I am in tears right now...

**catland** · 01-06-2005, 01:45 PM

Is it remotely possible that your dad was kidding? He just might not have been aware that with the pain that you are in that it just wasn't very funny.

My sister in law also had to do the bedrest thing. It was very hard on her. But worth it. He is now a very healthy and happy fifteen year old who can't wait to get his driver's license. (they grow up so fast).

Good luck and take care of yourself and your baby.

**smokey the elder** · 01-06-2005, 02:23 PM

Poor Tonya! How clueless can people get, anyway?

**mina'smomma** · 01-06-2005, 02:23 PM

I agree with moosmom with the answering maching. I'm so sorry that your family are being butts. I would also speak to your husband tonight and let him know what they are doing. I'm sure your sister will understand why you weren't at her game. Just call wish her happy birthday, and leave it at that. It's not like you asked to be put on bedrest.

**lizzielou742** · 01-06-2005, 02:33 PM

I'd be like, "HELLO, I'm having CONTRACTIONS every 8 FREAKING MINUTES so I am NOT going to a $%^&* basketball game!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

But that's just me.

Just don't answer the phone. If your dad comes over, maybe he will see how much pain you are in and come to his senses.

DO NOT LET THEM GUILT TRIP YOU!!!

My family ALWAYS does that crap. Don't let them do it. It's rude, mean, & unnecessary!! You did nothing wrong!!!

**pitc9** · 01-06-2005, 02:37 PM

Wow!!

I don't understand some people's thinking!! Esp your own family!! Come On People!! WAKE UP!

Tonya, you know what is best for you, please don't give in to their pressure. Hang in there girl, we all are here for you and would not make you get out of bed for a basketball game!!

**NoahsMommy** · 01-06-2005, 03:09 PM

Tonya, honey. I"m so sorry...you're family just doesn't understand.

Stay in bed. Chat with us on PT...we'll be supportive, OK?

HUGS

**Corinna** · 01-06-2005, 03:56 PM

All the above are great ideas but I have one more don't answer the door even if it is your dad.
I know I was on bedrest with my first one (shes now 23yrs old and fine) at the 7 month mark. I had to go live with my mom it was pure hell. Mom was great but the bed I got a new one after my daughter was born i hated that one so much. Do stay there , Mom decided I needed fresh air so we were going out to see the X-mas lights and get a forbidden soda. I stepped down on ice and fell. I was out for a mintue or 2 , 4 springers smothering me my dad trying to scatter them so he could pick me up. 2 hours later at the ER I had broken my foot ,but all else was fine.(it was my due date) 2weeks later my daughter came healthy and fine. (we stilldid go see the lights and get me a soda.)
If they keep bugging on the phone unplug it ,get a prepay cell and only the school(for the boy) and for hubby to know the # . You need quiet and calm. As was said before stick with us and we'll see ya through this. {{{HUG}}}}

**catnapper** · 01-06-2005, 04:22 PM

Oh Tonya!

I hate to say it, but their selfishness has reached new heights. I think the changing outgoing answering machine message idea is brilliant.

**Christiansmommy** · 01-06-2005, 05:22 PM

Ya know what...that is just crazy!! I can't believe they aren't being more concerned...there is a little life growing inside of you, and they should understand the improtance of that...sorry they don't...(((HUGS))) to you...you are being a very responsible mommy, keep it up

Little Tyler will thank you in the long run

**luvofallhorses** · 01-06-2005, 05:55 PM

that is just not right! how would they like to be in your situation they should run a mile in your shoes and see how it is {{{{many hugs to you}}}}

**shais_mom** · 01-06-2005, 08:00 PM

Originally posted by Tonya

@#$&*% them. That's all I have to say.

Maybe I am in a &itchy mood b/c I have no power and everything but this reeeaaaallllyyyy perturbs me.
Not you, of course.
You're simple minded parents

If they don't care enough about you're unborn baby to want you to be at trivial events for them then, I am with you....

@#$&*% them.

So sorry about you're troubles.

**GraciesMommy** · 01-06-2005, 09:35 PM

I am so sorry that they are being so ignorant about all this but you do what you know in your heart is right and that is taking care of yourself and the little one..you both come first! Let them act like jerks all they want, they should be ashamed of themselves..
Give us all their email and we will blast them for you..lol

**carole** · 01-06-2005, 09:44 PM

Oh Tonya sweetheart as if you aren't feeling miserable enough, I wish I were there for you to give you a giant gentle hug and tell them off, how ignorant of them all, chin up girl, you are doing the best and right thing for your baby and that is all that matters, however having their support would also be very nice, unfortunate that they are being so selfish that they cannot see what is right in front of their faces.

Cheer up Tonya WE ALL LOVE YA, and just ignore their comments as hard as it is to do. TAKE CARE.

**krazyaboutkatz** · 01-07-2005, 12:50 AM

Tonya, I'm so sorry to hear that your family just doesn't understand the importance of bedrest.

I really like the idea about changing your message on the answering machine. Please remember that everyone here at PT will be supportive and we all care about baby Tyler's health and yours too. Please take care. {{{HUGS}}}

**Maya & Inka's mommy** · 01-07-2005, 03:21 AM

Oh Tonya, please don't give up... . I agree with everybody's remarks here!! YOUR health and TYLER's are the issue here!! Doesn't your stepmom remember the contractions she had when she delivered your dad