Johanna i really do need to clarify what i was saying, you have mis-understood my post a little so i shall explain myself clearer, i was not insinuating that someone who drinks two beers a week is an alcoholic, no way, but in my ex husbands case he was, he could only afford two beers a week on his wage, but come hell or high water he would have those two beers no matter what, i too had difficulty with it realising he was an alcoholic at first until it was explained to me, he was not actually getting enough booze for his addiction which made his moods swings terrible and him a very hard person to live with, it affected my relationship with him alot.
This Johanna is what makes it different from you or anyone else drinking two beers a week and not affecting them in anyway, i also could do that and it would not do anything bad to me either.,also the fact he could NOT do without them no matter what, he would rather we did without some necessity than not get his two beers,that is what makes it different.
He also suffered from the DDTS when he was drying out, that does not happen to someone who does not have an addiction., I saw him go through that and it was not a nice experience for him believe me.
When we shifted and bought a shop, we had more money and he had to go to the wholesaler to buy food for the shop, he also picked up bottles of whisky or whatever and then his drinking increased, he hid it all over the shop, funny thing was he could serve in that shop and appear co-herrent, the minute he finished he was blind drunk, that still amazes me until today.
Do you know what the turning point for him was, the day I asked him to carry our then newborn son up the stairs, unbeknown to me he had been drinking, believe me he hid it well at times and was very good at it too, he was drunk and was scared he might slip and fall with our son, that was the day he asked me to get him help.
Also for those who don't know if you were drinking say two bottles of wine a day when you became sober, if you start again you will go back to square one, it is not usually a gradual build up of one drink here and there but straight back to where you left off.
Sorry i dont want to hi-jack this thread in anyway, and it is not about me and my past life, but just felt the need to explain things clearer so as there are no mis-understandings .
Denise i was worried you might take my post the wrong way, but i am glad you did not, my concerns for you are real and i know that your stubborn nature as you put it might indeed get you through this, I just want you to always know you are never alone and don't be afraid to reach out for help, take care and i wish you well.
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Originally Posted by carole
) I then had a quick sing-a-long to John Denver and went on my way..... 
I am so proud of you & for turning the bottle down.. I have been off & on reading all of the Thread & I think you are so brave & have noted how all of the Pet Talk Family is behind you 100%..
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