Look, Dylan is fine OK. Sheesh. As I said Dan and I split custody. When he wants to go out (and believe me, he does a lot) he has either I or a babysitter watch him. Is that bad? Not at all, as long as he isn't doing it every night. We all need our own social time, and believe me, if we didn't Dylan would not be happy. He has a great family support system. I don't see how each of the parents "moving on" is having bad effects on Dylan. He is a bright, loving child. He's in daycare right now while Dan works. He has a routine that he's comfortable with, and I see him as much as I can. As soon as I move (on the first of next month) Dan and I will be taking turns caring for Dylan. I will have him one week, and Dan the next. etc etc etc.

I don't go out everynight. Maybe twice a week at the most, and I am allowed that freedom because we split custody. If I had Dylan full time of course I wouldn't have the time. I'd be lucky enough to get out once a month, but Dan and I are helping eachother, taking the load off and keeping the stress levels down. I've seen what stress overload does to a child, and believe me, sometimes Dan NEEDS a break! I was talking to Moosmom online the other day about a circumstance regarding a toy I had purchased for Dylan at Toys R Us. Dylan can get frustrated easily with toys, as most children do. It was one of those wooden toys that you hammer pegs. He kept getting frustrated and saying (in such a cute voice mind you ) "Mommy, I can't do it. I can't do it". I told him he could do it, he just needed to try harder and focus on what the goal of the toy was. Now Dan on the other hand was getting frustrated and told Dylan he would take the toy away if he kept whining. He didn't offer encouragement. So I worked with him for about 20 minutes and he got the hang of it. You should have seen the smile on his face!!! "I did it mom, I did it!" was what he said. Then after that he was fine. He just needed a little encouragement. Now, obviously Dan was stressed that day and needed a break. It was good I was there at that time. I am there for my child when he needs me. I love him bunches!

He's my child and I will always do what I see fit to make him as happy as possible. He still has both of his parents, whom love him very much.