[Dear You. . .]

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,
If A. already told you what to do to get your sore ankle to stop hurting, why did you ask me? I think you wanted to rub in that you only started seeing A. 6 or 7 months ago and you're already taking a vacation together. And why did you then tell me that A. recommended the same things I did? I am very confused.

Signed,
me

Dear B.,
I know you want me to have a coffee with you next weekend since A. is going out of town. But it really makes me feel like I am your second choice. Or your third choice, if I count all your old friends from high school. I am going to pass. This is hard for me to do - we have had many good times together. But since A. came into your life you haven't had much need for me. You dropped me pretty abruptly and that hurt a lot. I'll be having coffee next weekend, but not with you.

Signed,
me

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,
I know you want me to have a coffee with you next weekend since A. is going out of town. But it really makes me feel like I am your second choice. Or your third choice, if I count all your old friends from high school. I am going to pass. This is hard for me to do - we have had many good times together. But since A. came into your life you haven't had much need for me. You dropped me pretty abruptly and that hurt a lot. I'll be having coffee next weekend, but not with you.

Signed,
me

Dear B.,
You and A. went to the theatre and saw a show I really wanted to see. You know I love musical theatre, you know how I feel about going alone, yet you didn't call and ask if I wanted to join you. More proof that I'm your second or third choice.

Signed,
me

[Cataholic]

Dear B.,
You and A. went to the theatre and saw a show I really wanted to see. You know I love musical theatre, you know how I feel about going alone, yet you didn't call and ask if I wanted to join you. More proof that I'm your second or third choice.

Signed,
me

I don't know how old you are, but if you are north of 16, you need to simply drop these "friends" and realize that there ARE plenty of people out there that are deserving of your companionship. These people sound like class A jerks.

[cassiesmom]

I don't know how old you are, but if you are north of 16, you need to simply drop these "friends" and realize that there ARE plenty of people out there that are deserving of your companionship. These people sound like class A jerks.

I'm way north of sixteen (44). Things changed a lot when they started spending so much time together. Life goes on!

[cassiesmom]

Dear B.,
I know you want me to have a coffee with you next weekend since A. is going out of town. But it really makes me feel like I am your second choice. Or your third choice, if I count all your old friends from high school. I am going to pass. This is hard for me to do - we have had many good times together. But since A. came into your life you haven't had much need for me. You dropped me pretty abruptly and that hurt a lot. I'll be having coffee next weekend, but not with you.

Signed,
me

Dear B.,

I'm so sorry to find out that you are down and out again. It's been a long time since this happened. And yes, I'm aware that I have not visited you since this all started. But you have A., and your have your high school friends, and you've made it clear to me a couple of times that you don't have much need for me. I know you will do well with this newest treatment. I get that you will be out of commission probably until June, but you have a lot of people to keep your mind occupied and help you get to your medical appointments and meet your other needs. This is a good chance for A. to see what the next 30 years might look like. I'll be interested to see if A. will stick around.

Signed,
me

[Cataholic]

Cassiesmom,
Good for you. Stay strong, and find real friends that value you for being you.