May I please ask for your prayers and thoughts

[momoffuzzyfaces]

{{{HUGS AND PRAYERS}}} from me too!

[Rachel]

Jess, I am so sorry. Please don't let this break your spirit. You are a wonderfully caring, capable and talented person. No, I don't know you personally but these characteristics have become so evident in your posts, I cannot help but state them. You must retain faith in the fact that you are worthy of love, affection, and respect as a partner. Of course you are shattered to have your husband not feel that he has in you a soulmate, and I realize that today is a day to grieve that loss. But as you do, please remember that life is still good and one day you will know your place in the new scheme of things and be happy again.

[K9soul]

Your words, thoughts and prayers mean more to me than I can put into words. They truly do.. they give me strength and comfort, they make me feel less alone.

Dorothy, this is not a mutual decision, it is his. I have done all I could to try and stick things through, to make things better. It's not about finances, or any of those things. We don't fight, we get along fine. He just does not love me anymore. That's the long and short of it. He's lost his feeling for me. It's a pain beyond any describing, a loss that leaves me reeling with fears and insecurities and self doubt. My mind flooded with memories of all we've been through, all the laughter and tears together.. As a good friend said to me, it's really just more than I can wrap my mind around right now. I have faith there will be light at the end, but for now, I am in the darkest part of this tunnel.

[Sevaede]

*****HUGS***** I am so, so sorry that you have to go through something like this. I have never been divorced but I am married so I can only fathom what you are going through. Please, even though I don't know very many people on here, PM me if you need anything.

[wolfsoul]

Oh my gosh, I am so shocked. I remember you were having some problems, but I was hoping it wouldn't come to this. I am so sorry Jess, I can't even believe it, I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now. Keep your chin up, keep hoping, and remember that you are a great person with so much to offer and you will get through this. One day this will all be behind you, with or without your husband. You can make it.

Hugs

Jordan

[Dorothy39]

The reply submitted by Dan, (Bobs Dad) and,Catty 1 are astounding.

Again, I don't know the story, the history of your relationship.

re-read Bob's Dad reply, it is remarkable, so much like something Erma Bombeck might have posted if she were still alive.

Your husband is so lost. I don't even know your story . I feel as though you are grieving what "might " have been with this person., and with this Marriage. He was not ready for the vows of MARRIAGE". I take these vows very seriously!! I am so lucky indeed to have fallen in love with a person who can and always LOVES me back!!! I am so sorry that you are not as fortunate. I wish I knew what to type . Just re-read BobsDad message. Print it out. I am so lucky to still be so much in love with the boyfriend that I had as a teenager. I wish you could feel this feeling!!!!!!! I wish your husband could too!!!Because, he will never find another YOU!!!

God Bless You Dear!!!!

[Samantha Puppy]

Oh Jess, I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know what else to tell you besides how sorry I am and that if you need to vent, I'm here.

Hugs to you.

[carole]

Oh dear Jess my heart goes out to you right now , i can only imagine the pain you feel and heartache, i wish there was something i could say or do to make you feel better, just know you have a ton of support and love right here on PT, but i know that does not help where you are right now.,maybe your hubby just needs some time out, a separation for a while to sort out his true feelings, he may well think he is no longer in love, but until he looses what he thinks he has, he might feel differently, i don't know him , so i am only hoping this might be the situation, the old saying" you never realise what you had until you lost it comes to mind",sweetie i am so sorry for your pain, and send you a big hug,and i really hope you can get through all of this, somehow.

[Alysser]

Of course, you may. Prayers and thoughts on the way for you.(((HUGS))) and prayers on the way for you, Jess.

[Logan]

You've already heard from me and you know I'm right here for you, Jess.

Anytime, anything.........all you have to do is ask.

I've been through this, in a different way, but I've been through it.

Love,
Logan

[dukedogsmom]

I know this must be impossibly hard for you to bear. I know how much you've struggled with this. Please don't let it tear you down. I'm going to call you but will wait until tomorrow as it's a little late for most people now. I hope you still have my number. Call me tonight if you need to. I'll be up until around 11. I've had a broken heart before but I know it's nothing like what you're feeling, as my marriages were never happy ones. Let us all be strong for you and you can get through this, ok? Hug Tasha and Tommy and let them catch your tears.

[Karen]

Certainly, you will be in my prayers, Jess. Know, sweetie, that you are loved. That you are treasured. And not just by the furred, feathered and finned ones, but by we skin-folks as well.

[Cataholic]

I am sorry that it has come to this. The fear of the future must be scary to you, and right now, unfathomable. While I have never been married, I can understand the pain of rejection, and, the loss of control, which for me was the worst part. My prayers to you.

[popcornbird]

Jessica, my heart hurts so badly for you. I cannot even begin to imagine your pain, and cannot quite understand why anyone would divorce on such basis, after sharing so many years of life together. I know you are hurting deeply, and wish I could somehow take the pain away. You are such a sincere and wonderful person. I know that one day, your husband will have all the memories of his sweet wife flash in his mind, and he will deeply regret his decision.

I can only hope and pray that God changes his heart before any action is taken, and that his love for you is restored, and he takes back his word and decision. I can't understand how he could just go on with this when there were no fights, no arguments, no problems. I can't understand how seeing the pain in your eyes wouldn't make his heart hurt. How could love just dissolve for no reason? I can't understand. Love takes work. Sure the beginning of love is full of uncontrollable sparks, but in the long run, when you live together, spend time together, get on with daily life and the stress of life together, those strong sparks fade...partially because when we have something for long, we take it forgranted...and partially because of work stress, financial stress, hormone changes, etc. Marriage takes work. Love takes work. A change of feelings just doesn't seem like a right reason to end a marriage to me. Of course none of us can know the whole story. I wish your husband was willing to work through this, as I know you have tried and wished for. You are in my prayers, Jess. May God fill your heart with inner peace, contentment, love, and as hard as it is to see right now, may He soon show you light at the end of this dark, scary tunnel.

[Jadapit]

I'm so very sorry that you are going through this. It must be so very hard. I read once that going through a divorce is like a death you even go through the grieving process. I imagine that is true. I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better. Know, you are in my thoughts and prayers. (((Hugs)))