Do you think this is cruel?

[carole]

Yep she needs to learn some parenting skills, she is acting out of anger and pure fustration I think, and Jods you raise good points I never even gave a thought, the choking issue, one good reason to stop this form of discipline immediately.

I think Tonya giving her the books will be an excellent idea, then she can learn there are indeed other ways of getting your child to behave.

I am glad you agree with me about using your hand only, a hand can not do much damage, it can sting a little but that is about all, it still can get the message across if that is your preferred way of discipling your child.

I can honestly say I spanked my son more than my daughter, I was raising him alone, my parents influenced the way I disciplined him, and I regret it, I never went overboard, but I have since learned far better ways of discipling my child.

I am also grateful I sought alternative advice and learned to discipline my son differently as well, and neither of them have turned out to be ratbags, so the old cliche I was spanked and it did me no harm, can be used well I was never spanked and it did me no harm.

If I had raising my children to do all over again, I would never spank them at all.

BTW in NZ it may become against the law to spank your child, they are trying to bring this in, I am not sure I agree 100 per cent, it seems to be taking away the rights of the parents, but we do have to consider the rights of the child, maybe making it law will save some childrens lives who knows, I have mixed feelings on this one, but as I am a law abiding citizen I would respect it, if it became law and not spank.