I did something a little out of the ordinary today...

**moosmom** · 05-09-2007, 09:26 AM

Background:

My Dad passed away 10 years ago this August 18th. I found his body. He had been dead for 3 days and was crouched on his knees, head on the carpet and the telephone clutched in his hand. (sorry to be so graphic) To this day, I have always wondered "what if" he was trying to call me for help?? It's something that has haunted me all this time.

I was at my best friend's house yesterday and mentioned it to her. She suggested calling the phone company and asking them to look it up.

I did. The woman on the phone was very nice. She explained that they can't do it, that they don't keep track of everyday local calls, only long distance calls.

Oh well. I THOUGHT it would give me a little closure after all this time.

Was that a dumb thing to do???

**ramanth** · 05-09-2007, 09:29 AM

I don't think it was a dumb thing to do. *HUGS*

**Taz_Zoee** · 05-09-2007, 09:36 AM

Not at all! I would wonder myself as well. It's too bad the phone company couldn't help.

**gini** · 05-09-2007, 11:17 AM

Donna, not at all. How would you ever know whether they could track the call or not unless you asked.

**Lori Jordan** · 05-09-2007, 11:22 AM

No Donna it is not Dumb,Same kind of situation i was in with my Grandfather,We all need closer.

**Catlady711** · 05-09-2007, 11:26 AM

I don't think it was a dumb thing to do at all. Sorry that you had to go thru that with your dad.

As a off the wall suggestion, if by some fluke anyone happens to have any of his old utility bills the calls might show up there. Just a thought.

**pitc9** · 05-09-2007, 12:37 PM

{hugs} to you.

I don't think it was dumb at all.

**Sevaede** · 05-10-2007, 04:40 PM

No, it was not dumb at all.

**HUG**

**cassiesmom** · 05-10-2007, 04:57 PM

One of my strangest experiences ever happened when my grandmother died. I guess it was a dream, or some kind of a vision. She had been under hospice care and not conscious for the past few days. I distinctly remember hearing and seeing her tell me, "I haven't had anything to eat or drink for a few days, but I'm all right now." The next thing I remember after that is the phone ringing, my sister calling to let me know my grandmother had died. That was in 2001, she died a few months short of her 90th birthday. Since then I have dreamed about her a number of times but nothing like that. The cemetery where both of my grandmothers are buried isn't too far from where I live, so I'll be heading over there since it will be Mother's Day next week.

Moosmom, I hope you have happy memories of your father. I hope your smelling cigar smoke and knowing he was around was a good thing. I don't think it was a dumb thing for you to have done, and I'm sorry you can't get better answers. ---big hug---

**moosmom** · 05-12-2007, 06:58 PM

Cyber-Sibes,

After my Dad died, I wrote him a long letter and sealed it. That was 10 years ago. I don't know what I ever did with it and would LOVE to see where my mind was at at that period in my life.

I thought about doing something like you suggested. I'm going to mention it to my therapist on my next appointment.

Tomorrow is going to be tough, as I'm sure it will be for lots of people who don't have their Moms to celebrate Mother's Day with. My emotions right now are all over the map. Of course that COULD be because I'm outta my medicine and the pharmacies are now closed. *sigh*

Cassiesmom,

I have alot of memories of my Dad, growing up and hanging out at Bolton Lake. Sometimes when I see someone we both knew or hear something, I want SO much to pick up the phone and tell him.