Alcohol abuse! PLEASE help!

[king2005]

No its not me.

Its my boyfriend

I knew he had a problem, so I kept picking at him, but hes very stuborn so I could only pick so far. I then started telling him how I feared he was going to turn into his father & I was going to end up like his mother, alone & hurt.

Well that worked. Saddly hes drunk right now, but he realized what he had done. He skipped work to drink So he popped onto MSN (I'm at work) & told me everything. Hes been drinking in the mornings when I wasn't around & he called in sick last week ... I know hes going to loose this job.

He asked me for help & I said I'm taking him to an AA meeting tomorrow night (its a block from my house, every Tuesday at 8:30pm) & tonight I'm bringing him to the clinic..

CRAP gonna miss my bus, will post more

[Karen]

At least he realized for a moment, and asked for help. That's a step in the right direction. Be strong!

[RedHedd]

Good for you for taking him to AA. When the window of willingness opens, recovery is possible.

[Catty1]

And make sure you get to Al-Anon for yourself. That is a huge way to help HIM.

Good luck!

[sparks19]

They say the biggest step towards recovery is admitting you have a problem. So he's already won half the battle. I hope this helps him and you.

[JenBKR]

(((((hugs))))) I know this can't be easy for you to be going through, hopefully you can help him through this. Like someone else said, the first step is admitting that you have a problem, which he did, so maybe he can move past this. Good for you for helping him!

[king2005]

WEll I hopped off the bus at 6pm to meet Shawn at the station by my house. He walked out of the mall with a bag in his hand. It was the Rum he had bought & was drinking. I didn't say a thing about it. We walked to the clinic & I said, you can't bring that in here so toss it out into the trash.. which he did...

The clinic was 100% usless!!!!!
They quickly said look up the # to an AA meeting, they can help, & then they walked out!!

For crying out loud, Shawn was upset they could have atleast talked to him about the dangers or asked him why he thinks hes drinking all the time or that the turnout is good & wish him the best of luck.. or just ANYTHING!!! Shawn was heart broken!! He took a lot of guts to go in there & bring it up & they walked out on him not giving a rats ass!!!!

Shawn was so upset he said he wanted to go for a bike ride around the mini lake to burn off some energy. He returned 25mins later & all seemed ok.


Shawn started to talk to his dad on MSN while I cooked dinner. When I finished cooking dinner I handed Shawn his plate & he was upset. He asked his dad for some help with his drinking (like driving him to his family dr.). I don't remember how the whole convo went but I'll never forget this line!

-Shawn: Don't you care about me dad?
-Shawn's Dad: I want you to be happy, but don't involve me in your life

OMG I nearly cried & Shawn nearly died in heart break!! His father has never been much of a father, but this was uncalled for!!! Shawn couldn't even reply to him. Shawn said thats it, I want him out of my life, I can't take this anymore, he's never loved us (saddly its kinda true), he never cares, he never wants to listen to what we say (poor shawn went on & on)

I said well you need to tell this to your dad, but Shawn said I can't type anymore, can you do it for me.. So I did.. We told his Father that his wish has come true. He is no longer in Shawns life & he was being blocked for life.

I know Shawns dad is the root of Shawn's problems, as all Shawn wants is for his father to love him. I've spent hours talking to Shawns mother (Shawn has no idea what I know) about Shawns father & how she knows thats why both boys are acting out. Shes doing the best she can & it does show, but the boys still want a father!

I'm hoping Shawn will get better, as I did when I ditched my mother. My mother caused me horrible stress & pain & I've never been happier now that shes been out of my life for 3yrs... I know people have said I look & sound much happier & I do feel much happier.

Shawn lost his job

[Pawsitive Thinking]

No its not me.

Its my boyfriend

I knew he had a problem, so I kept picking at him, but hes very stuborn so I could only pick so far. I then started telling him how I feared he was going to turn into his father & I was going to end up like his mother, alone & hurt.

Well that worked. Saddly hes drunk right now, but he realized what he had done. He skipped work to drink So he popped onto MSN (I'm at work) & told me everything. Hes been drinking in the mornings when I wasn't around & he called in sick last week ... I know hes going to loose this job.

He asked me for help & I said I'm taking him to an AA meeting tomorrow night (its a block from my house, every Tuesday at 8:30pm) & tonight I'm bringing him to the clinic..

CRAP gonna miss my bus, will post more

He's on the right road to recovery - has admitted he has a problem which is the biggest step to take. Good luck to you both

[Catty1]

Jess - I would guess you had expectations of how he would react at the meeting.

HOPE is one thing - EXPECTATIONS can be killers. We all do it - have a little script of expectations in our minds. "He/She/They should..."

You can carry the message but not the body. He knows what he has to do.

Get yourself to Al-Anon; you can't have him and his situation renting space in your head. And you'll be better help to him and others if you get support for YOURSELF.

hugs
Catty1

[king2005]

I'm giving up.

I don't want to go into details here, but tonight is more then likely gonna be the end. I'm already talking to someone & they do agree with me & I have 2 friends who also agree. I know you guys have no idea whats going on, but I'm not in the mood to type it out in public.

god I feel like crap, but I come first.

[caseysmom]

Jess, I am glad you are thinking of yourself. You just got out of a traumatic experience with Rob, this seems like it is going too fast. I don't mean to butt in but I think you should have some fun and go slow.

[king2005]

Jess, I am glad you are thinking of yourself. You just got out of a traumatic experience with Rob, this seems like it is going too fast. I don't mean to butt in but I think you should have some fun and go slow.

As in screw the dating world? Way ahead of ya.. I've already given up on that & I'm sick of this BS.. Mr. Right will just have to bump into me one of these days, as I ain't looking for him anymore!

Being single was kinda fun anyways. I also have a friend here in the city now, so its not nearly as bad. Sure it take me 2hrs to bus to her house *brain go off & brain dead drooling begins* but hey, I have a friend!