If your child was gay..

[Uabassoon]

would you want to know?

I'm not asking if you would or wouldn't love your child or if you would wish for them to change or anything like that. The question is simple. If your child was gay would you want them to tell you or keep it a secret?

Sorry to bring this here, I just wasn't sure where else to ask. I can't ask most of my friends seeing as how most of them are gay as well so they would give me a biased opinion.

This is the situation, I've been "out" since I was around 16. Some of my family members know, all my friends and coworkers. But I still haven't told my parents. I know that my dad knows, because he's commented on it (not in a negative way, just letting me know that he knows) but we've never actually talked about it. I've never said a word to my mom and I have no clue if she knows. I've never said anything because I guess I wanted to protect her. I think she's an amazing mother and I am blessed to have a mother as caring as wonderful as she is. I worry she will think it's her fault instead of just realizing this is who I am.

I love my mother so much, but it hurts me that I have such a distant relationship with her because I hide so much of my life. I'm jealous of my sister who talks to my mom daily about her boyfriends and parties and all the things that she does. I want that relationship with my mother as well. I want her to know me, I feel like she doesn't know me at all and it's my fault.

I'm 23 and I've been in a wonderful relationship for over a year now, and things are starting to get serious. In September my parents will be visiting me and more then anything I would like for them to meet her, even if we just go to dinner one night.

So if I were your child would you want to know, or would you rather I just keep it secret.