[Dear You. . .]

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,

You missed my birthday for the second year in a row and I am hurt. I gave you a birthday gift last year, a Christmas gift, and this year I bought your birthday gift at a local craft show/sale and I thought you would get a huge kick out of it. I spent quite a bit of money on it, more than I'd planned to spend on your gift, but I figured you'd be thrilled; and I am disappointed at your reaction. We usually get together weekly; last weekend you had plans that changed at the 11th hour, and I got the call. I wanted to be invited with the other people you were having over, not as your fill-in guest. This week I made other plans because I expected that you were not going to be free. You asked earlier than last time, but -- sorry -- I'm busy! I know you have nothing planned for next week but I might, or I might not. Depends on my mood.

I don't know what else to do. There is nothing I can tactfully say to let you know how hurt I am that you missed my birthday. You didn't even bother to mail or e-mail me a card. All I can say is that the next time we're together, you better have a gift. And not something you want to regift that you just stuck in a gift bag you happened to have on hand. This time I would appreciate if you'd put some effort into it. You claim we're close, such good friends, and then you do things like this. Actions speak louder than words, missy.

I'm writing this on my calendar so it doesn't happen again next year, because I am hurt; disappointed in you for letting me down; and disappointed in myself for expecting better.

Signed,
Me

Dear B.,

The gift you did give me, when you finally got around to it, was lame. I know I was supposed to be touched, because it was from you, and you collect those, and so you bought one for me; but I wasn't. You'd have been better off letting it go altogether.

Signed,
me

[cassiesmom]

Dear Family,

Thanksgiving is 7 weeks away, Christmas is 12 weeks away, and I am already worrying about who will be where when and how we all will get along. Can we please lay aside our differences for one holiday season and try to make nice for one another?

Thank you,
Your youngest sister

[cassiesmom]

Dear co-worker,

I was a little surprised this morning when you didn't own up to your mistake. When you asked me (in front of others) why I shred documents, I was very embarrassed. You should know the answer to that. I noticed that the company provided ink, postage and envelopes for your party invitations, too. I'm watching the classifieds.

[RICHARD]

Dear PTers.

Who are you all?

I cruise thru threads and sometimes come back to an 'oldie but goodie' thread where I just shake my head and I know that I am reading something special.

I laugh at the "Toilet Employer's" thread and then I am humbled and a little LES'd in the next two minutes.

I have never seen or read so many personal and really touching "notes to Dear You."

I am going to sit down and go thru the thread one day.....

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

I love this thread too. It's nice to look back and go, "I was so stupid," lol.

It is a good read.

[sumbirdy]

Dear You Know Who You Are,

I'm tired of feeling guilty for the decisions I make. They have nothing to do with YOU and everything to do with ME. It's kind of sad to say this but you didn't even factor into the decision making. Stop being so selfish and thinking everything is about you. I know exactly where I want to be and who I want to be with. I know what it takes to make ME happy. For once in my life I want to make ME happy. I've spent 20 years trying to make you happy and it has never worked. You are never happy with what I do, so I'm just going to do what I want. At least one of us will be happy that way. Every time I bring it up I'm just looking for your approval. My mind is not changing but that doesn't keep me from hoping that yours will. I've finally found someone and a place where I belong. Please, even if you think badly of my choice, please just keep it to yourself. I don't need you shooting me down. I've had enough of you shooting me down. I don't want any part of it anymore. I've made my decision and you'll get used to it.

-Me

[cassiesmom]

Dear Glioblastoma in my friend's brain,

I hope the Avastin makes you shrivel up and DIE! DIE, brain tumor, DIE! Leave him alone!

Signed,
Someone who wishes you'd never entered his life

Dear University of Illinois,
You made a huge mistake not admitting my niece. And inadvertently sending out e-mails of acceptance to people who were not accepted was a huge blunder. You were her dream college and I doubt she will reapply next year.
Signed,
Aunt of someone very disappointed

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Dear You,

Be sure to call the doctor tomorrow and make an appointment to get your thyroid checked. It was a rude thing of your teacher to say to you, but maybe she's right. Get it checked just to be sure. It will make you feel better in the long run.

-Me


Dear Chris,

I know you miss me, but I just need some space right now. I'm not sure what it is but I just need to be alone for a while. It's been a rough couple weeks for me and I think the fact that when we started dating, we were together everyday and it took its toll on me. I just don't have time for that anymore. I'm sorry, I still care about you but I just need space.

-Meg

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,

The gift you did give me, when you finally got around to it, was lame. I know I was supposed to be touched, because it was from you, and you collect those, and so you bought one for me; but I wasn't. You'd have been better off letting it go altogether.

Signed,
me

Dear B.,

It's now a year later. I bought you a gift, but I kept in mind what I received from you last year. We'll see what happens. I've lowered my expectations.

Signed,
me

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,

It's now a year later. I bought you a gift, but I kept in mind what I received from you last year. We'll see what happens. I've lowered my expectations.

Signed,
me

Dear B.,

No gift?! What's that about? I guess I didn't lower my expectations enough!

Signed,
me

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,

No gift?! What's that about? I guess I didn't lower my expectations enough!

Signed,
me

Dear B.,

We are so done. You said one thing and then you did exactly the opposite. I simply can't get over it. I am hurt. There was no reason for you to handle it that way. I thought we were better friends than that.

Signed,
me

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,

No gift?! What's that about? I guess I didn't lower my expectations enough!

Signed,
me

Dear B.,
If A. already told you what to do to get your sore ankle to stop hurting, why did you ask me? I think you wanted to rub in that you only started seeing A. 6 or 7 months ago and you're already taking a vacation together. And why did you then tell me that A. recommended the same things I did? I am very confused.

Signed,
me

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,
If A. already told you what to do to get your sore ankle to stop hurting, why did you ask me? I think you wanted to rub in that you only started seeing A. 6 or 7 months ago and you're already taking a vacation together. And why did you then tell me that A. recommended the same things I did? I am very confused.

Signed,
me

Dear B.,
I know you want me to have a coffee with you next weekend since A. is going out of town. But it really makes me feel like I am your second choice. Or your third choice, if I count all your old friends from high school. I am going to pass. This is hard for me to do - we have had many good times together. But since A. came into your life you haven't had much need for me. You dropped me pretty abruptly and that hurt a lot. I'll be having coffee next weekend, but not with you.

Signed,
me

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,
I know you want me to have a coffee with you next weekend since A. is going out of town. But it really makes me feel like I am your second choice. Or your third choice, if I count all your old friends from high school. I am going to pass. This is hard for me to do - we have had many good times together. But since A. came into your life you haven't had much need for me. You dropped me pretty abruptly and that hurt a lot. I'll be having coffee next weekend, but not with you.

Signed,
me

Dear B.,
You and A. went to the theatre and saw a show I really wanted to see. You know I love musical theatre, you know how I feel about going alone, yet you didn't call and ask if I wanted to join you. More proof that I'm your second or third choice.

Signed,
me

[Cataholic]

Dear B.,
You and A. went to the theatre and saw a show I really wanted to see. You know I love musical theatre, you know how I feel about going alone, yet you didn't call and ask if I wanted to join you. More proof that I'm your second or third choice.

Signed,
me

I don't know how old you are, but if you are north of 16, you need to simply drop these "friends" and realize that there ARE plenty of people out there that are deserving of your companionship. These people sound like class A jerks.