Aren't we your friends too?

[Twisterdog]

To be perfectly honest, I've never once gone into any of the cat forums ... because I don't have a cat. I'm allergic to cats, so I'm never going to own one. It's nothing personal, I just have no connection to or interest in cats.

I post in the dog forums because I have lots of dogs; I read and occasionally post in the pet general forum because I have birds, hamsters and a snake ... and I post in General and Dog House because I like to blab and debate.

So I can certainly understand if someone owns only cats, and has no interest in dogs or politics, that they would never leave the cat forums. I highly doubt it's anything personal on their part, either ... one posts and reads where ones interests lie, that's all. Most of us are incredibly busy, with school, work, kids, pets, etc. We have to use our precious free time wisely.

I wouldn't blow it out of proportion. I'm sure it's not a case of Dog People vs. Cat People or anything like that. We simply post where our interests lie.

[tikeyas_mom]

I dont know what to say really. I mean I share my house with a main coon kitty, but I never post pics or story's about him. I have 4 times before and got a couple replies. but huh...

This is a odd post. I would infact like to meet some of the cat ppl. Jordan *wolfsoul* is now a "cat" person lol. and she is my best friend..

I just dont venture over to the cat side... I feel out of place..

[leslie flenner]

is it because you don't have a relationship with your kitty the way other cat owners on the cat side do? I mean- some cat owners really do feel akin to their cats like kids! (i do) so if you aren't getting that connection - I can see why you would feel "out of place".

[chrissycat21]

I don't venture over to the cat side much because I don't have a cat. I'm going to get one when I have my own house someday, but for now I have a dog and guinea pig so I'm in PG and DG. The times I have been in CG I do feel out of place, possibly because I am younger then everyone else? (Thats how it seems, I'm 13 and I don't know any one else here that is.....)

I do understand about us playing favorites. I have posted pictures of Snowy or Taffy and have only gotten 1 or 2 replies, while someone who has posted something after me is up to 20. It could possibly be that I'm a 'newbie' and since I haven't been on PT for all that long not a lot of people know me. But sometimes it is upsetting to see Replies:0.

-Chrissy

[shais_mom]

Even if people say "You should post more pix"
I do.. then only 3 or 4 people reply and they are always the same people (thank you!!!)

I don't remember feeling unwelcome on the cat side even before I had a kitty. But on the dog side there have been times that I and others have posted pics of our dogs and we get a handful of replies. Other people can post hundreds of pics and get pages of replies and they post more often then we do and yes it does hurt feelings. I am not pointing fingers at the posters or the repliers but it is something that has been on my mind a lot. B/c if makes a person feel like "what is the point in posting, they don't care if I do or if I don't. " I don't know if it is b/c I have made some of the younger generation mad and that is why my threads don't get looked on the dog side or what. I say the younger generation b/c that is over half of Pettalk, especially the doggie side. I do know that I can count on my close friends to reply and see my threads. I don't know if that means I am part of a clique or not. But I do know that there are cliques that I don't belong too. I also realize that sometimes a thread will get put on the 2nd page rather quickly on a busy day. I have a bad habit of only looking at page one. I think that is why the time I posted about Keegan meeting Rocky, only one person replied and I had to bump it up and it got several more replies. But my feelings were hurt for a little bit even tho they probably shouldn't have been.
When I first joined I stuck to the dog side, then I got a kitty and the kitty side then I went to General. I usually check Dog General, Cat General and General.
I hope I haven't made even more people angry, but everyone else was being honest so I decided to also.

[tikeyas_mom]

Originally posted by leslie flenner
is it because you don't have a relationship with your kitty the way other cat owners on the cat side do? I mean- some cat owners really do feel akin to their cats like kids! (i do) so if you aren't getting that connection - I can see why you would feel "out of place".

Well maybe if the cat that lives with me was mine then I would have more of a relationship with him, but he is my brothers.
I personally have never had luck with cats, they always ran away, got hit byu a car, got attacked by wild animals, or were stolen. Even the inside ones... .. So I dont really want to own them anymore, it is to painful to loos them.

