For some reason, this got me a bit upset...

[RockyRoad]

I was just talking to my friend on the phone. It turn out that he asked her out, she didn't ask him. Also, she can't go out with him unless her friends come, so she wants to invite my other friend and her b/f, and me. I may not want to go, I mean who wants to sit alone while your friends are with their b/fs. OK, I'll stop now.

On the bright side, a lot of the guys in my school are jerks with a capital J. (Geeky phrase, I know), and I would hate to go out with them. A lot of them make fun of my favorite teacher because she's Jewish. How cruel. I'm at least glad that my friend (hopefully) found a nice guy that will appreciate her. Those kind of guys are getting rarer and rarer.

[Kfamr]

You're too young anyways, guys are dumb, forget them.

[popcornbird]

I have to admit, I was shocked to read this thread. Britt, you only JUST turned 13. You aren't even in high school! You're a child, and so are those immature girls in your class that are showing off about something they don't have a clue to what it could lead to.

At 13, I never had anything in my mind but animals, my *dream* pet (didn't have one then), computer games, my friends (ALL girls), and nothing else. The thought of boys never even hit my head (not like it has till today). Although most girls have reached puberty by 13, most boys have not. They are still WAY to young and immature for such things. Although its an American and western culture to have boyfriends, that doesn't mean its a good thing. At this age, hormones are raging, and kids would basically do anything without thinking. The thought of girls as young as 13 cuddling with guys disgusts me. Once, children of this age were so innocent and sweet. Today they think they are *grown up* and sadly, do things which are not meant to be for their age. I have never had a boyfriend, never will, and I'm proud of that. God did not make us girls to be *used* by guys according to their wishes, only to be disposed of months or years later. Why get a boyfriend? When you get married, you are old enough to make decisions, and ready to live your life with a lifetime partner and start a family. I will never understand the concept of getting a boyfriend though. Why? Only to satisfy your hormone triggered desires, leading to a most commonly sad result later on. It is sad that this is part of the American culture, and that girls feel singled out and sorry for themselves if they don't have one. God did not make us to be used by men. If women are free, then why should we feel like this when we see other girls doing something. Why do we want to be the same? It doesn't make sense to go out with a guy at such a young age, when your life is supposed to have other priorities. We were not made to go around fooling with people of the opposite sex. A marriage is a life contract. Boyfriends mean nothing. Don't worry about them guys. Those little boys are worthless anyway. They just want to use girls. Forget them. I don't have a single friend with a boyfriend. I just don't hang out with such people. I think I can get off my soapbox now.

Ps. I don't mean any offense. I just believe having boyfriends is senseless and disgusting, especially at such a young age when you are not mature enough to know what you're doing, plus, personally, I believe its immoral to be going out with any guy out of marriage......

[jenluckenbach]

OK, just one more "old lady's" opinion.
1) you are young! Too young to worry about NEVER having had a BF, what? did you expect to start dating at 7 years old?this is a funny, sarcastic remark meant to make you laugh
2) I am the perfect example of someone who did not date early, did not date often, always felt like an unwanted outcast.....BUT.....I am the only person that I know from both high school and college combined that has been able to actually STAY married. I attribute it to learning how to appreciate a relationship, where I think they learned "when the going gets tough...move on to the next person"

I am sure there is more, but one of the most important things to remember is that we know it hurts and we know you can't just automatically stop it from hurting, but we want you to know that it will get better and you will probably end up (in the long run) MUCH better than they are. Besides, we like you the way you are.

[RockyRoad]

PCB, you are so right. God didn't make us all to make out with guys and to be used by them. You have very good points. Thanks for that post.

Thanks for the replies everyone. You all helped me realize that it is nothing to be angry or upset about. Plus, I don't get a broken heart!

[wolfsoul]

I'm glad you're feeling better about this now

Weeell, I'd just like to say that you aren't even close to ugly When I saw some of your pics I was jealous lol Ahhh...You are sooo pretty, and you don't want to go out with someone who can't see that anyways

Trust me though, unless you find yourself emotioanlly stable, not nervous or anxious, or unless you can be truly confident in yourself, you don't even want a bf..Believe me, last year I got asked out by a really popular guy (flirting pays off ) but I wasn't quite ready for someone so above my social status, and I practically broke under the pressure. I couldn't handle it, I was a nervous wreck. Finally I had to dump him.

Also, you would probably be surprised how many guys would go out with a girl who just asked I tried that this year, but the guy wanted to "get to know me better first." (I thought that was a stupid answer, what's a better way to get to know somebody than to go out with them?!)

Anywhos, I don't believe that you are too young at all, 13 is the beginning stage of the teen years! But, if I were you, I'd focus on my pets, and enjoy the time I have left with them One day there will be somebody who notices your passion for them, and will sweep you off your feet!

[Rottieluver45]

Don`t worry! I`m one year older than you and that has happened to me.


Once I went up to this guy and I asked him out,then the girl that HE liked walked by us,he looked at her for a couple seconds then he said no. It was hgorrible But I got over it. Now I don`t ask out guys guys ask me out. I haven`t had a boyfriend for one year and a couple months I`m doing just fine!

