Sir Paul and Lady Heather

**Pawsitive Thinking** · 10-20-2006, 06:08 AM

Anyone surprised by the split and her "revelations"?

**Pam** · 10-20-2006, 06:13 AM

Not really except for the fact that he was supposedly physically abusive. I guess that goes hand in hand with alcoholism and drugs which he apparently still uses. I found it interesting that she is using Diana's attorney and he is using Charles' attorney.

**Killearn Kitties** · 10-20-2006, 06:29 AM

I find it terribly hard to believe that we wouldn't already know if she had been physically abused. Presumably this is all because he wants custody of the child?

**elizabethann** · 10-20-2006, 07:07 AM

This has turned into a soap opera.

I never thought he should have married her in the first place (he should have married me - I would have made him happy!)

**sparks19** · 10-20-2006, 07:12 AM

I also have a hard time believing the abuse wouldn't have been discovered by someone somewhere at sometime before this.

I hate to say it but for some reason a lot of women use that excuse when going through a divorce to get custody or more money.

I know because my ex step mother tried that when her and my dad split up because she didn't want him to get my little brother (which he wasn't even trying to do, he just wanted to be allowed to see him) She went into court and said that my dad would hit her all the time. LOL my dad has two other ex wives (yeah he's a busy man lol) and they both can attest to the fact that he would never even raise a hand let alone lay a finger on any woman. he wouldn't even spank his kids. It ended up not working for her anyway. but she has tried to make my dads life a living hell ever since.

If the things Heather is saying is true then I feel very bad for her but I just can't get past the thought that this is all a publicity stunt or to get more money and the kid.

**Catty1** · 10-20-2006, 08:39 AM

Before they married, her ex was saying she was a pathological liar.

We'll wait and see.

**Cataholic** · 10-20-2006, 10:10 AM

Originally Posted by sparks19

I hate to say it but for some reason a lot of women use that excuse when going through a divorce to get custody or more money.

In a divorce proceeding, at least here in Ohio, one does not get more money, nor necessarily custody, because they were abused.

Spousal and child support is a straight calculation based on earnings.

Custody is that which is in the best interest of the child, not whether a parent abused another parent, though that could be an indicator of NOT placing the child with the abusive party.

Lots of women use that excuse because it is true, often. Abuse takes many forms, and people, while married, go to extremes to hide it. Some people are genuinely afraid for their safety, and do not make such claims of abuse until they are safely established outside the marriage.

Sure, some people cry wolf. But, the secret lives of the abused and their abusers is just that, secret.

**K9karen** · 10-21-2006, 12:08 AM

Originally Posted by elizabethann

This has turned into a soap opera.

I never thought he should have married her in the first place (he should have married me - I would have made him happy!)

AHEM! Get in Line!!!!

I agree, he didn't have to marry anyone (except me of course)
I think she used him to carry on her cause. He was married to Linda for what? 32+ years. I doubt the pot/alcohol has anything to do with anything. Besides, he's a national icon in the UK. They love him. She did porn and there are pictures to prove it.

Hey! I'm still a Beatlemaniac from way back. I'll defend any of them to the hilt, anyway. I guess money really can't by you love.

**Ginger's Mom** · 10-21-2006, 09:17 AM

I agree with you Cataholic that a lot of times the abuse does not come out until after the woman is out of the household and the proceedings are started because the female then feels safe enough to make such things public. But in this particular case, I do not feel that he was abusive. Yes, it may be more wishful thinking than anything. But as a Beatlemaniac from way back, I somehow just feel that all of us who have taken every opportunity to try and pry into their private lives and minds would have had some sort of inkling of this type of behavior. What I have seen seems to indicate that he is too emotionally weak to be abusive.