Self Injury

[sweet_stormy]

i did that once... only once... i got really stressed out in school with everything goin on... but i know better now... that didnt solve anything for me... my best friend found out about it when he grabbed my arm... i said "ouch" and he found out then... but im past that now... im better

~*Becky*~

[Mandy1]

Originally posted by Kfamr
I'm with Micki. I don't believe i'll ever understand the reasoning behind this. Those who do cut/self injure themselves need a LOT of help, but the fact is a lot of them are too stubborn to recieve it.

That said, I know plenty of people who do it, and sadly it's almost become a trend and "cool" thing to cut yourself and show off your scars.

I've never heard of 'cutting' becoming a trend.


It's not that people are to 'stubborn' it more that people are embarresed and don't want to tell anyone about it.

[Kfamr]

Originally posted by Mandy1
I've never heard of 'cutting' becoming a trend.


It's not that people are to 'stubborn' it more that people are embarresed and don't want to tell anyone about it.

Just come to my school then.

Kids shows off their cuts and scars all the time like it's some sort of awesome thing to do.

And yes, many of the kids in my school are stubborn.

[Mandy1]

Originally posted by Kfamr
Just come to my school then.

Kids shows off their cuts and scars all the time like it's some sort of awesome thing to do.

And yes, many of the kids in my school are stubborn.

Thats sad

[Cincy'sMom]

I have heard that self-mutilation is the "new" tatoo or piercing trend. Sad when a seriuos disease, or state of mind, becomes a popular trend.

[Tonya]

Originally posted by Kfamr
Just come to my school then.

Kids shows off their cuts and scars all the time like it's some sort of awesome thing to do.

And yes, many of the kids in my school are stubborn.

Yeah, it is sort of a trend. There seems to be an epidimic out there where kids thrive off of being angry and depressed. Actually, I can't even say it's trendy for sure. For the most part, if you hang out with angry, hurt, depressed people you are going to wind up feeling down too. It's almost contagious.

[luckies4me]

I cut myself fairly often. Sometimes it's out of boredom or frustration. It doesn't hurt and it's just a little razor cut. It's not really a big deal, and it's better than taking out the frustration out on others. I hate how people automatically assume you are crazy just for cutting yourself. I haven't done it in a long time, but it's the same as people drinking caffeine. It's my body so I can do what I choose right?

[Miranda_Rae]

Originally posted by Kfamr
I'm with Micki. I don't believe i'll ever understand the reasoning behind this. Those who do cut/self injure themselves need a LOT of help, but the fact is a lot of them are too stubborn to recieve it.

That said, I know plenty of people who do it, and sadly it's almost become a trend and "cool" thing to cut yourself and show off your scars.

To me real self injurers are the ones that do it to release emotional pain, and who hide their cuts and scars by long shirts, pants, braclets, etc. and who do everything in their power to not let anyone know that they do that. They willl avoid social situations because of it, they will lie to their friends and family so that they don't find out about it. To me THAT is who a self injurer is, not someone who harms themselves and tells the whole world. That person is trying to get attention and unfortunately the wrong way. I do agree though that some people have taken cutting or w/e as "cool" and the newest trend, sadly. I am sorry that a lot of people in your school use it as the newest "trend". I wish that a lot more people would understand it and just not say "oh its the newest trend and thats why people do it." A person who i think is a "real" self injurer not a lot of people would know, not even their best friends, they hide it from everyone they know. I don't think that people who do self harm for what i listed above are trying to be cool or using the new "trend".

Luckies4me, I have a question for you. You say that it just hurts you, but what do you think your friends feel like when they find out that you are do that? I am sure that it makes them sad. And when your son gets older do you want him to think that hurting himself is ok because mom did it? How would it make you feel to know that your son does it because he thinks its ok because mom did it? Just curious. I didn't mean to jump all over you if thats what it sounded like.

[carole]

Cass I was kinda shocked to read that you have cut yourself through boredom and fustration, the latter I can understand some, but boredom, hmm that amazes me.

Miranda Rae asks some good questions, I am sure knowing you Cass that you would never cut yourself in front of your son, he would be totally unaware of it.

I am just glad to hear you no longer feel the need to do it anymore.

[Miranda_Rae]

Originally posted by carole
Miranda Rae asks some good questions, I am sure knowing you Cass that you would never cut yourself in front of your son, he would be totally unaware of it.

I hope I didn't give the impression that you did it in front of your son, Cass. I'm sorry if I did though, I didn't mean to.

