I've been hiding... Here's my story.

[BC_MoM]

You said you loved him after a WEEK? How is it possible to be in love with someone after a week...?

If your a teenager what are you doing dating a almost 30 year old man anyways?

I hope you don't run into anymore troubles with this guy and learn a good lesson. That seems really scary to go through but like your family said you didn't know and couldn't know.

Why do you always need to be so damn judgmental?

[carole]

I don't think buttercup was being judgemental, she is herself a teenager if i remember rightly and the points she made were valid.,however i agree perhaps her choice of words were a bit harsh,although i am sure megan took no offence, and know's herself what a lucky escape she has had.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

No, I think there was just a misunderstanding.

Just as a note, I don't "love" people easily. It takes a lot to get me to open up to someone. There is NO WAY I would be able to know someone for a week and then tell them I love them. That's stupid. I've known him for a year, I had (what I thought) was reason to say I love you, because (I thought) I knew who he was.

*crosses fingers*

No trial... no trial...

[kimlovescats]

Everything good or bad that happens in our life, is a lesson! I'm sure you've learned to be more careful now and that you won't put yourself in this situation again. Please do not blame yourself, especially for "messing up his life"! HE messed up his own life by being a liar and abuser!

(((((((((((HUGS))))))))))
Kim

[shais_mom]

First off - I'm sorry this happened to you.
2nd.
you are to be commended that you went with your gut instinct and got OUT of there! a lot of girls with low self esteem would think - oh he's the best I can get and I'll just stay with him.
THANK GOD you had the smarts to get out of Dodge!
we all make mistakes but we pick ourselves up and learn from them.
My only hopes are you will soon realize and be happy with yourself. You do not need a man to be happy and that he rots in jail.

[Muddy4paws]

Dont ever think low of yourself, it just gives other people the right to walk all over you. Hold your head up high and you are very pretty I've seen photos of you and that man is a complete fool if he couldn't see that.

I cant say I know how hard this must be for you but if I was you I would stay as far away as possible, for someone to be able to lie to your face like that is a classic example of a very dark person who will continue to twist his lies to make you feel guilty. In his eye he may not of done anything wrong but obviously he did and hes been punished for it. You dont need someone who can blatently lie to you face to face and it might be smaller lies but where would they stop? if you was like me you would be doubting nearly everything in your relationship and its not a foundation to work on at all, In my opinion if you can be lied to and let down then the other person obviously has issues and doesn't take the relationship as serious as you did.

The age gap is even more scary considering hes lied to you and said he was younger, You have known him a year and hes suddenly just sprung this on you? Hes not a very honest or considerate man in my opinion

Is there anyway you can do a video link in court if needed? might be a good idea to look into that.


To be really honest you need to snap out of it, it will be hard but get back down to basics here, would you really want to be with a man who could be old enough to be your dad? a liar and someone with sexual assult history? It sounds to me like hes done this before to another girl and theres a word for people like him who prey on young girls like you. You need to cut all connections with him and I would stand proud in that court room and tell them everything, Hes obviously hasn't learnt his lesson, Would you want another girl to go through what you are going through?

[Barbara]

You say so many bad things about yourself and I am sure a guy like that knows when he meets someone who is insecure and knows how to take advantage of this situation. So it is HIS fault and HIS problem and not yours.
Try to work on your self-confidence. Everyone here knows that you are pretty and that you have many skills- and that is what it's all about. Mr. Right will not be the prince on the white horse but there will be a good guy for you.
(My granny told me when I was thirteen that I would never get a man with the character I had and I believed it- but it turned out not to be soo complicated )

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Thanks everyone. I'm doing much better today, sometimes it just hits me and knocks me to my knees.

Just to add to this-- Remember I mentioned that they were talking about revoking his probation? Well if he FIGHTS the revocation, they will need to go to court. I'd have to be a witness, blah blah blah, I told you all that already.

Well. Sara, his probation officer took the statement from me about two weeks ago, if not more. She told me she would call me in a couple days to tell me how it went and whether or not he was fighting the revocation (which any sane individual would, who would WANT to be sent back to prison?) and just let me know what was going on. She called me the next day to get my address to send me some paperwork.

Okay, that was TWO WEEKS AGO. She NEVER called me to tell me how the revocation went and she NEVER mailed out the "paperwork" I was supposed to get. I called her today, left her a voicemail asking her to please call me because I wanted to know what was going on, but I never got a call back.

I'm pissed off. I don't want to be involved in this crap anymore. She's not even trying to maintain contact with me to let me know what's going on. I'm so frustrated! She wants me to be a witness and all that, but why can't she keep me informed, like she promised?

GRR.

That's all I have to say. =]

[Karen]

She may be busy with other cases as well - think how overworked people in her job often are. I'd call tomorrow morning first thing, if she's not available ask to speak to her boss, ask when she'll be in, and then continue calling every hour until you get to speak to her.