[K & L]

I only have a short time here at work, and at home, that I'm able to post. I rarely go to anything but the cat side. I would really enjoy reading everything, but is impossible for me. I feel lucky to post as much as I do on the cat side. Sorry!

[Harmanie]

Well,

I definetly know that I am not well liked here. So I'm kinda afraid to do posting now in fear of people acusing me of lying. I didn't really get off to a very good start.so umm. here i go.


I read some of the posts and noticed that people agree , well most, that the cat side people genrally get along easier. no one is judged by what pet they have. but what about the mistakes that they make? What if one person slips up once. the very first time? does it go unseen? To tell you the truth i am seriously scared to post and thread my ideas now. All because i messed up . I have made two good friends so far who have not judged me. maybe i can find more elswhere?

[catland]

Originally posted by popcornbird
what did we do to have the prayer requests for PT'ers that needed them hidden from us, just because the ones who needed prayers were cat people? I know that I have sadly missed out on praying for several members that were ill or had surgery, because their threads were in Cat General.

This was from the very first post and I think its probably the most powerful part of it.

The power of PT prayer has been used by so many here - it is very appropriate to have it in the General thread. A cross-post in the animal specific section would also be ok.

Also, lets not get so hung up on ourselves here, what PCB mentions isn't a PetTalk issue, its a nettiquette issue. For ANY forum like this it is proper ettiquette to put posts in their correct category to assist the reader.

I posted a question in General just yesterday and while I didn't receive an overwhelming number of posts, the ones that I did receive were very thoughtful and appreciated.

(as for why there are more posts in Cats - its because we have a lot of time on our hands because our cats are ignoring us. )

[shais_mom]

K & L
There is no reason to apologize, you do what you can do. We all live very busy lives.

Harmanie, I don't understand what you mean as to you aren't very well liked here, I think that is the first post I have ever seen from you.

[carole]

I have to agree with Staci, Harmanie I have not come across you before either, and I have been here a while now, maybe you did only post a couple of times and things went wrong, I don't know the reasons, but Just wanted to say, you should give us all another chance, we are a great lot of people who welcome new members with open arms, so don't be afraid no more, hope to see more posts of yours popping up soon ok.

[Tonya]

Originally posted by Harmanie
Well,

I definetly know that I am not well liked here. So I'm kinda afraid to do posting now in fear of people acusing me of lying. I didn't really get off to a very good start.so umm. here i go.


I read some of the posts and noticed that people agree , well most, that the cat side people genrally get along easier. no one is judged by what pet they have. but what about the mistakes that they make? What if one person slips up once. the very first time? does it go unseen? To tell you the truth i am seriously scared to post and thread my ideas now. All because i messed up . I have made two good friends so far who have not judged me. maybe i can find more elswhere?

Harmanie, I read the posts that made you feel unwelcome. They were totally out of line, and I felt very bad for you. I think that we have dealt with so many people looking for trouble lately, that some people at Pet Talk are quick to judge.

I am very sorry that you got off to a rough start. I hope that you stick around at PT. It is a fun place and there are lots of great people here.

[CatMama78]

Originally posted by catland
(as for why there are more posts in Cats - its because we have a lot of time on our hands because our cats are ignoring us. )

**LOL**

[trayi52]

Catland, you really got it right!!

[swimma253]

Originally posted by Kfamr
Catnapper, that just kind of made me feel bad. I guess I won't post about things going on in my life anymore.... I never saw any problems with you doing such.

I don't seee why there's such a need to be seperated by ages. We are all human... age is just a number we carry.

PCB.. please stop taking my thoughts.. it is scaring me.

I agree. Catnapper, I think the whole "Older people dont want to hear about your personal life... and we dont want to hear your nagging" thing was a little harsh... Not to be rude or start a fight. But I think that when teens post about their personal life and are asking for advice, alot of the people replying with good advice are adults. And their advice is usually the best. I never found it a problem with other people posting about their lives.

If you dont want to hear "nagging" or "whining" from teens/kids... then ignore the post.

As for me... my best friend is 38 years old. And I am 14. (lmao) It may seem wierd... but we seem to connect better then I and my "kid" friends do!


Carly