mom gets this new place, it sounds wonderful!!! Prayers coming for you!

Have a MERRY CHRISTMAS!

Hugs,
Kim

[Freedom]

Why even look for work just now? We all know you need a break! You must be getting that message, as you are GIVING it, he hee. Anyway, just enjoy the Spring and then start looking. Of course, this assumes you bank book can stand taking a 4 to 6 week break.

You DO sound better, just knowing as you say, this is the last time thouh so many of the tasks at work!

Best wishes for a wonderful Christmas!

[Karen]

That place sounds ideal - would it mean waiting for a room to become available, or does she just need approval?

Hmm, have you done "what color is your parachute" to get ideas on what you want to do next?

Thanks for the update, you'll be in our prayers still.

[Pam]

I'm glad to see this update. I have been thinking about you and wondering how you are. The place for your mom sounds perfect. Unfortunately good places have waiting lists. *sigh* I hope you don't have to wait too long.

It sounds like a total job change might be in order. Hey you are not too old to blaze down a new trail. I hope something will open up for you that is just perfect. I think I mentioned to you how much my SIL hates her current job (actually it is just her boss that she hates). She told me the other day she would rather be cleaning toilets in a public bathroom. Of course there was a wee bit of exaggeration in that statement but she said that she would gladly go off and do something totally different even for much less money. I hope you both find something that is rewarding and where you will once again look forward to going into work. Hang in there SAS!

[moosmom]

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you and your Mom, Sallyanne. I've tried calling you but I'm sure you are very busy.

I'm praying that everything will fall into place for both you and your mom. You've been in my thoughts and prayers, honey. I'll keep trying to call to make sure you're okay.

(((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))

Donna

[Barbara]

Good to see you here- I hope they will have a place for your mom soon.
I'll call one of these days- I have tow weeks off and as soon as I can think of anything but sleeping we can chat

[lizbud]

I am glad you are feeling better about things. I do hope events all
fall into place for you. Hope your Christmas is a bright one.

[anna_66]

I am glad you are feeling better about things. I do hope events all
fall into place for you. Hope your Christmas is a bright one.

My thoughts exactly.

Thanks for updating your situation. It definitely sounds as if things are starting to fall into place.

Good Luck.

[Rachel]

I too have been wondering how things have been going for you. Personally, I don't think you *owe* these people anything but a two week notice. You say you have a lot of work to catch up on before you leave. It is their work, not yours. Have you been slacking off? I don't think so! If there is more to do than you have been able to keep up on, it is not your resposibility to make changes in your life to accommodate them. They obviously have not appreciated the commitment and dedication you have given over the past 8 years (or however long it has been), so your giving your all for two more months, isn't going to make a difference either.

Keep yourself open to a change of mind and schedule. The perfect job may present itself and to pass it up because of unwarranted loyality to an employer who gave you such grief would be the ultimate shame.

I do hope that the facility you spoke about for your mother will have an opening there for her soon. It does sound like a place that might meet her needs.

[ChrisH]

Sas, it's good to hear you are doing ok, even if your life is still messy.

The residence you wrote about sounds ideal for your Mum, sending positive thoughts and fingers crossed it works out.

I can understand the enjoyment of knowing it's the last time you'll work at something that has become a heavy burden you wake to and dread each day. I've gone on a wing and a prayer to something else before now and survived, maybe not wealthier in monetary terms but certainly wealthier in spirit. You will too I'm sure.

Special lady, I wish you a Happy & Peaceful Christmas and a wonderful new life in the new year.

Love & hugs
Chris

[sasvermont]

Thanks kids. I don't know what I would do without the support and positive vibes from so many kind people. It is truly appreciated.....and at this point in my life, needed to get me through.

I haven't heard any word from the residence for my Mom. They have two slots available but need to do the paperwork necessary to qualify her. I am fairly sure she will get to be one of the residents. The lady who runs the show is from the town I live in and knows the house I live in.....the old Tressler house....she remembered old Mrs. Tressler sitting on my porch, years ago. I think she, the manager, will be easy to work with, although I don't think she will do anything inappropriate application wise. Fingers crossed.

Along the same lines, I spoke with my Mom's only living sister. My Aunt Carolyn is a neat lady and is a few years younger than my Mom. She knows my Mom and has NO interest in talking with my Mom or coming to see her. My Mom is and has always been an odd duck - and doesn't enjoy friends and relationships like most people do. Anyway, my Aunt was so sweet on the phone with me and kept being SO supportive to my making the arrangements for the residential care. When we went to hang up - my Aunt, for the first time in my life, and I am 59, told me that she loved me. Gosh, it felt so good. I think some people take "love" for granted. I surely do not. I have one sister who does not talk with me...and one Aunt....and that is it....no more relatives beyond a neice and nephew living in Florida and Pennsylvania. I know I am not the only one in this spot, but it sure can feel lonely at times.

I decided not to have children some years ago, knowing that I would escape the responsibility of raising kids....but also gave up the potential relationship for later years. I shall end this sob story.

Thank you again everyone.....

Lots of love and furry hugs from Camp Vermont, including Cinnamon, living in the guest room this winter! A bunny with her own room. Go figure.

Hey, Santa is coming tomorrow night.....

[lizbud]

(((HUGS)))

Merry Christmas SAS.