any tips?

[Jr Vet]

about three months ago I found a stray kitten. She and my other cat became very close. But he just died. I have been working with her a whole lot. But she still is really scared of me. When I feed her I am able to sit and rub behind her ears, but only if I sit across from her. I have done this for about a month now. That's as close as I've gotten to her trusting people. I am about 98% sure she was abandoned. I've named her Ring since she lookes like an ocicat mix. I would have caught her a long time ago if I would have taken my brothers advice and set a trap but I want to show him that I can do it my way. I had no idea it would take this long, but I am deticated to whatever you guys ( and girls ) suggest. So do you have any advice for me and Ring?

Thanks,
Jr Vet

[Freedom]

Well the younger the kitten is when you get her inside, the better off for the kitten and the easier it will be to keep her as an indoor pet.

My Cuddles was an outdoor cat with many issues. I've had her 18 months as an indoor cat. She still will not come to me, but she gets along with the other cats fine and she is happy to be inside. It can take lots of time and patience.

I'm with your brother. Trap her, have her to the vet to a check up and shots, and keep working with her in your home. Food is your friend in making frineds with her.

[Marigold2]

Morning,
I took in a cat some 15 years ago. She was an adult stray who was very very shy. It took me a month to get her indoors and it was fall by then, cold and wet here in Ohio. Once we had her inside we of course had her fixed, declawed and all shots. Olivia lived with us for 10 years before dying of diabeties. She never wanted to be held, ever. She never lost her fear. If she was eating and had her head in the bowl if anyone walked into the kitchen she would run out. Once or twice in all the time we had her she jumped on the sofa and laid by someones feet but to pet her was very rare. However she enjoyed her life as much as possible with the other two cats. She never learned to play with them. Olivia just didn't understand teh concept. But she was warm, fed, loved and we enjoyed each others company even if it was from across the room. I don't know what happened to poor Olivia to make her this way but we did the best for her that was humanly possible and we missed her when she died.

[lvpets2002]

First of all Welcome to Pet Talk & enjoy all the talks & pictures..
Second of all = just keep working with this baby & someday wittle kitty will be ok to handle.. However sometimes they never come around to be handled..

[kb2yjx]

I have to kind of agree with the above posts. Our Hayley was rescued by me, but ADORES my husband, and follows him around like a dog. SOMETIMES she likes to be petted/held and she will purr up a storm. It just takes time and going about things slowly. Cats make us work very hard to gain their respect and love!!! Good luck ...

[barncat]

I've tamed feral cats and kittens all of my life. Some remain aloof...others start off shy and become cuddle-bugs. It depends. If the cat is letting you touch her she does trust you. Trapping and going to the vet certainly would speed things up and if you have concerns for the cat's health or safety that might be the best way to go. Time and patience work too. Try talking quietly to the cat as you sit near by. Increase touching very gradually.

These days, given the world we live in I usually get the ferals tame enough to pick up and then get a vet appointment and take them in before introducing them to the household... They don't like the vet thing, but it keeps everyone safe and healthy and so far they've forgiven me!

Good luck. Sharing food and kindness has been a blessing for this cat. I hope your friendship has a long and happy future.