PM tracking....question

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

I never click on it! In my opinion it is rather a rude thing to do

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by Maya & Inka's mommy
In my opinion it is rather a rude thing to do

I kinda thought so, too....or at least a shady thing to do. I did hear from one person privately that had done it once.....and, I've heard a few people that do it accidentally, and, that's different. I'm all ears, though, if someone wants to enlighten me on why it would be used regularly.....it just still makes no sense to me, but, I'm interested in hearing why someone might use it.

[Logan]

I have hit "deny receipt" on Private Messages before, by accident before and I never knew until now what happened when I did it. Sorry if I've ever offended anyone by doing that to you! It was never intentional! One time I really offended a good friend, as well, by deleting a message that I had sent her when she didn't open it for several weeks. Turned out she didn't have her PM notification turned on so she didn't know it was there and when I deleted it, she thought I was mad at her because some huge "Deleted" sign showed up in red letters and showed that I had deleted it. I sure was happy that we cleared that one up! LOL!!

What is intentional, though, is when I get a personal email with a "return receipt". I say "no" to those requested receipts every single time. Finally had to admit to my mother in law that I don't open forwards very often and that I never say yes to a returned receipt unless it's business, just so she wouldn't think I was never opening her emails. She stopped forwarding stuff to me all together. It's not that I don't like forwards, I just don't like all the "junk" that goes along with them and if people would take the time to just clean them up and get rid of all the previous addresses before sending it, it would be so much better!

Hehehe!! I'm off my soapbox now and headed back to work.

Logan

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by Logan
Hehehe!! I'm off my soapbox now and headed back to work.

Logan

You're fun, I love reading your posts. I didn't think that was too soapy. I agree with the forwards thing, I rarely respond to them. I try to read them sometimes, if I have time, but, I don't usually think many of them are worth replying to or forwarding. I have one friend that only sends forwards, loser. Ah, well. I don't know that I've ever hit deny receipt before, and, I had NO idea what it did until this thread. Glad you were able to fix things with you and your friend, though!

[dukedogsmom]

I consider most forwards nothing more than spam. And it kind of makes me mad because now a lot of people I don't even know have my email address.
Back to the pm thing, there's some people that use that deny receipt all the time. I would like to know why, too. Like Popcornbird said, if you check the message tracking often, you can tell when they read it, anyway.

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by dukedogsmom
I would like to know why, too. Like Popcornbird said, if you check the message tracking often, you can tell when they read it, anyway.

Or at least that they know you sent it. I think you can click on deny receipt without opening and reading the message. I usually don't bother with the tracking thing anyway, and, I end up with a full message box because of it. But, lately, I realized what it was, and, I've been looking at it. And, I kept wondering what the heck was going with certain ones, it was just irksome to not know why it was only happening with certain messages and not all of them....this explains at least what's going on, but, I'm still lost as to why it's used. Hmmm......someone wanna enlighten me? I know y'all are out there!

[finn's mom]

bumping this up in case a deny receipter hadn't seen it yet. No one has shared anything with me, yet, and, I just wanted to try one more time......

[anna_66]

Well the only reason I could guess would be so you didn't know if they read the pm or not. I guess some people don't like other people to know when and if they read them

[finn's mom]

Well, everyone knows what assuming does....makes an a** out of you and me. Ha ha, but, I can only assume that the deny receipt is a rude thing and meant to be that way, as I've not had one person tell me why it would be used regularly. Crazy! If it wasn't meant to be a negative thing, I would think someone would have volunteered a reason to me, even if it was just privately. C'est la vie. But, I hope it doesn't happen to too many other Pet Talkers in here, because so far, the folks that have shared with me that it's happened to them as well, have said that it hurt their feelings at the time.

[swimma253]

I always seem to click deny recipient accidentaly. Once I clicked it and didnt know, and just got the message a couple days ago, which was like a year later!

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by anna_66
Well the only reason I could guess would be so you didn't know if they read the pm or not. I guess some people don't like other people to know when and if they read them

But, you can tell when they've received it, though, I guess I don't see the difference......I don't personally care when someone has read it, just that they received it. I guess I just was curious why someone would worry about whether or not the other person knew they'd read the pm. Oh, heck, it's hurting my brain. Ha ha, I'll just go back to never even looking in my message tracking. Again, I just hope no one lets their feelings get hurt anymore when someone denies receipt of their pm, it's not worth it.

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by swimma253
I always seem to click deny recipient accidentaly. Once I clicked it and didnt know, and just got the message a couple days ago, which was like a year later!

Ha ha, oops!

[Daisy and Delilah]

Kari, You have really brought up a good point here. I think when each one of us sends someone a PM, we are making a special effort to be nice and thoughtful to someone. It does hurt when you don't get anything back or at least just an acknowledgement from someone. It's especially hurtful to see your PM "disappear" so to speak. You're left hanging and wondering what happened. If you've taken the time to PM someone, naturally you want to track it to check it's status. I don't think anything is wrong with you being concerned about this and again, thanks for starting this thread.

Terry

[carole]

I have never pressed it accidentally or had any problems with it, I just assumed it was a rude thing to do, by the wording itself DENY RECEIPT,self explanatory in that way.

I guess not all pm's are sent with friendly intentions.

[dukedogsmom]

I agree with that, Carole.