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    They came and took him! What do I do now? *UPDATE PAGE 5!*

    My parents and me have been raising my nephew since he was 2 weeks old. When he was about 3 or 4 months old his parents moved out and left him here. When they got a house they didn't try to get him. We had a date set at court for them to start paying child support. She went to the police yesterday and told them we had her baby and wouldn't give him to her. DHS told them to come get him (but they told us she couldn't have him until she got 2 years of anger management) The police said that if we didn't give him to her that my parents will go to jail for kidnapping. (They left him here!) She told them that we abused him (not true) I had just changed his diaper and was feeding him lunch when they came. The policeman said that I was sleeping and that I left him in his high chair by himself (I thought policemen were supposed to tell the truth!) I was not sleeping I was sitting at the table with him. Stephanie (the babies mother) also said that he had a poopy diaper (again not true) and a horrible rash on his groin (I would like to know what they did to him because that wasn't there when I had changed him) They also said we were "unfit" because our grass wasn't mowed and we had a lot of dogs. ( ) They also said that he was dirty. But that was because he was eating lunch and babies get dirty when they eat lunch. My mother has a seizure disorder and told Stephanie that this was killing her and Stephanie said "Well, maybe it will" She also told her that she "hopes she hurts for a long time" We've had him for almost a year and were very attached. This is ripping our hearts out and we're going to fight every step of the way. Stephanie said she wasn't going to let us see him again and she was going to put a restraining order on us (we didn't even do anything to her) She is a con artist and lies every other word and she has friends who have known her for all of two months who believe everything she says. We've tried to talk to them and tell them but they won't listen. They know about her history, about how she tried to kill her mother, but what they won't listen to is how she abused that baby while she stayed with us. My dad seen her shake him and I've seen her shake her fists at him. They won't believe us. We tried to get a lawyer and we need one for tomorrow morning but the only one we could get a hold of today wants half of the money now (which would be 1200 dollars) We don't have the money and no one is willing to help us. No one will loan us the money and we have nothing worth selling. I just don't know what to do. I miss him so much... I just want to see him again. I just want to hold him.
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    Wow, I don't know what else to say except that is all so terrible and I can't believe you even have to go through something like this. You sound like such a great person and I can't believe people can make up such nonsense, specially policemen! How awful!!!

    Please keep us updated to what happens, I really hope you can get your little nephew back away from these terrible people.


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    i am so sorry! was there any type of formalized custody order for your parents to have him? if so i'd call your caseworker tonight, leaving a message about this, do you have witnesses to that the baby was happy and healthy with you, like close responsible neighbors, your minister, the peditrician who can speak to your high quality care of him, and to his good health with you, any individual that a court would find to be credible. don't talk to her or her friends, as tempting as it would be don't engage with them at all, no matter what. you all have to be above reproach and as pure as fresh snow. make sure the yard and home is immaculate, take photos to prove it. an experienced family law attorney is going to cost money, there is no way around that. stephanies history will catch up with her. i am so sorry that this has happened to him and you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by joycenalex
    i am so sorry! was there any type of formalized custody order for your parents to have him? if so i'd call your caseworker tonight, leaving a message about this, do you have witnesses to that the baby was happy and healthy with you, like close responsible neighbors, your minister, the peditrician who can speak to your high quality care of him, and to his good health with you, any individual that a court would find to be credible. don't talk to her or her friends, as tempting as it would be don't engage with them at all, no matter what. you all have to be above reproach and as pure as fresh snow. make sure the yard and home is immaculate, take photos to prove it. an experienced family law attorney is going to cost money, there is no way around that. stephanies history will catch up with her. i am so sorry that this has happened to him and you.
    My dad had a paper saying he was the custodian parent. But it didn't matter because it wasn't stamped by a judge. We have one woman who will be on our side. And several caseworkers,nurses, and such have been out and seen him, seen that he was happy and healthy. We don't have the money right now for the lawyer and can't find one that doesn't want money right now. I don't know if I can live without Nathan...It's so hard.

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    Call the state bar association, they may be able to refer you to a lawyer who will work with you, and work out some sort of payment plan. You'll be in our prayers, and especially baby Nathan.

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    I would think the court appearance tomorrow could be adjourned until your family finds a lawyer.

    Maybe Johanna or someone here knows about that.

    HUGS!
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    Time drags on and on these days...

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    * HUGS *

    Just wanted to let you know that I've been thinking about you and your family and hoping the best. (I have been reading the thread, but just didn't know what to say or how to convey my emotions.)

    Life can be so unfair.

    Keep fighting and never give up!!!
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    Good news...I hope.

    Stephanie is getting arrested. It may not be today...it may not even be tomorrow, but it will happen. And she has no idea. We went to the sheriff's office today and discussed things with the county deputy and she has an outstanding warrant. The reason they hadn't found it before is because it was under her maiden name (which we supplied for them) The deputy went out to arrest her today but got called back because a prisoner escaped. We talked to a DHS worker and she said as soon as they arrest her we will be notified.
    They told the DHS worker that the reason they came and got him is because we were trying to put him in a foster home. She asked if we wanted him and we said yes. But he will first go to his father. This is what worries us. My brother (Nathan's dad) believes everything these people that Stephanie has been living with says. We're worried they'll tell him to turn Nathan over to them so they can take care of him because he doesn't have a job. If Charles is unable to take care of Nathan, we want Nathan here. Which is what we hope will happen. Pray that Charles will let him live with us until he finds a stable job. Charles is unable to take care of a child by himself (he doesn't even know what to do!) I just hope he doesn't hand Nathan over to them.
    Anyway Stephanie thinks she's as safe as can be. Little does she know...

    Just pray for us that this will work out please.

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    I think blood relatives come before 'friends' where the DSH is concerned.

    This is very hopeful news. I hope Charles really gets his eyes opened with this upcoming arrest.

    HUGS

    Prayers going out to all.
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    Sumbirdy, while you wait, how about you start a little journal that some day you can give to Nathan - for his 21st birthday or something. About how he is, what he's like, how much you miss him, etc. Funny stories about himself that he'll enjoy some day ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by sumbirdy
    Stephanie is getting arrested...
    Congratulations!!!

    (Let's just hope that she doesn't lurk on here!)

    Good luck on getting the guardianship instead of Charles.

    *hugs*
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    You and Nathan are in my prayers, Summer. I do hope all ends well and Nathan gets back to you ASAP where he obviously belongs. He's such a beautiful child and I know this must be so heart-breaking for you I can't imagine the pain you are going threw.

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    Today is Nathan's birthday. He is 1 year old and I miss him so much. We had so much planned for today.

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    Sweetie, whenever you guys get Nathan back, you can have the "birthday" party the next Saturday. He won't know the difference, and that'll give you something to look forward to!

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