I am not sure why I am even posting this, but I am, it is a long story, but my Husband dis-owned his whole family three years ago, we had heard only a month ago his sister's husband Brian had throat cancer, and then my son told me he died yesterday.

My husband was mad as heck because his other sister's husband came around to tell us, I kept him away and dealt with the situation as best I could, I sincerely believe he only came here because he thought it was the right thing to do.

It only stirred up my husbands hurt and distressed him really, and angered him, he really does not want to know or have anything to do with any of them, it is very complicated and I donot blame my husband, I am concerned he still has all this anger inside of him, he needs to let it go and move on, as it is still eating away at him.

Besides all that I do have empathy for Brian's children , he leaves behind a 14 year old son, and two daughters 16 and 18, and yes I do feel for Steve's sister as well.

It is so hard being stuck in the middle, my loyalties lie with my husband, because I went through all this with him, saw his pain, his hurt and anger and saw him nearly suffer a breakdown because of what his family did, but in times like this I do feel sorry for them as well, it was not that long ago that his other brother lost his son in a motorcycle accident, my husband was quite close to his nephew, but he would not attend the funeral, because of the others.

Thanks for letting me vent my friends, I have such mixed emotions about it all, I did not know my brother n law well, but I am glad his suffering is over and may he rest in peace, and his family find the courage and strength to get through this terrible time.