OMD, Zippy. I'm so sorry. For what it's worth, here are my thoughts.
I'm taking the news harder than she is and finding it easier to cope by ignoring/avoiding any conversation about it.
When I was first diagnosed with lung cancer I found that I spent most of the time doing the consoling. My family, coworkers and friends took it harder than I did. What I didn't like about it is that people would pat me on the arm and say "there, there now". Others simply said "I'm sorry you are sick." Excuse me, I'm not sick, I have cancer. Yet others were just like you. They would not acknowledge it and those people were the closest to me. I don't know the reason why, but I suspect that they viewed cancer as a death sentence, when in reality it's a life sentence and I mean that in a positive way.
Living with cancer is the best thing that could have happened to me. It changed my outlook on life and shifted my priorities around. Things that bothered me back then, don't mean a hill of beans now.
Please don't take this the wrong way. Be quiet for a time if you must, but eventually please think about opening up to your Mom. Tell her how you feel. She needs that. Talking about cancer should not be scary. When one family member is diagnosed with cancer, the whole family is diagnosed and all of you will go through treatment with her. Be there. Support her. She needs you and the rest of the family now more than ever.
{{{hugs and prayers}}} Zippy and you have my phone number. Call me if you need to talk. I'm here to be quiet and to just listen.
Love ya
Slick xoxoxoxo
Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, champagne in one hand and strawberries in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and screaming WOO HOO - What a Ride!
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Sometimes the most real things in the world are the things we can't see
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