Women changing their last name to that of their husband after marriage...

**RICHARD** · 02-02-2005, 02:37 PM

One warning about a hypenated name.

The hyphen drops your name to the bottom of list as far as your name goes.

Companies do not put a space between the names and hyphens, a computer sees the hypenated name as one long name.

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When you change your name CHANGE YOUR NAME ON EVERYTHING and do it the SAME WAY, EVERYTIME.

I had some knucklehead yelling and screaming at me once-she was lost in the system.

She called to have a medical record release form filled out and I couldn't find her on the computer.

Janet Doe-Smith was Janet Smith-Doe in my computer- She was 'experimenting' with her last name and decided to take a few years off of her age to boot.

**lizzielou742** · 02-02-2005, 08:47 PM

I'm planning on changing my name when my boyfriend and I get married. I like his last name much better than mine. My new name will be Elizabeth Morgan....I think it sounds beautiful. I can't wait!

And no, we're not engaged...yet

**joycenalex** · 02-02-2005, 09:04 PM

richard is right, be consistant about your hypenated name usage. all the time i've spent searching in the filmroom stacks or the hospital computer for a on/off hypenated name could have been put to better use (like giving alex the wonder dog tummy rubs or magic the meow-king ear skritchies)

Originally posted by RICHARD
One warning about a hypenated name.

The hyphen drops your name to the bottom of list as far as your name goes.

Companies do not put a space between the names and hyphens, a computer sees the hypenated name as one long name.

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When you change your name CHANGE YOUR NAME ON EVERYTHING and do it the SAME WAY, EVERYTIME.

I had some knucklehead yelling and screaming at me once-she was lost in the system.

She called to have a medical record release form filled out and I couldn't find her on the computer.

Janet Doe-Smith was Janet Smith-Doe in my computer- She was 'experimenting' with her last name and decided to take a few years off of her age to boot.

**aly** · 02-02-2005, 11:52 PM

Originally posted by lizzielou742
I'm planning on changing my name when my boyfriend and I get married. I like his last name much better than mine. My new name will be Elizabeth Morgan....I think it sounds beautiful. I can't wait!

And no, we're not engaged...yet

Hey, nothing wrong with planning ahead

And the future name is beautiful!

**Felicia's Mom** · 02-03-2005, 08:50 PM

I took my husband's name when I got married. Back then, I thought that was the only way to do it.
I kept my married name after we divorced. Because my brother had married someone with the same first name as mine.

**jazzzytina** · 02-04-2005, 06:45 AM

Well, my response is somewhat humorous. My husband said, Honey, you can keep your married name if you wish, and I said, oh, no, Darling, I love you SOOO much that I would be proud to have your last name

so I went from Taylor to Helmstetler.

I do still love and adore my husband (and his family) but damn that name is hard for so many people!!!!

**lbaker** · 02-04-2005, 07:36 AM

One thing I don't understand is so many women (here and outside PetTalk) say they want to keep their own "family" names. Well, isn't your family name actually your Dad's family name? Where does your Mom's family come into play

Not to start anything weird or anything but, think about it...what's in a name really "a rose by any other name...."

**christa** · 02-04-2005, 08:46 AM

Maybe I'm just old fashioned, but I just love my husband so much, I was proud to take his name. I have an excellent relationship with my parents, so it wasn't that I wanted to get rid of my maiden name . . . I still use my maiden name as my middle initial . . . I couldn't imagine not taking his name.

**jazzzytina** · 02-04-2005, 02:45 PM

Marriage name changes.

Year 0-1

Honey, sweetie and darling.

years 1-5

Honey and sweetie.

years 5-10

Hon.

years 10-?

You SOB, I told you to take out the &*#$! trash a half hour ago!
Are you gonna sit there and watch &*#$! sports all day long?

LOL RICHARD!!!!!!!!!!

**DJFyrewolf36** · 02-04-2005, 08:15 PM

My husbands last name is hypanated already thanks to his moms divorce. He said he didn't want me taking his last name until he changed it lol!

I have too many things under my last name. I'd have to fill out an entire forrest of paper to change things. Thats prolly why I will never do it.

**Cataholic** · 02-06-2005, 10:21 AM

Even before I was this high-powered lawyer (LOL, honest), I never wanted to change my name. I liked my name, and really didn't like the thought of changing it "just because". I never thought down the line to what name the child would have. But, in reflection, that child doesn't know any other name but the one you bestow upon him/her at birth. That is different than someone that was brought up as Smith, and will now become Jones at marriage.

So, fast forward to Jonah...welllll...he has my last name. I wouldn't dream of having him with another name. He carries with him some of my mom, as Jonah's middle name is her maiden name. That to me, is the wonderful part of not being bound by tradition. Jonah's name is HIS name. Created by yours truly.

I never thought that a child having another name than that of his mommy was much of a deal. In 2005, it is VERY common (sadly or not) to have the child have a different name that that of his parent. Hopefully the teachers that are educating the child are quick-witted enough to overcome the hurdle of last names, and still know that Bobby Smith's mom is Jeannie Jones. Hopefully. If that is still a concern, you might want to investigate other school districts.

**RobiLee** · 02-06-2005, 08:15 PM

To be honest, I never even thought about it. I was 18 when I got married and at that time I never even thought about keeping my own name.

I just think it is whatever a person is comfortable with and wants.

Johanna....what if Jonah's father wanted his son to have his last name. Would you have considered it? I'm just curious. I don't know the situation and if Jonah's father is around.

lbaker...I really like what you had to say..lol. That is one of those things that make you go hmmmm.....you have a very good point!

Robin

**lizzielou742** · 02-06-2005, 10:54 PM

Originally posted by aly
Hey, nothing wrong with planning ahead

And the future name is beautiful!

Hee hee hee, thanks!!!

**Cataholic** · 02-07-2005, 09:26 AM

Originally posted by RobiLee

Johanna....what if Jonah's father wanted his son to have his last name. Would you have considered it? I'm just curious. I don't know the situation and if Jonah's father is around.
Robin

I considered it, and flatly rejected it. It is an incredibly difficult name to pronounce and spell. He isn't around, and this was ONE of the things we fought about hotly. I wasn't so sure of WHY it was so important to him, in the scheme of things. He argued long and tiringly so about 'pride', 'heritage', 'tradition'. Odd, for many reasons. We weren't married, and I had no intention of marrying him. I wanted Jonah to have my last name. In Ohio, the mommy makes the decision. Thankfully.

**sirrahved** · 02-07-2005, 09:42 AM

I never considered not changing my name, and I'm happy with it. My maiden name was Buchholz... so I married a Harris! Not a single person has asked me how to spell my last name since the wedding! My sister married a Brown, and my aunt married a Smith. I guess with a name like Buchholz hanging over your head for so long you are glad to put it behind you!

I think it signifies the two of you becoming one family. I've heard of some couples that pick last name together. I've always thought that was cool, but could never do it! I'm a "go with the flow" type.