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by Miranda_Rae


Luckies4me, I have a question for you. You say that it just hurts you, but what do you think your friends feel like when they find out that you are do that? I am sure that it makes them sad. And when your son gets older do you want him to think that hurting himself is ok because mom did it? How would it make you feel to know that your son does it because he thinks its ok because mom did it? Just curious. I didn't mean to jump all over you if thats what it sounded like.

No it doesn't hurt, at all. Have you ever been holding a cat and it scratches you on accident? Well, that is worse than what I've done. I guess I just get bored or something and to be honest I just like it. I don't slice myself open like all the others and would NEVER do that. If I was in that much pain I'd rather have a good wrestling match with my bf for fun than torture myself. No worries about the questions. I don't see it at a big deal. My friends know I do it, and I don't do it around my son. It's so very minor, like I said. I see it as the same as people wanting tatoos or piercings. Getting a tat is so much more invasive than this! I don't have nasty scars on my body. I do have some, but they dissapear in a few months. And Dylan doesn't know I cut (I hate that word because I don't consider myself a "cutter") myself, and never will. I have worse scars from my pets than myself. Plus I haven't done it for about a month. Like I said, I guess it's more out of boredom and the fact that I like blood. As soon as I see blood I stop. It's the same feeling I get when I sit down and finish coloring a picture I drew or putting on makeup....I guess I can't really describe it.

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by carole
Cass I was kinda shocked to read that you have cut yourself through boredom and fustration, the latter I can understand some, but boredom, hmm that amazes me.

Miranda Rae asks some good questions, I am sure knowing you Cass that you would never cut yourself in front of your son, he would be totally unaware of it.

I am just glad to hear you no longer feel the need to do it anymore.

Well, the last time I attempted my friend stopped me, which kind of pissed me off because I don't see it as a big deal. I mean if I were really hurting myself than yes, but I have no thoughts of suicide so it's not like i'm gonna go run away and lock myself in a bathroom, and it's just tiny tiny scratches. But anyway, I haven't done it for a long time. I guess it all started when I was in junior high and my brother and all our friends cut an hour glass figure into our arms to form a "pact". Ahh I bet I sound so silly. Oh well.

[carole]

Cass maybe you should be asking yourself, why you felt the need to do it? I don't think boredom would be the real reason, I find that hard to understand, I guess I am having trouble seeing the logic behind it, your reasons etc, but hey if you see it as no big deal, I guess its not really a problem as such.

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by carole
Cass maybe you should be asking yourself, why you felt the need to do it? I don't think boredom would be the real reason, I find that hard to understand, I guess I am having trouble seeing the logic behind it, your reasons etc, but hey if you see it as no big deal, I guess its not really a problem as such.

I just consider it something I do because I'm stupid. Why do people turn themselves into tigers? There really is no need. I just do it to do it I guess. I used to do it out of frustration just so I could feel the pain and I would go deeper, but now I just do it for the heck of it. I don't know, I have issues!

[Miranda_Rae]

Originally posted by luckies4me
No it doesn't hurt, at all. Have you ever been holding a cat and it scratches you on accident? Well, that is worse than what I've done. I guess I just get bored or something and to be honest I just like it. I don't slice myself open like all the others and would NEVER do that. If I was in that much pain I'd rather have a good wrestling match with my bf for fun than torture myself. No worries about the questions. I don't see it at a big deal. My friends know I do it, and I don't do it around my son. It's so very minor, like I said. I see it as the same as people wanting tatoos or piercings. Getting a tat is so much more invasive than this! I don't have nasty scars on my body. I do have some, but they dissapear in a few months. And Dylan doesn't know I cut (I hate that word because I don't consider myself a "cutter") myself, and never will. I have worse scars from my pets than myself. Plus I haven't done it for about a month. Like I said, I guess it's more out of boredom and the fact that I like blood. As soon as I see blood I stop. It's the same feeling I get when I sit down and finish coloring a picture I drew or putting on makeup....I guess I can't really describe it.

If you don't think its a big deal then I guess its not, but my thoughts are that if you do it some day when your son is older I am sure he will find out and I think the message you are giving him is that its ok to cut yourself (even though you hate that word and don't consider yourself a cutter thats what you are doing). Just my thoughts, and what do you mean "slice yourself open"? When you cut deep enough to see blood I would consider it slicing yourself open. Just curious. Again, I don't want you to think that I am critizing you, I am NOT and I am not trying to. I'm sorry if I sound like it though. I understand what you are saying though.