How Do I Get Mum To Lemme Buy A Puppy?!?!?!

[holi117]

Ok..this si seriously starting to wind me up lol. Since I was 5 I wanted a dog... 1st i tried asking, gota no..tried whining..gota no..asked my grandparents they sed yes - but only if mum said ok...which wasnt going to happen.. Every year I've asked a couple of times.

Now I'm 17, 18 in october, (still living at home). Im working and i go to college, I'm pretty much looking after myself now... So i thought Maybe mum will let me now. I researched the breed i wanted, found out n printed off lots of pictures, lots of information.. i told her that I was going to pay for everything and gav her the ways I was going to pay, showed her i found out he cost of everything and how i was going to save etc... Found a positive slution to every single reason for "no"... and guess what? she still said no, got pist off and won't let me bring it up in convo's anymore... I'm really angry...

What can I do?!!?!?! Please help me?!?!

i did the responsible asking over a month ago now, she still isnt stirring.. I have run out of options and ideas?!

[luvofallhorses]

please do not buy a puppy! encourage your mom to let you ADOPT a puppy. there are so many puppies needing homes. Show her that you're responsible enough, do chores without throwing a fit, do stuff when you're told, etc. go to http://www.petfinder.com and do a pet search for puppies in your area.

[theterrierman]

First of all, if you want people to take you seriously, maybe try spelling correctly. You're 17 and in college, I'm sure you've learned correct spelling, grammar and punctuation by now. Second, if you're still living at home, your mom can make any rule she wants, and you have to respect that. Third, you're in college right now, which is the wrong time to buy a puppy IMO. You've waited 12 1/2 years, you can wait a few more. If you are dead-set on a dog, maybe look at a rescued adult without many issues, or a retired/non-breeding quality adult from a REPUTABLE BREEDER.

[wolfsoul]

Your mother knows us better than we do -- perhaps she feels you are not responsible enough for a dog, or too busy. Going to college AND working is a huge commitment in itself. A puppy needs alot of time and attention.

You need to ask yourself if it is possible for you to let him out every 1-3 hours to potty while you are at school and work. My pup is over 6 months old and it was only last week that I finally allowed him to stay home alone while I went to work. Any sooner than 6 months and he would have peed in the house -- pups have smaller, weaker blatters and can not hold their pee like adults can. If this isn't possible for you, you need to consider the costs of doggy daycare, which can be expensive, and many places will not accept a dog under 4 months of age. Doggy daycares are also one of the worst places for your dog picking up lice and fleas, so the treatment for these and their costs will need to be taken into account. You need to schedule time for puppy classes, extra training at home, walks, socialisation, etc. Puppies are a full-time job. I'm lucky I am able to bring my dogs to work, or there is no way I could have a puppy.

Now in your costs I'm assuming you covered the costs of vaccinations/nosodes/titers, puppy obedience classes, dog food, toys, treats, vet checkups, collars/leashes, crates, first aid equipment, dishes, grooming costs, disease prevention, etc -- but what will you do if your dog has something wrong with it and you need to spend $5000 to keep it alive? Who is going to pay for that? My dog and all of her littermates developed parvo as puppies. Two of the pups died, even after over $2000 was spent to keep them alive (half the price any other vet would have charged -- my vet is awesome). My dog's niece fell down the stairs at 5 weeks old and broke her back. The tests, x-rays, treatments, etc cost into the hundreds, and the pup still died. Anything can go wrong, and all of this needs to be taken into account. I think the #1 reason most mothers do not want their children to have pets is that in the end, they will end up paying for something.

Also, breed. Perhaps there is a breed conflict. If I lived under my mother's roof and asked to get a pit bull, I would be sorely turned down. Her own ignorance, yes, but it's her decision in the end and nothing I could do would change her mind. Perhaps the breed you chose is too big, too hairy, too noisy, too drooly, too aggressive, etc for your mother. I don't know what breed you chose but perhaps a smaller less hairy dog may make her more willing. What is the breed you are considering? Remember that the breed can be a huge thing. If you don't have a 6 foot fence, don't get a husky -- if you don't have tolerance for barking, don't get a sheltie, etc.

At whatever point you do get a puppy, please make sure you've done your research as to where. Going to a shelter/rescue or a reputable breeder are the best choices. Research the differences between a reputable breeder, backyard breeder, and a puppy mill, and never buy your puppy from a pet store or broker.

Hope this helps. Welcome to PT.

[Sophist]

If you are almost 18, maybe you should start working on moving out and trying to arrange a budget, steady income, etc. Find out of you can really do the responsible adult thing and still have the time and energy for a dog. When you are just getting started in college, it may not be the best time to be adding a dog to the mix, ESPECIALLY a puppy.

Sorry, but if your mom has held out for nearly two decades, I don't think there is any magic wand we can wave.

Good luck with college and all the changes you will be making. I hope that one day, as soon as you are ready, you find the perfect dog for you.

[coco-bean]

I couldnt agree more with all that was said.
The only advice i can give other then what was already said is...ask your mom why? find out her reasons and maybe you two can come up with a comprimise! maybe she's allergic to fur or maybe she had a bad experience. "because i said so" really isnt a reason but if thats what she says then there really isnt much to do, but find a way to comprimise and maybe in the end you two can pick out the perfect dog together. Puppies are alot of work...i have 3.
especially right now is hard for me, my youngest has something wrong and the vet cant figure it out, there's 2 vets working my case and they may be sending me to a specialist if the final test come back negative tomorrow. There's alot of unexpected things that happen, im sure you've ruled out alot of things but unless you've had prior experience with vets im sure the average first timer doesnt know how much vet bills can really add up.
Im at the vet @ LEAST 4 times a month, im lucky if i get down to 2 or 3 times a month. Very pricy
best of luck, let us know what happens!!

[Freedom]

I couldnt agree more with all that was said.
The only advice i can give other then what was already said is...ask your mom why? find out her reasons and maybe you two can come up with a compromise! best of luck, let us know what happens!!

As I was reading, I also was wondering what the reasoning is. By learning why she has made this decision, it will help you - NOT is finding a work around necessarily, but learning what things she values, and that will help YOU make all sorts of decisions later on.

Meanwhile, please feel free to enjoy OUR pets! And maybe you can volunteer somewhere and walk dogs - at the vet's? So you get some one on one time with dogs. If you are at the vet's, then the dogs are healing and eventually going home. Where as, at a shelter, sometimes it ishard to say good by when they are at the end of their stay.

[Love That Collie]

Yes, find out her reasons, if you already don't know.
And I can speak from experience of being a mother for nearly 26 years,
"because I said so" IS a valid reason in "mom talk" and actually you live under your mothers roof and when you live under your own roof you can make those decisions for yourself. Your mother knows you better than we do, she has reasons behind it I suspect. And some people just are not "pet" people or even "dog people".