Need Advice -- Please!!

[jenluckenbach]

I called my Dad's parents Grandma and Grandpa.

I called my Mom's parents Grandma and Pop-Pop. This step-grandmother (who I did not meet until I was 11 years old) wanted us to call her Ba-Ba but there was no way in heck I was going to do that.

My mom's grandmother and grandfather were Nana and Pappy.

[shais_mom]

I called my both sets of Grandparents Grandma and Grandpa.
When I was little I called my dad's parent's Grandma and Grandpa Tippy b/c we had a dog that we 'shared'. In the winter Tippy went to live with Grandma and Grandpa - in the summer she lived with us.
My mom's parents I called THEM Grandma and Grandpa Ted - why? B/c my mom has a brother 16 years younger then her so when I was little he still lived at home and was there whenever I was so it was always Grandma and Grandpa AND Ted!
I had younger cousins that called their grandparent's Mamaw and Papaw and they called our grandparents Grandma and PaPa. Try as I might I could not call my Grandpa - PaPa. But that stuck and all the rest of the younger cousins called him that and when he passed away that was one of the name that was on the funeral arrangement at the casket. I wish they would have put PaPa and Grandpa b/c the older group of grandkids called him Grandpa.

I got news for your mother in law - Nug may call her whatever ever he wants and that may stick. My sister's father in law was the same way. He wanted to be called Granddad b/c that is what HIS dad is called. Noone wanted him to do that b/c the originial Granddad is still very much alive and that would cause confusion. Kinda like being in Walmart and yelling MOM - everyone looks! My nephew (the oldest grandchild and at the time the ONLY) solved this problem when he started talking. One day Cliff (father in law which is also Granddad's name too so that wouldn't have solved matters either!) was outside doing something and Jake looked out and yelled "DADO" and they said "that's Granddad" and he nodded and yelled "Dado" and he is "DADO" to all 4 of his grandkids! And he doesn't complain one bit.
My nephews call my dad PaPa. I call him PaPa to Keegan and she knows exactly who I am talking about.

Good Luck.

[.sarah]

My dad's parents are Nana and Pawpaw to me. My mom's parents were a little upset about it as that's what they were already called by other grandchildren. They stayed Nana and Papa (different spelling) to their other grandchildren, but to me and my brother they became Nanny and Papa C (C is the initial of their last name).

Maybe that would work in your situation -- other grandchildren (if she has or will have) can call her Mom-mom, but your kids could call her something else.

[k9krazee]

I have (dad's side) Grandma and Grandpa lastname and Grandma I (initial of last name), and Grandma and Grandpa lastname for my mom's side.

[carole]

My children call my parents Nana and Grandad, can you not have them called mom-mom but add their surname to it, the letter like mom-momB and mom-mom g as an example, it is up to you really.

[finn's mom]

I'd just ask her if she has any specific reasons for wanting to be called Mom Mom. It could be as simple as she doesn't want to be called "grandma" cuz it sounds old or something. You never will know her feelings on it if you don't ask. It could be just something she overheard and thought was cute. And, she may not realize that it's such a big deal to you. And, my only question is...is it that you don't want anyone to be Mom Mom to your son or that you don't want your mother-in-law to be Mom Mom? Meaning, a lot of times names like that get passed down...like if you called your grandmother a certain name, sometimes your child will call his/her grandmother (your mother)the same thing you called yours...what is your mother wanting him to call her? I hope it all works out for the best. I would definitely ask her, though, why she specifically wants that name.

[BitsyNaceyDog]

I'm quite pressed for time, so forgive me as I didn't read any of the other replies.

If I were you I would try to explain to your mother-in-law that the baby already has a Mom-mom. Even though your Mom-mom has passed away she still does and always will hold a very special place in your heart. You want your baby to hear stories and to know about your (and his) Mom-mom.

I simply called both of my grandmothers "grandma". I was very close to one of them and almost never saw the other. A sweet lady that I knew (she passed away just 2 months ago) was known to everyone as "Moms". Her grandchildren were the first to call her that, but as they grew up everyone else started calling her that too.

[Kfamr]

My dad's side is Memaw & Papa. My mother's side is Grandpa & Grandma Rose. Grandma Rose is my step-grandma, as my mother's mom passed away before I was born.

[Samantha Puppy]

And, my only question is...is it that you don't want anyone to be Mom Mom to your son or that you don't want your mother-in-law to be Mom Mom? Meaning, a lot of times names like that get passed down...like if you called your grandmother a certain name, sometimes your child will call his/her grandmother (your mother)the same thing you called yours...what is your mother wanting him to call her? I hope it all works out for the best. I would definitely ask her, though, why she specifically wants that name.

I know this sounds awful, but I don't want anyone to be Mom Mom. MY Mom Mom was so special, I just feel that anyone else using the name wouldn't be half the person she was. I KNOW that's not true, it's just that she is the epitome of this name and I'd be measuring up everyone else to her.

I don't know that I'd have as much of a problem if MY mom wanted to be called Mom Mom, as she is my Mom Mom's daughter and is very similar, but Cindy is just so different. She's not chubby and jolly and all that. For example - we couldn't afford furniture for the baby other than the crib. While Cindy was kind enough to offer Josh's old baby chest and changing table to us, and I really do appreciate the offer, my grandmother would've loaned us the money to buy matching pieces because she knows how long I've dreamed of having a baby and setting up a nursery. (We used to look through JCPenney catalogs together and pick out what we liked and didn't even though I was eons away from having children.) MY mom went to Cindy and asked if she'd be interested in buying the changing table for us if she (my mom) got the chest. Cindy said no, she didn't want to spoil us and we needed to use what we had instead of being handed everything. Now. I *do* agree with that frame of mind for a lot of things, but when it's something as special as having your first baby? I'm sorry, I just don't. And I don't fault Cindy for not wanting to take part in buying new furniture - that's just the way she is. And my Mom is different and that's just the way she is. But you see, my Mom did what HER mom... MY Mom Mom... would've done.

Cindy's just so different from what the word Mom Mom means to me. She's not a bad person by any means, even though we do butt heads sometimes. She's just different. And try as I might, I cannot break MY view of what a Mom Mom is to be able to call her it.

[finn's mom]

Then I would just tell your mother in law how you feel. I would be really shocked if she feels as strongly about being called Mom Mom as you feel about her not being called that. Good luck, though...

[Samantha Puppy]

Thanks, Kari - and thanks everyone else for your advice. It's not like I'm sitting here in tears over this. I'm just torn and really needed to know if I was overreacting or if my feelings were valid, etc.

I appreciate everyone who took the time to respond!!

[finn's mom]

Thanks, Kari - and thanks everyone else for your advice. It's not like I'm sitting here in tears over this. I'm just torn and really needed to know if I was overreacting or if my feelings were valid, etc.

I appreciate everyone who took the time to respond!!

No problem. And I think it's a smart thing, that you come in here to blow off some steam, and, really listen to what other's are saying...asking for advice on stuff like this. Because, chances are, if you had gone to your mother in law before all this, it may have been more confrontational and emotional than if you went to her about it now. And, your feelings should never be considered invalid, even if you are overreacting. If it's how you feel, then that's as valid and real as it gets. And, I don't think you're overreacting at all, by the way.