Women changing their last name to that of their husband after marriage...

**RICHARD** · 02-08-2005, 03:01 PM

Originally posted by Tubby & Peanut's Mom
Grunt and pull the girl around by the hair?

That was before Hallmark cards and Valentine's day..

**IRescue452** · 02-08-2005, 04:07 PM

I'm keeping my last name and my kids are getting my last name. I happen to be very family oriented toward my family and would like to keep my identity. My older sister and younger sister have our mom's last name, I have my dad's and my two youngest sisters have my stepdad's. My mom just used whatever sounded the best with the first names she liked.

**Andie** · 02-08-2005, 06:02 PM

Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
However, you should make sure, if you do change your name, you retain credit. I've seen too many widows who encounter significant problems because everything was in the husband's name and consequently, they must reestablish credit in their own name.

Not a problem for me cuz I'm the one with the credit and Dust is the one without any. So basicly everything is in my name (even his truck) so if we ever have a fight he'll be in the doghouse (literally) and walking.

**Andie** · 02-08-2005, 06:02 PM

Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
However, you should make sure, if you do change your name, you retain credit. I've seen too many widows who encounter significant problems because everything was in the husband's name and consequently, they must reestablish credit in their own name.

Not a problem for me cuz I'm the one with the credit and Dust is the one without any. So basicly everything is in my name (even his truck) so if we ever have a fight he'll be in the doghouse (literally) and walking.

**Andie** · 02-08-2005, 06:03 PM

Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
However, you should make sure, if you do change your name, you retain credit. I've seen too many widows who encounter significant problems because everything was in the husband's name and consequently, they must reestablish credit in their own name.

Not a problem for me cuz I'm the one with the credit and Dust is the one without any. So basicly everything is in my name (even his truck) so if we ever have a fight he'll be in the doghouse (literally) and walking.

**Suki Wingy** · 02-08-2005, 08:16 PM

My mom never did it and I'm not gonna either. That's just weird. Come on, you had your own name, a name which you are very proud to have, then you just change it?

**mina'smomma** · 02-11-2005, 02:14 PM

Originally posted by Karen
I changed my last name to Paul's when we married. I had a very common last name - there were three of us with the same first and last name in my own hometown. So I figured, why not change it to something less common?I will always be my parents' daughter, no name change could change that, any more than it could change the dent in my chin, the shape of my hands, or the color of my eyes. I was under no pressure from either family regarding my name, by the way.

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This is the same reason I'm changing mine as well. I'm a Smith and if you want to see just why look in the phone book. You won't see any of my relatives. Plus with the first name Renae it is way too common.

**Samantha Puppy** · 02-11-2005, 02:53 PM

Originally posted by Suki Wingy
My mom never did it and I'm not gonna either. That's just weird. Come on, you had your own name, a name which you are very proud to have, then you just change it?

I happen to be a newly married woman who changed my name to my husband's. I don't think it's weird, nor do I think less or differently of anyone else who chooses NOT to. How would you like it if I said I thought *not* changing your name was stupid?

You are free to think what you want, but you may want to be a bit more tactful in posting your thoughts unless you don't have a problem stepping on people's toes...

**ramanth** · 02-11-2005, 03:30 PM

Originally posted by mina'smomma
Plus with the first name Renae it is way too common.

You think Renae is common? Try Kim Smith!

And my sisters are Linn and Jenn. LOL!

**slick** · 02-11-2005, 03:48 PM

I think Debbie is right in that names do give away a preconceived notion....take, for example, Brandee - with two e's. Be honest, what comes to mind? Certainly not some high-class lawyer yet, she could very well be.

I've never been married, nor do I ever intend to but I think I would also keep my own name, not because of identity (I already know who I am) or the other reasons you've all listed, but because of convenience. Everybody knows me as a Heys and so I shall remain. Just my 2 cents worth.

**RICHARD** · 02-12-2005, 10:07 AM

On the news this morning I heard that Tah Raise Ah Heinz Kerry will be now known as......

Teresa Heinz.

**persianmom** · 02-12-2005, 01:23 PM

I'm not sure how I feel about this. I know when I married I took my husbands last name, not because I didn't like my madien name but because I felt like I was honoring the man I loved, and we were starting are own family. I stayed married for 26 years and when we divorced I kept his name because it has been a part of me for years and my son will have that name for life and He will always be part of me. When Christine married she took her husband last name. I don't know that she thought of not taking his. But she will always be a (last name) and now part of other family. That I love dearly. I guess it is a matter of choice and what the women feels comfortable with. I do know working as a nurse that hypen names do cause confusion. Your never sure do you use the whole name or part of the name.

**RICHARD** · 02-28-2005, 05:15 PM

Here's another example of the mixups that happen when adults play the NAME GAME.

Here I am looking for a patient in the database by the name of ASHLEE S -

I try every friggin spelling in the book for the first and last names.

I spend 5 minutes looking and find out that the child is an "Also Known As"....because someone made a notation on the schedule-but didn't bother to change the name in the DB....

The last name begins with a "C"...

The patient is 6 MONTHS old is chronically ill and has a TRACHEOSTOMY...

Of course, should the child come into the emergency room and in the confusion the parents do not let the ER docs and nurses know about the kid's OTHER name, there is the chance that no one will be able to find the kid's chart.

One important thing about a PATIENT RECORD is that there is a
TONS OF INFO ON A PATIENT. Blood types, Allergies, and special precautions.

Just think about it-

The nurse pulls out your ID with your hypenated/maiden/married name but you have not made everyone aware of your name change.

YOU are allergic to penicillin or some other drug - in your unconcious state you can't tell your doctor that you ARE ALLERGIC, the records room can't find your chart and the nurse is loading up the syringe...

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Is t he million dollars you get in a lawsuit worth the loss of your six month old child because you can't figure out who's name is going on the birth certificate or patient record?

**Suki Wingy** · 02-28-2005, 11:30 PM

I am VERY proud of my name and can trace my family all the way back to the countyin Ireland where they lived. It will stay that way for my whole life. I have a very Irish last name.

**melandchico** · 03-02-2005, 10:01 AM

Choice....that is the key word. As far as I am aware, anywhere except the province of Quebec, People can keep their maiden name or take their spouses last name.

In Quebec, we don't have the choice. We are obligated by law to keep our birth name when we marry. I am so mad about this.

I got married almost a year ago and wanted to take my husbands name. We are planning on having kids soon and since this is my immediate family now, I wanted to share the same family name. I love my husband and would be proud to have his name. When we have children they will have his name and as soon as we move out of this province mine will be changed too.

In Quebec the only way you can change your name is if you change your birth cert. How ridiculous is that? When we get pregnant, I am planning to convienently be in Nova Scotia (where I am from) to give birth and will put my last name as my husbands last name so on the childrens birth records it is all the same.

My mother-in-law was married 10 years and when they moved to Quebec she had to change her married name and all her ID back to her birth name. When they moved back to NS, she changed it all back. What a pain in the butt.

The point of my post is, I don't feel that the choice should be made for you by a government law. I think it should be the choice of each induvidual person what is best for them and what they believe in.