BTW: You are NOT AT ALL Ugly!

[captain]

Britt,

I am "older" than you, but I was not allowed to date until I finished high school!! My Dad said NO WAY!!

All my friends had boyfriends, went out, kissing and cuddling, etc. I was not allowed to go out on my own alot (I am an ONLY child), and instead found some other things to entertain me - I was out training (I do a form of Martial Arts), and made so many friends there - Male and female.

Even so, even with all the male friends I had, not one of them EVER asked me out, they always asked my FRIENDS out instead. They thought of me as a great FRIEND. That hurts too - as if they cannot "see" you!

BUT, I still have them as friends, and now have a wonderful husband who loved my personality and not my looks.
Lets face it, my personality will last a hell of a lot longer than my looks !!!

You are still young (YUK, I didn't want to say THAT), and you have so many other interests. Enjoy them, enjoy YOU, and be friends with everyone.

Believe me, one day, someone will notice you for what you ARE, not how many boyfriends you had from age 13!!! You do not need a boyfriend to feel special, or included or important - only YOU can do that (and of cours your parents, and US at Pet Talk!!!)

Hope you feel better

[Cookiebaker]

Hey Britt, glad you're feeling a mite bit better. I didn't have a b/f until I was 20, and in hindsight am so glad that I didn't give myself up until I met that special someone. Yea, it hurt some days, and yea, I felt blue a lot. But it was worth it. So hang in there, and don't worry. You have a *long* ways to go until you can give up. And don't let anyone tell you that you are ugly or anything close to that. You are a beautiful person, and especially on the inside.

[RockyRoad]

Thanks guys.

You're right captain, my personality will last longer than my looks as well.

I'm glad you all don't think I'm ugly either...lol

Thanks again,
Britt

[Miss Meow]

You have probably another 70 or more years of life before you leave this planet, plenty of time to meet boys and have relationship/s No need to cram all your life's experiences into the first 13 years. Girls who go carousing at 13 get called awful things like 'town bike' anyway, and the stigma of that lasts a lot longer than what you're going through now

PS you're a beautiful girl, maybe your friends are envious that you're lovely and don't NEED boys like they do ...

[Karen]

I have met you in person, and can say you aren't ugly. At your age, I wouldn't worry about having a "boyfriend," in fact, I wouldn't ever worry about it. I know, you are a "worrier," aren't you? Like mother like ....

Anyway, there's lots of life ahead of you. Use the ebergy you might spend on a "relationship" to better use - study something you enjoy! You were pretty shy at Pet Talk, PA, but that's okay! Paul was kind of shy when I first met him, and we "outgoing" folks think shy people are a challenge! Work on your own self, smile, build up your confidence, and friends (of any sort) will find you!

(Besides, you don't want to be like a girl in my school, who left school pregnant at 13 ... you want a better future! )

[shellonabeach]

FLS,

Your friends going off with guys over their other grilfriends (including you) are doing themselves no favours. You see at your age and for a lot of our lives even in marriage sometimes boys come and go whereas friends are always there for you. If your friends continually choose boys over their friends one day the boy will dump them and they will find that their friends have moved on and that they are the ones who are left on their own.

I also know when I was at school and we girls had wised up to the fact boys used us because we were pretty, had the biggest boobs, would do this would do that they moved onto the younger girls in the years below. The sad thing was they just used these girls and then dropped them. These girls were then branded "easy" and "slags" (british term) and the boys chose to respect and date the girls who were not "easy" and that they could have more than a physical relationship with.

To date a guy is more than just asking him out and cuddling it is about being friends.

And I know in those groups of boys there is a "loser" boy who has never had a girlf and if he chose someone he liked I'm sure it wouldn't be one of your friends who everyone else had dated before him.

[RubyMutt]

Don't worry about it I didn't date until I was 17 (I'm 19 now and I'm still with that same guy ), and I'm honestly glad I waited. I remember when I was younger - between 13 & 15 - some of my friends had boyfriends. It seemed so weird because their parents would be driving them around on dates... It just seemed so strange to me... Wouldn't that be awkward??? I liked waiting until an age when I could drive myself around, stay out past 9pm, and be able to spend some alone time with my boyfriend. You have your whole life ahead of you! I hope you're feeling better about it, I know, it really can suck being the "third wheel"

[Corinna]

Another advice from a "mom" You have plans for yourself . A boy freind gets in the way, I know I married at 17 thinking I could purse my career of training search dogs. Wrong hubbys things can first. I don't regert my life 25 years of happy and sad times. I now am working on a search dog now for me and for fun.
My daughter has fallen in to the same trap as your friends and now at 21 is tring to get out of a BAD relationship. They started living to geather and buying a house now she wanis out and keep the house . She coesn't make enough to keep it alone.
Just keep your eye on YOUR future and the right person will be there and ready to accept you as yourself. Not what you make yourself to be just for a guy.
Keep your chin up and just have lots of freinds to do different things with.
You are a very pretty girl.