Prayers Please

[aguu]

I'm so sorry. Your family is un my thoughts and prayers...

[sirrahbed]

Originally posted by rosethecopycat
My father was 'actively dying' for 11 days. Tough guy.


Rose

Oh Rose!! I pm'd you about this! I am going to need calm prayers if this is the case. I had no idea the active phase could last this long.

For the rest of you "active" means the body is naturally shutting down - begins with kidneys and bowels - they stop working. Extremities mottle - or turn purplish - become cold and without circulation -from fingertips/toes and then upwards towards the body. The body dies from the farthest points from the heart inward. There is usually no pulse, even with a doplar, except at the carotid. The brain is the very last so the person may appear comatose with no pain response but they still can hear and process everything that happens and is said around them. They do not eat or drink. They must be turned often. Finally, the breaths stop for longer amounts of time (Cheyne-Stokes breathing) then start again - often with a gasp. Eventually, the heart simply stops beating.

[catlover4ever]

Debbie, you and Dennis will certainly be in my prayers. I know just what your family is going through, I watched my grandmother "actively die" for a week...and was holding her hand when the good Lord finally came to take her to Heaven.

[luckies4me]

Prayers sent!

[molucass]

It will be 1 yr. ago tomorrow that I sat at the end of my grandmas bed and watched this very thing happen that you just described. I was with her all day, as was my mom, and aunt and I watched her pass on peacefully. That was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.

Dennis and the entire family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[catfamily]

I'm so sorry for this sad time in you and you're family's life.Prayers are for you you're family and for Dennis's dad.

[snappy]

Sirrahbed - you and your extended family are all in my prayers. I know that Hospice will help with the passing for your FIL as well as the family left behind. Those who work in Hospice are a very special breed. They were there for my father - and really helped my Stepmother get through everything. I hope it all goes quickly and quietly for all.

[Katiesmom]

Sending prayers your way

[QueenScoopalot]

Sending prayers for a peaceful, and calm passing for Dennis' dad. My MIL (a world traveler) who lived in the jungle in Mexico until a stroke fell her 11 years ago, passed away last year. She had advanced cancer as well, though because of her stroke (which didn't dull her fluent Spanish, or quick wit with dirty jokes) she refused to have her cancer treated. Hubby( Dave) and I, as well as the rest of his siblings took turns visiting her at the nursing home during her last days with us. Annie hung on until I whispered in Dave's ear (tell her it's OK to go). I know it was very hard for him to say those words, but she passed away very peacefully later that same evening. Her ashes were flown to Mexico and interred into a special place in her casita. She's happy there. (((HUGS))) to Dennis and the rest of the family during this tough time.

[anna_66]

Deb, your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[gini]

Debbie, you, Dennis and his family will be kept in my prayers.

I pray that Dennis' father has a calm and peaceful passing.

Give yourself a big hug as you hold down the fort with the kitties.
Dennis will be drained when he returns home.

[AbbyMom]

Prayers on the way.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Debbie, prayers are on the way. Please take care.

[sirrahbed]

I am talking to Dennis every night and he is overwhelmed when I tell him how PT folks have responded with care and prayer. Thank you SOOO much! His dad is still about the same as yesterday - periods of no breathing are lengthening and his blood pressure is dropping. There is no response to pain. The hospice nurse feels something is making him hold on and Dennis feels it may be the youngest daughter who is very upset, crying, sobbing, etc. We have both tried talking with her, me on the phone and she understands she must let him go - but is not able to verbalize this. He is in her home
Thank you again!

[AmberLee]

Prayers continuing.