They came and took him! What do I do now? *UPDATE PAGE 5!*

[sumbirdy]

Sweetie, whenever you guys get Nathan back, you can have the "birthday" party the next Saturday. He won't know the difference, and that'll give you something to look forward to!

I've thought of that as well...he won't remember it anyway.

[sumbirdy]

Today my brother, sister-in-law and baby Eli are leaving. I fell in love with Eli and will be sad to see him go. But I know he has great parents who love and take care of him. And that I will see him again.
Tomorrow I'm hoping we will get Nathan back. Pray that that is the way it works out.

[sumbirdy]

My brother Bobby, sister-in-law Dana and baby Eli left at noon. It was really hard to see them go because they made things a little better. It was really hard for dad. When they had to leave, dad and Eli were taking a nap on dads bed. I woke dad up and he carried Eli out to his car seat and we all kissed him goodbye.
They drove from Deleware and had to go down to Texas to see a friend. They said that if we had Nathan when they were driving back up to Deleware then they would stop by to see him. I hope we have Nathan tomorrow. I miss him so much. I don't think I'll ever be able to let him go again. The caseworker said that if Charles is not with her and the baby when they pick her up then they will call us. She isn't going to go hunt for him. So I'm sort of hoping that Charles isn't there. The way Charles has been lately, saying that he isn't involved (how could he not be involved? His wife is deliberatly hurting and saying things about his parents, sister and brother.) anyway, I don't want Nathan with Charles either. I bonded with Nathan like he was my own (which I guess is natural when someone is taking care of a child for almost a year) so of course I want him back here. I want to be able to see him every day. To wake up to him laughing. To go to sleep to the rythm of him breathing. To fill my days with his baby chatter. I miss him unbearably.

[sumbirdy]

Maybe they will pick her up this evening. It would probably be better to do it tomorrow though just in case the other county is late picking her up, so they won't have to let her go. I just wish I could fast forward until this was all over and Nathan was here living with us. The waiting and not knowing is killing me. There's also the chance that if the police show up at her door then she won't answer (she was given instructions not to answer when the people she is staying with aren't home) So maybe if they pick her up tomorrow those people won't be working and will be home and the police will see their van in the driveway and know they're home. I don't know. I just wish I knew what was going to happen. I wish I knew for sure that we would get Nathan back.

[sumbirdy]

Well, still nothing. I guess by now they decided to pick her up tomorrow. (?) The warrant is outstanding so I know she will be picked up before Monday. (Does the police pick up people on Sundays?)

[Craftlady]

Well, still nothing. I guess by now they decided to pick her up tomorrow. (?) The warrant is outstanding so I know she will be picked up before Monday. (Does the police pick up people on Sundays?)

Police pick people up 24/7 - 365 days a year.

[sumbirdy]

Police pick people up 24/7 - 365 days a year.

Well, that's good to know.

[sumbirdy]

Would this help us any?

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm...ndID=130320714

It's Stephanies Myspace page stating that she doesn't want any kids.

[Catty1]

You'd have to show it to your dad, and he would have to check with DSH.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[crow_noir]

Hey, as i was emailing a friend (who's sort of part of a prayer chain) a thought came to me.

Would getting an investigative news source involved help? Sometimes they can be quite persuasive. Either local news, or something like 20/20. Usually these tiny organizations don't like these things going national.

I hate the spotlight and never would have considered this. I've seen it suggested to others in the past and have seen the wonders it can do. I know you said you'd stop at nothing to get him back, so i thought i'd throw this out there. I understand though if you don't want to go this route.

[sumbirdy]

Hey, as i was emailing a friend (who's sort of part of a prayer chain) a thought came to me.

Would getting an investigative news source involved help? Sometimes they can be quite persuasive. Either local news, or something like 20/20. Usually these tiny organizations don't like these things going national.

I hate the spotlight and never would have considered this. I've seen it suggested to others in the past and have seen the wonders it can do. I know you said you'd stop at nothing to get him back, so i thought i'd throw this out there. I understand though if you don't want to go this route.

Hmm...I don't know. I wouldn't even know where to begin on how to do that. I don't even know where our local news station is.

[Craftlady]

All local news stations have websites with email address for the reporters.

[sumbirdy]

Well, here's another update. Nathan has to have tubes put in his ears Oct. 5 at a city that is 240 miles from us and we have to be there at 6 a.m.
His "mother" cancelled his Medicaid and his doctors appointment (but we sorted those things out) It's been about a month and a half and she's called, I think, twice. Once to try to say Charles called begging her to call him back and the second to say she canceled the Medicaid. On the second one dad told her that was ok because he already got it back and she just hung up on him.
I'm dreading this divorce thing because we don't have the money to fight for custody and Legal Aid will only do the custody thing if both parents are in agreement.

Anyway, Nathan is acting more like himself although he is starting to throw a lot of tantrums especially if he doesn't get something he wants. He's walking more every day but he prefers crawling. He still has the occasional nightmare but not nearly as often.
Everybody is at odds with Charles at the moment because he sleeps most of the day and only seems to want to take care of Nathan when its convenient for him (I hate to say it about my brother but he reminds me of Stephanie sometimes) He's trying to twist it all around and says that we "shove Nathan off on him when we don't want to take care of him" That's not true, we always want to take care of Nathan we just basically have to force him to be a dad. All he seems to want to do is make the rules. And then he gets mad when we don't follow them exactly. So I'm pretty ticked at him.

Here's some pics of Nathan

[joycenalex]

i'm glad you posted, i've been thinking of you all. now, off to look at the new pictures

[Catty1]

Oh, dear...maybe your parents will have to sue for custody after all.

Your brother could also have a really bad depression...has he seen a doctor? He's just gotten out of a really abusive situation, and is facing divorce proceedings, and many people with bad depression spend a lot of time in bed, just hiding from the world. Depression like that just takes a person over.

I hope he will see a doctor and see about some counselling.

Hugs and prayers to everyone.