Marriage

[carole]

I think it does depend on the maturity of the individuals and what they want out of life.

I was married the first time at 24, then this time round at 34, whatever age you are, it takes hard work and more than just love to make it work.

My mother was married at 18, and my niece at 19 the same age as my sister, who has been married 32 years now, personally I would have hated to marry so young, not for me, I think an average good age would be around 26-28.

I think marrying in the thirties is a little harder, as you become so set in your way's, well from my experience, the first few years were fun but ever so challenging, and a period of real adjusting for us both, now we are settled, like the old comfortable shoe and sock lol.

[mina'smomma]

I will be getting married in three months,and I'm glad I waited. I was engaged for the first time when I was 17 to my high school sweetheart who went into the Army. Unfortunately that engagement went south when I went to visit him in CO and he had gotten married behind my back.

It worked out in the end though because Lee Roy is one of the best things that has happened in my life. I'm very excited at the thought of being his wife and we're even talking about getting pregnant this time next year.

[Glacier]

I was almost 27 when we got married. Stuart was 32. That was perfect for us! We'd both done all the silly, stupid, really fun stuff that single people can do and married people end up in divorce court over! He had indulged his wanderlust and travelled the world. I had two degrees, a career and the solid knowledge that I can support myself.

My sister got married days before her 19th birthday. They are still together, 11 years later, but it's been ugly. It's been a constant struggle for them. They've separate numerous times. Now they have three kids to consider too. They aren't the same people they were as teenagers. My sister lacks the ability to support herself and her kids. She stays, at least in part, because she needs to.

I've tell Stuart that I don't need him--I can support me, the dogs, the cats, this house, ect on my paycheque. I can run a chainsaw, get wood, make sure the water guy shows up, fix the fences, stop a leaking tap, change the light fixtures, kills spiders ect, ect, ect by myself if I have to. I don't need him here, I want him here. It annoys him to no end sometimes, so I sometimes let him take care of "man" things. In the long run though, I think it's a healthier relationship because I am not dependant on him.

[RICHARD]

I think you wait until you are in your mid thirties....

Then a few days before your wedding you jump on a bus to Las Vegas, without telling anyone.....

You start a manhunt and leave your signifigant other to be be looked at the next Scott Peterson.

Clip all the newspaper clippings and scrap book them-


You know, something to laugh about with your grandkids....

[Karen]

Paul and I married the summer we turned 22 (25 days after my 22nd birthday, a day after his). It was the right age for us. I do not think, though, that there is an perfect age. It depends entirely on the people involved. For some people 22 is way too young, others think that if you're not married by 25, you're hopeless - but it depends on the two people involved, their personalities and maturity levels, or lack thereof - and other circumstances.

[LKPike]

I'm getting married this year, 18

in villages in india, africa, asia, etc they get married around 10-12 which is considered the "perfect age". they arent allowed to live with their new spouse until both children are atleast 16 yrs old. they believe that love will come AFTER marriage, so they arent marrying from lust, puppy love, etc. It must be working the 20-something year old couples interviewd on Taboo ((tv show)) seemed very happy with their childhood marriages.

[LKPike]

Originally posted by RICHARD
I think you wait until you are in your mid thirties....

Then a few days before your wedding you jump on a bus to Las Vegas, without telling anyone.....

You start a manhunt and leave your signifigant other to be be looked at the next Scott Peterson.

Clip all the newspaper clippings and scrap book them-


You know, something to laugh about with your grandkids....

Jennifer Wilbanks?? I've never heard of anyone doing that from "cold feet"..... wouldnt a simple "no" be enough?

[moosmom]

I voted for 31 and over. Why? Well, I got married at the tender age of 20. I knew Peter for a total of 7 months before we got married. The only REASON I got married was because my father told me "No daughter of mine is going to live in sin!!" when we told him we were going to live together. (six months after I got married, HE moved in with his girlfriend and her 9 year old kid Go figure!!).

I never had the chance to experience life. Everyone matures differently. I didn't mature until after I was divorced and lived a few years on my own.

[dukedogsmom]

I'm not going to vote, either. But, I'd probably go with late 20's because you change so much then.

[chocolatepuppy]

I think it depends on the people involved. My husband and I were 18 and 19 when we married. They said it'd never last. Here we are 29 years later.

[popcornbird]

I think it depends. There's no 'perfect' age. For some people, getting married young and going through every aspect in life together is the perfect thing. Sometimes, even if you want to get married young, you don't find the right person until years later. Some people mature later in life and are ready for marriage at a later age. Some people want to be settled financially before marriage. Therefore, I feel there's no 'fixed age'. It depends on every individual.

That being said, I do feel the best age for me and for most would be some time during the 20s. I hope to get married in my early 20s...sometime between 20-25. I'm not quite ready yet, but I feel in a year or two, I might be ready to start 'looking'. I once used to say, I NEVER want to get married. It still scares me when I think about it but I now look at marriage as a 'nice' thing. Just the thought of the change in life frightens me...but I know there must be no better thing in the world than sharing your life with the person you love the most, and I also know...one day, I will yearn to get married........so better get it over with while I'm still young. He he he! Just hope I get a wonderful, kind, loving guy. I don't want to delay and wait till I reach my 30s like my cousins did, and then have to go through so much emotional pain because of it. They want to get married now, but at 35+, its hard for a girl to find a husband. Most guys looking for wives are younger, and want young girls too, unfortunately... I think it gets more difficult finding a suitable match when you get older, because you become so set in your ways, and, by that age, the type of people you'd want are already married. That doesn't mean there's no hope when you're older. A lot of people find wonderful spouses later in life too. Like I said, it all depends, but I would prefer getting married in the 20s...not too young and not too old, in my opinion. I think people in their teens are too young/immature for marriage, but even at that age, it works out for some.

[cocker_luva]

i think 21-23...well for me at least

[dukedogsmom]

I would like to add that it sometimes can be a huge disappointment, as well. I am on a campaign for parents not to teach their girls that it can be like a Cinderella story. Really hurts later on when reality hits. Just make sure when you do get married that you don't ignore signs like I did(dog abuse, previous spouse abuse).

[mruffruff]

An interesting poll.

I'd like to hear from the ones who voted 'Never'.

I really like Glacier's attitude--that's the way a marriage should be!

[CalliesMom]

I was 23 when I got married and am now 25. Though I feel as if 23 might be too young for most people, I have been with Jason since I was 18 and have never wanted to date others. I could not be with him if I did not feel that I could also be independent and complete my education, as well. I never wanted to have to rely on someone else for support--I have wanted to be able to contribute and be able to be on my own if anything were to happen to us.
I feel that though we are two completely different people, we have grown and matured together. He brings out my best qualities as I hope I do for him. He makes me want to be a better person and I believe that is what marriage is all about.