Where I'm at now...something positive

[3Catcondo]

Can you try Advil or Tylenol PMs? Or Chloratabs (for allergies) also help me sleep when I cannot sleep. Sending good thoughts your way, and sleep vibes.

Amy

[rosethecopycat]

I am back in the same place with the sleep thing.
I was doing better, but the last few days I've boarded the emotional rollercoaster once again.

I had the sad task of telling my dear British neighbors (who just returned from Italy for the last 7 months) Their daughter lives next door year round and they stay for the winter months.

Well, it was a double whammy. As I was telling them that my husband is leaving me for another woman, they are telling me their daughter is splitting up with her husband (who still lives in London- long distance marriage for 3 years) That couple have both changed their positions (there is no other person involved) She got him a Green card, and he said: whoa, won't you come back to London -and have babies? Well, she doesn't want kids and he always knew that. Now, she says: she likes him as a friend, not a husband, after close to twenty years of being together.
That leaves my neighbors in a precarious position, as my husband had told me that he should have never married me, 12 years ago, and he thinks of me as a friend. They have to support her, and yet they do not support my husband for his misdeeds. Strange.

I am just so sick of people accidentally marrying their friends. And then oh, sorry about your life.

My husband's discontent just coincides with the appearance of this woman a little too much. I am choosing not to believe that I was part of a 16 year mistake. I consider him lost.


Gayle, just try an over the counter sleep aid, or a glass of wine at bedtime. I don't think the sleepless phase is going to last.....I hope.

[Queen of Poop]

Rose, you're definately not part of a 16 year mistake. He thinks he's found greener pastures on the other side of the fence. Too late he will realize what he's lost. In the meantime you will have moved on and found real, true happiness for yourself.

I sent an email today to the counsellor I was seeing a few years ago, who encouraged me to leave, who my husband made me stop seeing because of the encouragement. I've not heard back yet, I hope I do and that she will have some time to see me.

Progress, one tiny baby step at a time.

[Queen of Poop]

So everyone knows, I am absolutely done feeling sad and/or missing that lousy not soon enough ex-husband of mine. The liar, the filthy, filthy liar. Given it all I should not be surprised.

[Alysser]

So everyone knows, I am absolutely done feeling sad and/or missing that lousy not soon enough ex-husband of mine. The liar, the filthy, filthy liar. Given it all I should not be surprised.

I am glad you're moving on! KEEP it up! Although, I feel you're angry..very angry. Being ANGRY is fine, it's the next phase, but rememeber feeling a different feeling IS MOVING ON! KEEP IT UP!

[rosethecopycat]

So everyone knows, I am absolutely done feeling sad and/or missing that lousy not soon enough ex-husband of mine. The liar, the filthy, filthy liar. Given it all I should not be surprised.

Good for you Gayle.

That is a huge step. Nothing to miss there, really.
I hope you are finding moments of comfort too.

[cassiesmom]

Thinking of you both today, QoP and RtCC and hope you've both had a good day.

(((HUGS)))

[Queen of Poop]

Getting stuff done today!
Got booked in with my old counsellor for Nov 18. Had to stop seeing her cause he felt she was talking me into leaving him - should have followed her direction not his! (hindsight)
Got his name put on the gas bill for the house so it doesn't come to me.
Last night sent a bunch of info to the lawyer.
Changed dentist appt to January, just can't do it now, been thru enough. Woman there was a hoot had a great chat about getting divorced.
Changed my beneficiary on my life insurance and RRSP.
All around I feel like I've done alot and I feel really good about it.

[Catty1]

YAY!

Are Cali and Diego the new beneficiaries, by any chance?

[phesina]

Getting stuff done today!
Got booked in with my old counsellor for Nov 18. Had to stop seeing her cause he felt she was talking me into leaving him - should have followed her direction not his! (hindsight)
Got his name put on the gas bill for the house so it doesn't come to me.
Last night sent a bunch of info to the lawyer.
Changed dentist appt to January, just can't do it now, been thru enough. Woman there was a hoot had a great chat about getting divorced.
Changed my beneficiary on my life insurance and RRSP.
All around I feel like I've done alot and I feel really good about it.

Wow! What a lot of real accomplishments! You must feel so good.

You go, girl! Give yourself a pat on the back, at the very least. You deserve it.

[Karen]

All around I feel like I've done alot and I feel really good about it.

Doesn't it feel good? We're all proud of you, pour yourself a good mug of hot chocolate to celebrate, and add all the marshmallows you want!

[rosethecopycat]

Getting stuff done today!
Got booked in with my old counsellor for Nov 18. Had to stop seeing her cause he felt she was talking me into leaving him - should have followed her direction not his! (hindsight)
Got his name put on the gas bill for the house so it doesn't come to me.
Last night sent a bunch of info to the lawyer.
Changed dentist appt to January, just can't do it now, been thru enough. Woman there was a hoot had a great chat about getting divorced.
Changed my beneficiary on my life insurance and RRSP.
All around I feel like I've done alot and I feel really good about it.

Nice work Gayle.

My neighbors have given me some melatonin tablets to try, to help me sleep. I'm really sleepy now, but it's not even 10pm yet. And then, later on, I'll be sleepless and thrashing in the bed from 3am on.

I have a Pet Guardian form to fill out. And I am going to have a will made.
I will have Siamese Rescue and PurrEver Ranch as my beneficiaries.

My meeting with the lawyer is on Thursday, with my 'husband'. Hopefully he will just sign off on what I'm offering him and I can rest a bit easier then. And no courts.

PT- please pray that he does not contest my settlement. Last Saturday he said he'd just agree to my terms. Hopefully, he'll leave me be, and not destroy me further. ( I can't believe that this is the same man who cared for old, sick Malfi, on our bed for 4 years)

Gayle- I'm really impressed by the strides you have made just in the last week or so. Keep it up, there are good things waiting for you.

[Queen of Poop]

Rose, I'm praying for you now and will keep fingers crossed on Thursday that it all goes the way you want it to. You're doing good too girl. The not sleeping is really crappy cause it makes the emotions all the worse. Sending you a good night hug across the miles to help you sleep.

[Daisy and Delilah]

Be strong. Ladies!!! {{{{{GAYLE AND ROSE}}}}}

[carole]

way to go girls, you are both amazing, and strong women,remember your support group is always here for you,it takes courage to do what you are doing,i wish you both all the best, and Rosethecopycat,my thoughts are with you on Thursday, i hope all goes well, and fingers and all paws crossed here for you. HUGS to you both.

Would some chamomile tea help with the sleep at night, might be worth a try.