Alcohol abuse! PLEASE help!

**RedHedd** · 06-27-2006, 03:07 PM

Originally Posted by king2005

I'll look into Al-Anon . I can't call it when Shawn is around, so I have to wait until he gets another job. I'll see if they have a website & maybe I can do emails from work.

We're going to AA tonight

Don't wait.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

**Catty1** · 06-27-2006, 07:44 PM

Why can't you call it when Shawn is around?

Hopefully someone at AA tonight will tell you about some local Al-Anon meetings.

There are some AA people who go to Al-Anon also. After all, they married an alcoholic! lol

Just don't get so lost in Shawn's solution that you lose sight of yourself. You are doing fine so far. Just remember you too!

hugs
Catty1

**gini** · 06-27-2006, 10:44 PM

Originally Posted by Catty1

Just don't get so lost in Shawn's solution that you lose sight of yourself. You are doing fine so far. Just remember you too!

hugs
Catty1

This is excellent advice. He MUST do his own work - you cannot do it for him. You can be supportive - but the hard work is his alone.

**zoey** · 06-28-2006, 05:19 AM

King2005, I agree with everyone, especially Catty1, Vela, & Redhedd about Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon!!!!!!!
Great organisations. I atteneded Al-Anon in the past. It was one of the most helpful groups I've ever attended. Also my sister still attends and feels it is invaluable.
The Big Book is also a great resource that A.A. uses.
Here is a link: Big Book
You can read or listen to it online. A little everyday, one day at a time. I wish you and Shawn well!!! Zoey

**Maya & Inka's mommy** · 06-28-2006, 06:30 AM

You are doing a great job here!! Good luck to you and Shawn!!

**king2005** · 06-28-2006, 09:26 AM

I'll update later, I'm too pissed off to talk about this right now. I'll see what happeneds when i go home tonight & then will update tomorrow... Lastnight should have been an eye opener for him

**Pawsitive Thinking** · 06-28-2006, 09:34 AM

Originally Posted by king2005

No its not me.

Its my boyfriend

I knew he had a problem, so I kept picking at him, but hes very stuborn so I could only pick so far. I then started telling him how I feared he was going to turn into his father & I was going to end up like his mother, alone & hurt.

Well that worked. Saddly hes drunk right now, but he realized what he had done. He skipped work to drink

So he popped onto MSN (I'm at work) & told me everything. Hes been drinking in the mornings when I wasn't around & he called in sick last week

... I know hes going to loose this job.

He asked me for help & I said I'm taking him to an AA meeting tomorrow night (its a block from my house, every Tuesday at 8:30pm) & tonight I'm bringing him to the clinic..

CRAP gonna miss my bus, will post more

He's on the right road to recovery - has admitted he has a problem which is the biggest step to take. Good luck to you both

**Catty1** · 06-29-2006, 07:45 AM

Jess - I would guess you had expectations of how he would react at the meeting.

HOPE is one thing - EXPECTATIONS can be killers. We all do it - have a little script of expectations in our minds. "He/She/They should..."

You can carry the message but not the body. He knows what he has to do.

Get yourself to Al-Anon; you can't have him and his situation renting space in your head. And you'll be better help to him and others if you get support for YOURSELF.

hugs
Catty1

**king2005** · 06-29-2006, 03:34 PM

I'm giving up.

I don't want to go into details here, but tonight is more then likely gonna be the end. I'm already talking to someone & they do agree with me & I have 2 friends who also agree. I know you guys have no idea whats going on, but I'm not in the mood to type it out in public.

god I feel like crap, but I come first.

**caseysmom** · 06-29-2006, 03:40 PM

Jess, I am glad you are thinking of yourself. You just got out of a traumatic experience with Rob, this seems like it is going too fast. I don't mean to butt in but I think you should have some fun and go slow.

**king2005** · 06-29-2006, 03:44 PM

Originally Posted by caseysmom

Jess, I am glad you are thinking of yourself. You just got out of a traumatic experience with Rob, this seems like it is going too fast. I don't mean to butt in but I think you should have some fun and go slow.

As in screw the dating world? Way ahead of ya.. I've already given up on that & I'm sick of this BS.. Mr. Right will just have to bump into me one of these days, as I ain't looking for him anymore!

Being single was kinda fun anyways. I also have a friend here in the city now, so its not nearly as bad. Sure it take me 2hrs to bus to her house *brain go off & brain dead drooling begins* but hey, I have a friend!

**caseysmom** · 06-29-2006, 03:54 PM

Yeah you know when you are least expecting it someone great will come along.

**king2005** · 06-29-2006, 05:23 PM

Originally Posted by caseysmom

Yeah you know when you are least expecting it someone great will come along.

He better, as I ain't getting any younger lol

ok so that line doesn't quite work on me yet lol

**Catty1** · 06-29-2006, 05:33 PM

Pardon the language - but here is something I heard from an Al-Anon speaker at last year's AA Roundup:

"It's hard to see the light when your head is stuck up the alcoholic's ass."

Catty1

Welcome back to the sunshine!

**king2005** · 06-29-2006, 06:18 PM

Originally Posted by Catty1

Pardon the language - but here is something I heard from an Al-Anon speaker at last year's AA Roundup:

"It's hard to see the light when your head is stuck up the alcoholic's ass."

Catty1

Welcome back to the sunshine!

Note to self, don't read posts on pt while trying to drink pop.. It makes a sticky mess lol