I had a meeting with a new gyno this morning. I switched because I was sooo tired of never seeing an actual doctor at my old gyno... always just saw a Physician's Assistant. Anyway, I was diagnosed with a disorder last fall and the meds just never worked for me - the side effects were so bad that I was completely miserable and stopped taking them. The only other treatment is the pill, so I tried SEVERAL versions of it, all with the same disasterous outcome. I went back to my gyno (or should say her assistant) and told her that nothing was working and I wanted to see what else can be done ot treat it. She told me that was all and sent me packing to my family doctor. He actually took time to explain WHY neither the first med or the pill worked for me. My family doctor! Why couldn't the gyno do that? anyway.... thats the background on why I switched.

So today was the first appointment with the gyno my family doctor highly recommended. I explained the whole thing from diagnosis last October to today and he was attentive -- to a point -- he cut me off when he felt he understood what I was describing. I told him I never experienced pain or cramps, and he repeatedly said to me "so you have pain and cramps", to which I repeatedly described what I felt... I guess in his mind my descriptions were considered pain and crampiness?

Anyway, he told me that he wanted me to get an ultrasound... I told him I had one last October that I'm STILL paying for. He looked at my cahrt and said that my insurance was a good one and there sholdn't be any big fees. Next thing you know, I'm actually GETTING AN ULTRASOUND in the office! It all happened so fast that I had no idea what to say... I just went along like a little sheep. I am never quiet. I stand up for myself. So why did I agree to this ultrasound? Intimidation? Fear of uknown? He figured last year's diagnosis was wrong, hence the ultrasound to see for himself... why couldn't he get the films from LAST YEAR'S ultrasound?

He confirmed that my diagnosis WAS correct, but now thinks its only HALF the problem and wants to do exploratory surgery. He gave me a checklist to take to the hospoital for another round of bloodtests...... all the while my head is spinning -- if I do get diagnosed, what good is a diagnosis if there's no treatment my body agrees with? and my head was spinning from the knowledge that this is gonna cost a small fortune. Today's bill came to $460. I have a $350 deductible and a $20 copay, so insurance only pays $90 of that bill and I STILL am behind on the car payments, STILL paying for LAST YEAR'S ultrasound, and now we have the expense of a baby in the house. I want to cry.

I can't tell if I've been treated by a jerk who has a God complex or if he is just really good at what he does that he is a no-nonsense lets-get-her-healthy kind of guy. I dread telling hubby about the appointment when he gets home from work. He already thought me going to the doctor this morning was a waste of time. What would you do? Call your insurance and check to make sure the exploraoty surgery is covered and at least see if he's right? Call yet ANOTHER gyno and go through the whole process all over again? I'm so confused.