Is it worth the fight?

[carole]

I think I would re-inforce what Lizbud had to say Kim, in other words an old saying comes to mind "choose your battles", now I don't alway's practice what I preach lol, but I guess you just have to weigh it all up and decide is it worth all the aggro.

I sure can empathise with you 100 per cent, so far my daughter is not too bad dress wise, but she has a strong sense of what she likes and dislikes, and at 13 I can still have a say as to what she wears, although she has her own money too.

I think it might be a case of grin and bear it, I know kim it is so hard HUGS, but be sure and compliment her when she looks really nice. GOOD LUCK you'll need it.

[catnapper]

Thanks again guys!

My cousin and Aunt always fought over clothes too. My daughter and cousin have the same taste in clothing (as hubby says "yeah, no taste") Anyway, my cousin is almost 20 and realizing she's not getting respected when she dresses like that. At Christmas this past year, a girl came to my Aunt's party dressed EXACTLY like my cousin used to dress. She came running over to her dad and I and whispered "who's that girl in the SCANDALOUS skirt?" My uncle said, "Um, honey, its longer and covers more than the skirt you wore LAST year." She said "Oh yeah, I forgot about that skirt." LOL

My aunt gave us a TON of my cousin's old clothes (only the ones my aunt knew were approriate ) and this morning my daughter was wearing a pair of plum colored jeans and a black shirt from the hand-me-down bag. She looked FANTASTIC! Belly was covered, butt wasn't plastered over. Everything fit her the way it is SUPPOSED to fit. I complemented her, and I think she liked to hear me compliment her. I have to remember to call and thank my aunt a thousand times over tonight.

[Twisterdog]

The only rule I make with my son and clothes is that it cannot be profane. No shirts with obcene or offensive sayings on them, etc. Other than that, I say nothing.

I'm totally sick to death of seeing him and all his friends walking around with their boxer shorts showing, walking on the too-long legs of their too-big jeans, wearing hats pulled down over their eyes, etc. But, if that's the WORST my son does, then I'll be thrilled.

If I had a daughter, I'd all add that clothes can't make her look like a prostitute ready to go walk the streets, but other than that, I'd let it go.

We all did it. I'm sure my parents were cringing when we dressed like Madonna in the 80's ... but they said nothing and we got over it.

[mruffruff]

My daughter showed me her new bikini Sunday. Nice suit, big overhang. Kids!










(She's 40 now)
Mary

[LKPike]

Originally posted by Twisterdog
I'm totally sick to death of seeing him and all his friends walking around with their boxer shorts showing,

theres a joke here that you should go up and hit a guy thats got saggy jeans, to see what he'll do. Will he let go of his jeans and have them fall down to his ankles in an attempt to hit you back, or what?

[carole]

We had that look here in NZ as well, but it seems to have died out some, there are still a few guys wearing them like that, but not a lot, so fashions come and go., I am glad the grunge look for girls has gone from here, now the shops are full of pretty pastel feminine sparkly clothes, I really love the new fashions this year.

[catmandu]

Kim,the sad thing,is that there a Lot,of Wolves out there,and by dressing,that way,your daughter,is sending out,the wrong signals,whether she means to,or not.And I pray,that she does not find out the hard way,a harsh lesson,in life.Melodramatic,just ask,the Police,and they will tell you,some ery scray stories,about Older Creeps,who pray,on Young Girls!