Need to Rant

**critter crazy** · 09-21-2007, 09:01 PM

I would be PO'd as well!! you are definitely not being selfish!! I wouldnt give my camera to my worthless BIL either!!

**I_luv_rusty** · 09-21-2007, 09:19 PM

You aren't being selfish at all. That was rude of him to go ask your husband after you said no, because he probably had known he'd say yes.

I think two cameras is great, since you may want to take a littler one certain places when you don't want to carry a big one. I actual have 3 digital cameras, my brothers,mine, and my old one which is actually being fixed since it broke but I want it as a spare.

**kittycats_delight** · 09-22-2007, 04:42 AM

Thanks you guys. Just to clear some things up he did not take the camera. I took it back from him. Also, hubby feels like he owes his brother for helping him when he was going through the deepest part of his depression. It is kinda like a hold he has on him. Hubby didn't think I would be upset because he had just gotten me the D80. My biggest issue with the whole thing was the fact he did not ask me and that BIL went behind my back after I said no. Last I checked I did not have a child that ran between mommy and daddy when one said no to get the other to say yes. I can understand my hubbys feelings about his brother because he probably wouldn't even be here if it wasn't for him but dam it all his brother is 33 years old and can get his own camera and not have the 'guts' to ask for my anniversary gift.

I am much calmer now and I told hubby under no circumstances is his brother getting my camera. Period.

Thanks for all you support.

((((HUGS))))
Michelle

**moosmom** · 09-22-2007, 10:50 AM

Michelle,

Good for you for speaking up. Your BIL knew what he was doing so don't feel bad. And as far as BIL playing on your hubby's emotions, shame on him.

I'm glad you got your camera back. Let him buy his own.

**krazyaboutkatz** · 09-22-2007, 07:45 PM

Michelle, I would've been very angry too

and I'm so glad that you now have the camera.

I gave my old camera to my parents but I wanted to do this since they didn't have a digital camera.

**crow_noir** · 09-24-2007, 04:25 AM

Sorry i didn't get in here before to comment.

Everyone pretty much covered all the bases though.

I'm so happy you got your camera back.

Maybe it is time to sit hubby down and have a nice chat with him about why you got so upset. Maybe you can prevent him from doing anything like this again.

*hugs*

**kittycats_delight** · 09-24-2007, 05:55 AM

Originally Posted by crow_noir

Sorry i didn't get in here before to comment.

Everyone pretty much covered all the bases though.

I'm so happy you got your camera back.

Maybe it is time to sit hubby down and have a nice chat with him about why you got so upset. Maybe you can prevent him from doing anything like this again.

*hugs*

I did that very thing a few hours after when I calmed down slightly. He still doesn't get it. I don't know if it is the cultural difference or what. But he knows better than to do anything like that again. He said even if he doesn't understand it he will ask first. And if I say no then no it will be.

**mina'smomma** · 09-24-2007, 08:18 AM

Well at least he is admitting to not completely understanding it, but it was a sleazy thing for your bil to do. I'm glad I lucked out with my in-laws. They wouldn't be that selfish. He might not understand how much the one for your anniversary means to you because it was from him. Plus what if the new one breaks down???? You always need a back up camera and what could be better than having the one hubby gave you on such a special day. I'm sure if he thinks about it this way he'll understand. And as far as feeling that he OWES his brother for being there through the depression I hope that wasn't something his brother put in his mind. Family is suppose to be there through thick and thin.

**Pawsitive Thinking** · 09-24-2007, 08:22 AM

Maybe you should point out to hubby in words of one syllable why you got so upset....

I don't think you were being selfish at all. Two cameras must mean twice as many piccies to post

**kitten645** · 09-24-2007, 12:53 PM

I don't understand what's NOT to understand. IT WAS NOT HIS TO GIVE. period. The fact that it was your evil BIL AND that he tried to do it behind your back only adds insult to injury. Even if you never use it, use it as a paperweight, hang it from the ceiling and use it as a pinata...that's your call.