Dad ... he's gone.

[Daisy and Delilah]

Thank you. :'''(

Just spoke to mom. She said her and my brothers were there with him during the treatment but he insisted that they all leave when it was done so they wouldn't see him get sick.
He's got two more, one tomorrow and one on Wednesday then a small break. Does anyone know, if he should need a liver transplant (which he probably will), is it difficult to find a compatible liver? Would us kids need to see if we were a match or is the liver an organ that can be donated by anyone? I feel like that's a stupid question.... like I should know.

Carmen, no questions are stupid questions, as far as I'm concerned.

I'm not a medical person. I'm not sure if the liver can be taken in part from a family member and transplanted. I know we have some medical experts on the board.
I believe the liver will regenerate in certain cases but I would think they would look for a compatible liver from someone that has died and is donating their organs. Not sure though.

I just want to wish all of you the best again. My best friend started chemo last week. She's on a continuous pump system feeding into a pic line. I know a little bit about how you feel too. it's very very hard to remain stoic and be supportive without breaking down yourself. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[Randi]

I'm sending my best wishes that your dad pulls through this. It's hard on you all, but try to enjoy your baby.

(((hugs)))

[slick]

The "C" word is so scary but keep in mind - it doesn't mean a death sentence anymore. They are make great strides in cancer treatment and research. Your Dad will pull through this, I'm sure of it.

Keep a strong and good attitude and repeat after me "It's only a bump in the road." Puck is right - there's no point in spending energy worrying about that which you have no control over. Instead try to find some humour - I don't mean that in an insulting way. Cancer is nothing to laugh at, I know, but keeping a good attitude and sense of humour is the key to recovery.

Prayers on the way from me.

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I will send your dad my good wishes and thoughts.

I know your family is far away (if I remember right they live overseas, right?) but is there anyway you and Laura could visit? Maybe having a date set to go see him will help you manage your feelings of helplessness.

[beeniesmom]

I know your family is far away (if I remember right they live overseas, right?) but is there anyway you and Laura could visit? Maybe having a date set to go see him will help you manage your feelings of helplessness.

Yes, they live in Italy. I am trying to get Laura on my passport. I got her birth certificate and now I am waiting on her SS#. As soon as that is done I can start the paperwork to add her to my passport.... then she needs at least 2 rounds of shots before she can travel (through international airports). Her first shots are Oct. 2nd and then again in November. The soonest I can get over there, if I want to take her with me, which I really want to and need to, is sometime mid-November...

Thank you everyone for your support.

Thank you Slick. I know you are travelling this road... I will try to stay positive... like you said... it's a bump in the road. Your words of encouragement mean a lot to me. When I spoke to dad yesterday, I did try to make a little joke. The place where he is getting his treatment is on the mountain overlooking the gulf of Naples (one of the most beautiful places I know of). I told him that we were all going to be envious of him going to this vacation resort on the mountain...

[kokopup]

Your family and father will be in my thoughts and prayers as he goes forth with his treatment. Being a cancer surviver myself I know that your father's main concern is the wellbeing of his loved ones. He would not want you to fret over his situation and would want you to give your full attention to your Laura. I know you feel helpless and in this case other than praying for his recovery there is nothing that you can do. You be there for Laura and turn the rest over to God.

Bill

[lizbud]

Prayers and good wishes for you Dad's recovery. You both will be
in my prayers.

[ramanth]

Many prayers and healing vibes for him.

My FIL is going through chemo right now too.

[cassiesmom]

Carmen, my heart is with you all. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers every single day. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Me too, me too.

[beeniesmom]

Bad news just got worse...
They had to stop the chemo because his liver couldn't handle it.
Also, they have discovered it's in his lungs and bones as well.
For now, they will start radiation therapy that is the only therapy that might be effective to slow the bones deterioration down.
For now... it looks like he has 6 months.
I am numb.
Got Laura's SS card in the mail yesterday.
I'll be applying for her passport tomorrow.

[pomtzu]

I am so sorry to hear this, but all I can do is offer prayers for your Dad and you and the entire family.
Cancer is probably the most dreaded diagnosis anyone could be dealt - not only for the patient - but for everyone involved. I know it's easier said than done, but please try to be strong, no matter the outcome. You have that little person just starting her life, that needs you.
Unfortunately, I've had to deal with this dreaded disease with family too. My father, grandfather, and 2 uncles all passed away with cancer, and both of my brother have had it too. It never got any easier to accept no matter how many times I had to face it.
Just know that we all have you and your Dad in our thoughts and prayers.

[slick]

Bad news just got worse...
For now... it looks like he has 6 months.
I am numb.

6 months??? The doctors are not God. They really don't know. I know several cancer patients who were told the same thing and that was years ago. Keep the faith!!!

[jennielynn1970]

Healing thoughts and prayers are going out to your father. I hope that the doctors can do something to drastically slow down the cancer cells, and that he will have much longer to live.

My thoughts are with you, Carmen.

[cassiesmom]

More prayers today
and a candle http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/...ng&cid=9190757

[Daisy and Delilah]

I'm so sorry, Carmen. I wish there was something I could do to help you. Try to stay strong for your Dad and Laura. I am constantly praying for all of you. Don't give up. There are miracles every day now for cancer patients. {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}