venting

[carole]

Some MEN can be so THOUGHTLESS sometimes, it must be very hard when your partner is not quite so much an animal lover as you, GEEZ I would not be talking to him either.

I hope Max is ok and that he does not get away again, poor doggie!!!!

[cali]

oh I know what you mean about men no understanding though, my dad has kicked the dogs, and hit the dogs, and threatend to kill them for digging a hole in the middle of there yard. then of coarse he wonders why they wont come to him when he calls them they arent stupid, I mean really, the number of times my dad losing his temper I stay away from him too

[tikeyas_mom]

I am glad max is alright .

[micki76]

Originally posted by stacwase
My husband just doesn't understand. He doesn't feel the same way as I do about dogs, at all. He acts like they're toys - to enjoy while they're around but not to get too upset about if anything happens to them. If a dog gets out his attitude is "Oh, well - he'll find his way home. If he doesn't we'll get a new one."

He really loves cats, especially kittens, but he doesn't care for dogs.

Sorry, I don't mean to be rude, but I'd have to leave him. My husband shares my love for animals, and if he didn't it just wouldn't work out.

[dukedogsmom]

I think I might have to agree with you, Micki. That's one of the reasons I haven't found anyone else. If they're not really animal lovers like me, they're not good enough.

[carole]

My husband was an animal lover when I met him, thank goodness, however I think I was a bit more so than he, having grown up on a farm, alway's being around animals, (mind you, I learn't some hard thing's on the farm, like how the adorable bobby calves had to go to the meatwork's etc etc), but I have to say my husband adores his kitty-kats, I think living with me for over 12 yrs had rubbed off on him, he is a real softie when it come's down to it,both Ash and Lexie alway's choose to sit on him or near him rather than me, even though I am their prime care-giver sob sob, but yes I could not live with a man who doe's not share my affection for animal's.

Just last night he was telling me one of the girl's at work has two furkids, so I ask what are their colours, names, sex etc OH I DUNNO typical male, never finds anything out!!!!

[shotzi]

hiya - hope you don't mind me butting in - but you said "he" - uhem - are there any pretty lil female pooches out there that he could have fallen for? And is now missing? Just a thought.....

[stacwase]

Well, Shotzi - he's neutered. But whenever he gets out, the first place we check is his little "girlfriends" house down the street. All the neighborhood dogs seem to use her house as a meeting place, so I can usually find him there with her and 2-3 other dogs on the loose. If she's not outside he's a little more difficult to find.

You know - I myself have just learned to love animals over the past few years. My husband has always been nutso for cats, but I never really caught on to animals until Jake was about 3 years old and suddenly he became calm and trainable and sweet. It suddenly hit me, like a ton of bricks, that he had real thoughts and feelings and was a real 'person'! So I have to be somewhat tolerant of my husband's lack of understanding. BUT - knowing they're important to me should be enough to keep him from being irresponsible with them.

Don't you think?

[ramanth]

What a scary experience. I'm glad Max is home safe and I hope he feels better soon.

Hopefully your husband will get the hint.

[shotzi]

ha a social guy! that's cute -
Maybe he is just burnt out from a tough night out!
he's so beautiful - probably a real ladies man - haha look out!

[luckies4me]

Have you tried taking Max in for obedience training? It sounds like he could really benefit from training, and then perhaps they can teach you and your husband how to better control Max, without having to worry about him running away. I do understand how frustrating it could be, but have you thought of it from your husbands perspective? I am sure he must feel pretty awkward not being able to leave the window open for fear that your dog may get loose. I know if it were me, I would tell my boyfriend to get his dog some training, because I should be free to leave the window open as I please, without having to worry about some animal escaping. Just my point of view, and I am sure it would give you more peace of mind!

However, sometimes it is the men that need the training! It sounds like your husband doesn't care, therefor it is up to you to train your dog to be safe, if your husband should leave the window open etc. Perhaps an invisible fence would work well, so that he would not leave the yard even if he did get out? I would hate for something to happen to him.


Glad to hear Max is safe and sound, hopefully he will feel better soon.

[shotzi]

here is my picture of my beloved Niki forever and ever

[stacwase]

Luckies4me, Max definitely could use some obedience - but we live in a very remote area. There's only one place we can go for obedience training, and they're usually booked solid. Their schedule doesn't match mine, unfortunately. So - I'm trying to do everything I can to train him on my own. I got the book Good Dogs, Great Owners. I've been trying techniques from there, and they're working pretty well. In general he's a really good dog. There are just two areas we need work on - his reaction to cats while he's on the leash and his determination to go outside and play at all costs! The other day he actually completed a two-mile walk in a perfect heal, with a loose lead. That was impressive, I think. However we didn't happen to run into any cats!

Bob understands now that there are just some sacrifices we're going to have to make, and being able to leave windows open is one of them. It's inconvenient, but I've made a lot of sacrifices for him, too.

Shotzi - Niki is BEAUTIFUL!