Courtesy versus Religion.

[RICHARD]

This really bugs me.


I was flipping thru the channels and stopped on the "Take Home Chef"..

He made a dynamite Pad Thai dish that I caught so I decided to watch the next episode...

The premise of the show is this Aussie chef goes to a supermarket, picks a woman and offers to go home and cook a meal for her and her SO...

He pays for the items, too!

Not a bad deal...........On this episode he finds a gal, checks with her about the food and starts to shop with her. Halfway thru the store he picks out a cooking wine and she says, "I can't do wine, I'm Moron"...the chef dud says, "Oh that means you can't eat caffiene, I was going to make a green tea icecream for you.....;

So, she figures that the alcohol will cook out and they have to find caffiene
free tea for the ice cream.

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One time we went out with a co-worker to a Mex restaurant...At this place they had a table set up with beans, chips, salsa and pork and beef..sorta like a buffet/appetizer deal.....

We all ate, had a few drinks and the next day thos woman cme into work and was pissed off at us that we fed her pork-She was a muslim!

LIKE WTF? You don't know what pork tastes like? Also I thought that Muslims didn't drink either?

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[RedHedd]

On this episode he finds a gal, checks with her about the food and starts to shop with her. Halfway thru the store he picks out a cooking wine and she says, "I can't do wine, I'm Moron"...

Was she blonde as well as being a moron?

[captain]

snigger

I saw that "Moron" statement ............. and laughed too.

Yes Richard, many people think YOU have to watch out for THEIR dietary requirements.
Pfft!

[Cataholic]

Jaime can come cook for me anytime! LOL.

Morons....that is a religion VERY popular around here.

But, Richard...I am trying to see how this is about "courtesy vs. Religion" as you set forth in the heading...what did you mean? That she should have been more courteous about her dietary restrictions?

[RICHARD]

I meant MORMON....LOL



Sorry, I didn't get to finish my thought...I have a cat.


The C vs. R thought comes from the idea that people are more apt to be DIS courteous to your good intentions.

It goes back to the Seattle Tree Fiasco.


I bet some Mulsims, Wiccans and LDS folks aren't that fond of Xmas, but they don't raise a stink about it.

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Someine told a story about passing out an Xmas card to someone who was Jewish- and the person getting the card acted like they were given a gold plated turd-what ever happened to putting a smile on your face and recognizing someone did something nice for you? As opposed to acting like a jerk.

The very same thing happened to me. I worked with a very nice gal-classy and very proper......when she got the Xmas card she looked like I had spit into her hand.

But why was it OK for her to give me a gift?


Please......I'd respect someone more if they acted like they enjoyed the card/gift, then tossed it or regifted the darn thing, You know, like go with the program for a miniute- I don't think your god would have any problem with boozing and eating a pork taco a few days outta the year....

It's kinda crappy to be confronted after a nice night out with your co-workers with a story about how you puked all night long because you cannot figure out how to spell P-I-G..

[lady_zana]

Sorry, I didn't get to finish my thought...I have a cat.


Someine told a story about passing out an Xmas card to someone who was Jewish- and the person getting the card acted like they were given a gold plated turd-what ever happened to putting a smile on your face and recognizing someone did something nice for you? As opposed to acting like a jerk.

The very same thing happened to me. I worked with a very nice gal-classy and very proper......when she got the Xmas card she looked like I had spit into her hand.

But why was it OK for her to give me a gift?


Please......I'd respect someone more if they acted like they enjoyed the card/gift, then tossed it or regifted the darn thing, You know, like go with the program for a miniute- I don't think your god would have any problem with boozing and eating a pork taco a few days outta the year....

It's kinda crappy to be confronted after a nice night out with your co-workers with a story about how you puked all night long because you cannot figure out how to spell P-I-G..

There is no cause for all the rudeness we see nowaways. I understand what you mean by respecting someone more if they act like they enjoy it. I also think it would be good if the person simply said, "Thank you but I don't celebrate Christmas. But thank you for the thought. I appreciate it." Then they wouldn't have to accept the gift and you would know for the next year.

[Cataholic]

There is no cause for all the rudeness we see nowaways. I understand what you mean by respecting someone more if they act like they enjoy it. I also think it would be good if the person simply said, "Thank you but I don't celebrate Christmas. But thank you for the thought. I appreciate it." Then they wouldn't have to accept the gift and you would know for the next year.

Lady Zana, while I agree with you, largely, I would make the statement, "Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtfulness". To me, there isn't a single reason why one should add anything else.

When I go to someone's house for dinner, and something is passed around that I don't care for, I say, "No, thank you". Not, "No thanks, I hate that".

I just don't understand people's rudeness, or need to tell the WHOLE story. But, I would add, I have never had someone treat me the way Richard had with the card. I guess I am lucky, and don't know those types of people! Or, if I did know them at one point in my life, I have weeded them out from my garden of friends.

[Karen]

I have dietary restrictions that are not due to religion, and anyone who eats with me knows it, if any ordering of food is involved. I try not to make a big deal of it, it's no one's fault, and no one's problem but my own.

I do think it is the responsibility of anyone with dietary restrictions of any sort to either let people know, or not eat anything without asking what's in it. Better safe than sorry.

There are people who will not be happy no matter the situation, greeting card, or whatever - and it usually has nothing to do with you!

[Laura's Babies]

My buddy Mike is Jewish and I am Christain. He knows I celebrate Christmas and I know he don't but out of respect when I give his Brats (cats) Toys at Christmas, he accepts them and also brings my babies toys. I respect his request not to give him anything, just his Brats.

[Pembroke_Corgi]

Well, I am a vegetarian and I would never eat meat just to be polite, sorry. But, I would make sure anyone potentially cooking me a meal would know that first. I also check ingredients before assuming anything.

Sometimes beliefs prevent people from partaking in things...but that doesn't mean that people are "rude" if they don't want to. It's rude the way some people go about it, but if you are polite and kind, I see no reason why a refusal is a bad thing.

[JenBKR]

Richard I think it's time your co-worker learns how to take care of herself. That's just sad, IMO

As for giving cards/presents to people who don't celebrate the same religion - I will gladly accept anything any of you would like to give me that is for a non-Christian holiday. I promise not to complain one bit

[CathyBogart]

As a pagan, I'd be in some trouble if I didn't have the ability to accept an Xmas card with grace. I honestly appreciate the well-wishes and it would never occur to me to be offended. In fact, I have a stack of Xmas cards to give out this year, even though that's not my holiday.

As for dietary requirements though....I don't see at all how that was discourteous. She had religious beliefs that excluded certain foods, she wasn't rude about it, and it worked out fine.

[cassiesmom]

Not a bad deal...........On this episode he finds a gal, checks with her about the food and starts to shop with her. Halfway thru the store he picks out a cooking wine and she says, "I can't do wine, I'm Moron"...the chef dud says, "Oh that means you can't eat caffeine, I was going to make a green tea ice cream for you.....;

Oh, Richard... I'm having the day from h*** here at work and your post made me laugh till my eyes started to water! I'm trying not to LOL because I don't want to disturb my co-workers .. but every time I read the line about the Moron and the chef dud, I start laughing all over again. If I laugh silently much longer, I'm going to explode!

My break is over, I must go. You didn't know when you started watching this show that it would result in someone in Chicago laughing and feeling better because of it.

[Cataholic]

Well, I am a vegetarian and I would never eat meat just to be polite, sorry. But, I would make sure anyone potentially cooking me a meal would know that first. I also check ingredients before assuming anything.

I have returned again to a vegatarian lifestyle. I am unobtrusive in my restrictions, and simply order something else, or pass it up. I wouldn't eat flesh just to be polite either.

[sparks19]

Richard I think you have every right to be upset with this person. That WAS rude in my opinion. it is HER responsibility to adhere to her diet. Her being P.O's because you fed her pork. Of course I am assuming you did not hold her down and force feed her some pork. If she wants everyone else to be responsible for her diet then she should wear a sign that says "Do not allow me to eat pork because I cannot do it myself"

What ever happened to PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY?

It is HER fault she ate pork and no one else's and her attitude about it and basically saying what a terrible night she had because of it was totally uncalled for.

There is a difference between refusing things because of your religion or diet and griping about nice things people do for you. That just shows me that they are not very happy in their religion if they do nothing but complain about nice gestures because they don't celebrate it or can't eat it.